Trying for a Baby part 5....

**confuzzled**

gizmodo wrote: »

A bit of history then
Was a late starter and DTD the first time when I was about 21. There was a lot of blood and not a very supportive boyfriend who was more worried about the stain on the mattress.
After that experience I couldn't do it again. It was painful and emotional.
Met my H2B and still had the same problems. Had my first smear at 25 and the lady said my hole was quite small and referred me to a doc. I had Fentons procedure which means they cut the opening a bit to make it bigger.
After that I was able to get him inside but only an inch, if not less.
We tried on and off until last year I had my 2nd smear which was excruciating and I broke down to my docs saying how can we ever have a baby if I can;t even DTD.
She referred me to a Sexual Psycho Therapist who I've been seeing since Oct/Nov I think. Only had 3 meetings with her but it's changed my life.
I'm using dilators at the moment to 'train' myself. It's going well. About a month ago I got him all the way in, and this month we've finally BD for real

I guess now it's just practice that I need. I still have another session with the therapist - can't wait to tell her the good news. But hopefully she can still give me more advice on making this easier.

Oh hun, how awful for you:( I've got a friend who had a similar problem except that it as her bum that wouldn't expand so as a baby when she got to solids it was hell on earth...she can even remember the pain as she didn't get the op to fix it til she was about 7:eek:She had to use dilators, still does every few weeks just to make sure shes still ok.
Thanks for sharing and I'm sure you're not alone..unfortunately. Oh and your ex is a fricking knob...you're well out of there:)

oliviasmummy

Gizmodo- Yeah I did know that but only cos my mum told me.!! You would think they would put it on the letter. I was hoping I could ahve got in as AF was due on the 5th so the back end of this week would have been great. Obviously not now as AF not arrived yet and sods law would have been it came this week if I had got an appointment. Im so worked up about this, You wouldnt think Id had a baby lol. I just wish they could give you a DIY kit and get hubby to do it. So much easier and less traumatic/embarrassing.

lilian1977

@gizmodo - you poor thing, that sounds painful, it's great that you're getting some help though. And what a supportive OH you must have, he sounds wonderful! My issue is that I climax too quickly and then become sore - it's probably a compliment to my OH but it's hard to tell him to just get on with it!

Anyway, OPK today was negative on CD12. Just got a book out of the library about preparing to become pg so will read that on the train home after work. Have switched my Cod Liver Oil tablets to Fish Oil tablets as I read Cod Liver Oil can have too much vitamin A -but is this only when pg?

dustystar02

just popping in to say hello while boss is in a meeting, taking advantage and having a skive. skimmed posts, will read properly tonight and give you all my pearls of wisdom.


Me and OH have made up, well actually he came home this morning as if nothing had happened. And we've decided to book another holiday, this one going to New York and Miami for New Years Eve which we've always wanted to do. Eek, am I tempting fate? may we have a bambine en route by then? Feeling if we don;t do it now we will never do it is we are blessed with a lttle one. Someone tell me I am not a horrible selfish person spending all that money on a holiday when there's a chance I may be PG by then........xxx

Will catch up properly later. Love to all...xx

Metranil_Vavin

Aww Giz you poor love..sounds horrendous, I agree with Lilian though, your OH sounds fantastic and supportive ..I also heartily agree with Fuzz that your ex sounds like a total knob!

I'm having a boring afternoon at work so have been trying to work out (guesstimate really!) when I may ov again and so when would be a good time to BD. By my calculations, if the MC hasn't totally mucked up my cycle, AF should be due next weekend, so I should ov beginning of March....soooo...DTD around March 2nd/3rd may work.

I'll certainly be cracking open the OPK's around then anyway!!

Just need AF to show up to the party so I can be a bit more accurate!

Perdi

To follow on from gizmodo's post.
I have vaginismus - involuntary tightening of the muscles when attempting penetration.
OH is my only partner, after the first couple of times were really painful for me, I started to avoid it, and took us about 4/5 years until we managed to have sex again.

I was seeing a psychosexual counsellor, but for various reasons it didn't work for me, so I've been mostly self-treating, also with dilators. My problems in part stemmed from various undiagnosed allergies (rubber/plastic - oh the irony of trying to practise safe sex) and conditions (eczema, recurring thrush, among others).

From hearing gizmodo's and other's stories I know I was very lucky in getting understanding health professionals when I finally addressed it.

I guess I'm a positive outcome, though it might not feel like it at times, it's been a long bumpy road. It's gotten even better since coming off the pill. There's still initial pain but I'm no longer sore afterwards and enjoying myself so much that OH can't keep up! It's safe to say at the moment I'm pretty elated as it feels like I've just passed another stage in my journey

It's always a struggle to keep on top of it, and I am aware giving birth can cause setbacks, but for me it's a risk worth taking.

tinkwings

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tinkwings

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