MSE Parents Club Part 10

jillie1974

beccles ((((hugs))))

i really think you need to sit down with your OH and spell it out to him how you are feeling and what you need him to do.

could you do a rota for the older ones to help more around the house (apols if they do this already)

jillie1974

workinmummy wrote: »

Having this problem too Jillie. Calpol and Nurofen go down fine, but anti-biotics being spat back. I lie Alex down, support his neck and squirt some down the back of his throat. Results in lots of gagging and choking and bad mummy moment :eek:, but most of it seems to be going down and it stops him from spitting it back out.

Edit: Oh much more sensible answer provided by elle. Will retreat to bad mummy corner by myself

he took the anti-colic stuff no prob from the syringe, but now he wont even take calpol...

am definitely trying the bottle next time. thought it might be cos its a brand new taste (smells of banana) so he's not had it before.

aless02

Yay Poppie! Remind me not to cross Tara the wrong way ever

just catching up as we went to the GP for our 6 week check thingee (totally useless except to get new weight). Hope all the poorly babies get better; I'm not looking forward to our jabs in a couple of wks.

searching_me

becs and bm ((hugs)) .. you make me so glad i have philip he helps me with just about everything (i say that as i sometimes tell him to sit down as hes not doing it right) .. but i only work pt and we share the responiblities so i dont understand these men plus im not the kinda woman to take it .. if they wanna mess about and want it there way then they can pull there finger out and do it themselves .. sorry off on a rant but some men p!ss me off ..

i'll share my thorntons with you both if you like? x

csh_2

aless02 wrote: »

Yay Poppie! Remind me not to cross Tara the wrong way ever

just catching up as we went to the GP for our 6 week check thingee (totally useless except to get new weight). Hope all the poorly babies get better; I'm not looking forward to our jabs in a couple of wks.

Did the doc not listen to his chest/heart and pull him all about to check reflexes and stuff? They are supposed to check hips and eyes at 6 wk check too. Did they not do a checklist and put a copy in your red book?

SugarSpun

Becles wrote: »

I'll ask but he doesn't like doing housework and stuff with him working full time so I can't rely on that happening.

But, lovely, you're working more hours than he is and taking care of everything at the same time. It's difficult when people are so used to the way things are but I do worry that the amount of stuff you're juggling is getting on top of you.

What if you sat him down with the key dates, asked him if he'd take care of bedtime and stuff on the few days before each date and then hired a cleaner once before each of those days too? Do you know anyone with an exploitable teenager who'd like to earn a cheeky tenner, perhaps?

If you really don't want to ask him to do more stuff then maybe we could all help you with some careful planning? Batch cook some freezer meals for the hectic days so you just have to pull, heat and serve? Get some DVDs for the kids to watch quietly/games/projects they can all do while you work? I don't know what would work for you so I'm not sure what to suggest, but I'd hate to see you lose the two years' + work so far.

Edit: I don't want to criticise him, and it isn't my intention, but if he can't or won't be able to support you in the householdy stuff then it's probably time to start thinking laterally for short-term solutions and planning on the glorious stuff you'll be able to do when you're not bogged down with coursework
My OH can be appallingly lazy and I sometimes get to the very end of my rope and start shouting (mostly about mess and not keeping things tidy, which makes me extremely ). But if I give him a job to do as I notice myself getting to the angry stage then he'll do it and I simmer down a bit. Yesterday, after two nights of unbroken sleep, he complained about being tired ... so I yelled at him. And then I took myself off to sleep on the sofa and he brought Molly for her feeds and shushed her when she was just complainy. We both work fulltime even though we both spend a lot of our working life at home. It's a matter of basic respect for the job the other does, and if your OH doesn't see your job as a real one, rather than being angry about it it's more productive to find ways around it.

redmel1621

Back from school run - Was lovely to meet the ladies and babies today:D Thank you 3:A

I am going to be busy trying to list on eBay as I want to raise as much as possible as fast as possible.....I have found my double on a website and it is a really good price, only problem is I don't have the money for another 2mths, doubt it will still be there by then!!! So need to raise as much as possible....as I doubt any of the grandparents will either have the money or if they do, be willing to buy it for me until I get the money I am waiting for.

Buttonmoons

I'll need to pass on the thortons SM, I just scoffed a galaxy and mars bar egg .....

I'm going into town tonight for drinkypoos, with a mum from the nursery So glad I'm making friends. She's going through a rough time at the moment with her OH, soo think it's a case of her drowning her sorrows a bit. Should be about 20 chicks out.... BEWARE!!

Beccles - It's entirely frustrating with the lazyness OH does, and fair enough I know HE works and I don't, hence why I do 95% of everything, all I expect him to do is put his washing in the basket, plate in the sink etc. He doesn't actually have to do ANY chores. There is a pile of clothes in our bedroom he said he'd help me put away about a week ago, still there!

When his playstation broke again, I told him he could call and deal with it because Im sick of doing everything and he went in a mood, then went and done the dishes, so I would do it for him, he hates talking on the phone.

Fair enough *I* don't work, but that's mainly because 1) Don't need too 2) Can't afford childcare and 3) I can only work nights and I'm not experienced, so waiting for the right thing. I will get a job, when I find one that fits the hours I can do, so probably bar work!

I make sure all the bills are paid, all the food is bought in, meals are cooked, washing is done, clothes are put away (mostly lol) Keira is cared for, dishes etc etc etc. According to him, its easy as with the bills you just set up a direct debit and leave it.

But what if they take money out before your paid etc, he doesn't think of this sort of stuff even though we would probably have the money in the bank to cover that sort of thing happening, it' not the point! If I wasn't watching the bills and amounts, then Specsavers would still be ripping me off £20 a month.

I admit 100% I am lazy, and lack motivation, especially with chores. I will find 10 thousand reasons not to do the dishes, if the sun comes out, then me and Keira will go to the park. CBA with washing plates!

I think your OH really doesn't realise how much you do. I agree with SS, you need to talk to him. Make him live your day and see if it's "Easy" and sitting on your butt!

Think it will just be sausages + mash + fried onions tonight, as I can't be bothered cooking anything complex.

jillie1974

glad you had a good time mel!

jillie1974

wonder how MOTM is??
he's not posted for a while