MSE Parents Club Part 10

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Mel - hope all goes well for you today.


Glam - I want to shake you and hug you all at the same time. Please, please, please don't let words on a screen change your view of what you do in the flesh. Jack is a gorgeous little boy who is so contented and happy that even when you said he was being a grump the other day still gurgled and chatted at me whilst I cuddled him and even when Benjamin and I did our best to wake him just looked at us and went back to sleep. Why on earth would you let somebody else tell you that you are not doing the best for your child? My eyes and my arms tell me different. xx

angelfairy wrote: »

mfd - i'm sure i saw a post saying hubby is coming home but now i cant find it (confused smiley) and the neg test (you okay?) what happened with your tickets?

still trouble with sleep in the AF household, but i am struggling on, although i have been letting her come in with me early hours as getting up 5 or 6 times a night is doing in me in. must get strong again though.

Hiya AF - hubby is indeed home and has invited his mother round this afternoon *rolleyes* which I am not happy about because I am supposed to be working from home today (and I am doing 2 jobs atm). Will use the time to pop to the shops I think (is difficult when hubby can't do anything with Benjamin).

Fine about the test. Not bothered at all in fact, dunno how my not botheredness makes me feel *shrugs shoulders*

I only got 4 hours too so a bit tetchy.



Susan - can I ask that maybe you might remove the bit about 'maybe formula isn't as good a breastmilk' from your post. In the current situation even I don't want to hear Breast is Best any more and I BF. Not meant as a criticism but maybe we should all be a little more conscious of how others feel and may take our posts... Hope you don't mind....it may be related to the tetchiness noted above

sparkle03

Hello Lovely Ladies, (whoops sorry and men)

I havnt a chance of catching up, hope your all well.... I dont suppose somebody would be kind enough to update me on about a weeks worth of news?

Oh Sami, 3 and Glam and anyone else who is going can I come on Friday pretty please? Ill be on my best behaviour

sparkle03

elle_gee wrote: »

Oh, question OH asked me yesterday.. Why when you're making up formula should you (according to the tin) use water only boiled once? *confused* What does it do to it when you boil it twice? :cool:

I think its something to do with oxygen in the water But I might be making that up???

sparkle03

Claire so sorry to read about your Nan, hope things turn out ok. Congrat on the job too xx

Mel hope the scan goes well, Im sooo jealous. Would love another baby right now!

searching_me

why will my child only nap if hes cuddled up with me??? .. although mummy cuddles are great x

3onitsway

sparkle03 wrote: »

I havnt a chance of catching up, hope your all well.... I dont suppose somebody would be kind enough to update me on about a weeks worth of news?

Oh Sami, 3 and Glam and anyone else who is going can I come on Friday pretty please? Ill be on my best behaviour

I was looking for you last night to see if you were coming on Friday. Mel might be coming too so you can stare enviously at her bump.

A weeks worth of news!

Tara is a Nanny earlier than expected, DGD Poppie has had her operation and is being a strong baby girl.
Mr MFD has been in hospital but is home now. :)
Mr SS is in hospital.
MM has gone back to work.

Ermmm - there must be lots more, someone help!

Krystaltips

Elle, I think re-boiling the kettle concentrates something in the water... You should only boil once for making cups of tea too, which is another reason to only fill the kettle with as much as you need...

I've done nothing today... Not even dressed yet! Need to get my backside in gear, my brother and his wife are coming over today...

jillie1974

Glamazon wrote: »

I have spent hours deliberating on whether to post this or not but I think I need to for two reasons - to explain my crabbiness yesterday and also to get it off my chest. I was crying at 3am this morning and I'm getting upset even writing this little bit! I am a very strong person who rarely gets upset over things - I've only cried twice since having Jack and once was OH's fault. I didn't think it affected me that much but considering I've thought of nothing else since Sunday and the tears rolling down my face right now show that it obviously has affected me.

Thanks to the delightful 'other' thread I now feel like a bag of !!!!!!. I cried at 3am because I was giving Jack a bottle of formula something I've been doing for months. It never really bothered me before as I knew I was doing what I had to do but due to the comments made and the stupid website links that I clicked on I know feel like I shouldn't have had my surgery, that I was selfish for putting my own needs before those of any children I might decide to have in the future and that I am now a bad mum because what I feed my child is inferior. I can't get that word out of my head 'inferior'

Feelie - I know you were hurt and upset by what Em wrote but you don't realise how much you have hurt and upset ME by your constant 'any one can BF with the right help' attitude. I couldn't BF and am upset by it so I can't begin to wonder how upset those people are that could BF initially and then stopped.

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything I just wanted to get it off my chest otherwise it will keep rolling around and around in my head.

Right, my crying has now woken my little man up so I better get him dressed

oh glam, i dunno what to say ((((hugs))))) please please please try and ignore what was posted. Jack is a credit to you.

i was extremely angry yesterday about what was posted regarding the whole bf/ff debate. i typed up a quite strongly worded post but didnt post it..maybe i should have
none of us should be feeling guilty at all for using formula.
its great that people fing BF a breeze or after a bit of a struggle but we dont need that shoved in our faces all the time.
just because you b/fed doesnt mean you are any better a parent than those of us who didnt. even people who were b/fed turn into horrible people.

people need to remember that not all of us wanted to use formula but unfortunately due to medical reasons had to!

i'm sure Kian would rather have his mummy than no mummy because she wanted to breastfeed so much she didnt take her medication.

feelinggood_2

jillie1974 wrote: »

oh glam, i dunno what to say ((((hugs))))) please please please try and ignore what was posted. Jack is a credit to you.

i was extremely angry yesterday about what was posted regarding the whole bf/ff debate. i typed up a quite strongly worded post but didnt post it..maybe i should have
none of us should be feeling guilty at all for using formula.
its great that people fing BF a breeze or after a bit of a struggle but we dont need that shoved in our faces all the time.
just because you b/fed doesnt mean you are any better a parent than those of us who didnt. even people who were b/fed turn into horrible people.

people need to remember that not all of us wanted to use formula but unfortunately due to medical reasons had to!

i'm sure Kian would rather have his mummy than no mummy because she wanted to breastfeed so much she didnt take her medication.

Absolutely agree and very well put.

jillie1974

there are micro-organisms in water that when it is cooled down after being boiled multiply so if use re-boil water and use it you introduce these to the milk.

also powder isnt sterile.