Sterilisation- any age limit for private?

Rebekah24

So I have been to my GP about contraception options

have had a terrible time with the implanon, having this out next week due to constant morning sickness

I have been on hormone treatment and every contraceptive under the sun since I was 2 years old(precocious puberty), I really dont want anymore hormones pumped in me!!

He has said they wont look at sterlising under 30

Can you pay for it before this age??? Oh dosent want the snip...so really would like to read up on this

Can anyone shed any light for us??

Thanks in advance

Person_one

Are you married to your OH? Is he as sure as you are that he doesn't want children? If he is then maybe he needs to read up on vasectomy. Its a far far less invasive and risky procedure than sterilisation is for women and is even potentially reversible.

Are barrier methods not an option for now if you can't find anyone to sterilise you?

Paparika

Condoms?

Sterilisation is extreme and final ( i know it can be reversed),

lolly1981

my sister was sterilised at 26...however she does have 2 boys already...her reasons where she didnt want anymore and her eldest was 9lb 15 and shes only a size 10 and 5ft 2! so she w=didnt want to risk getting pegnant again and having a monster baby

she did have to really push for it tho...it took a lot of cnvincing

ETA that was done on the NHS too

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

When I worked in a gynae clinic, there were quite a few people who demanded sterilisations in their twenties. To a woman, they all said that it was because they never wanted any more children, contraception wasn't working for them and the partner couldn't go through a vasectomy.

Some had partners with a serious inheritable genetic condition, some controlling partners (and mothers, quite often), some were worn out by traumatic pregnancies, some insisted on sterilisation at the same time as a section or termination.

And to a woman, all were back within 5 years. The partner had gone off with someone else to have more children, they had a new man (who was lovely) and they desperately needed to give him a child of his own.

It probably seemed like the answer to their problems at the time. But the problems didn't appear to be their fertility, but difficulty coping with men unprepared/unwilling to take responsibility/secretly thinking 'but I might get a chance to leave you and have children with someone else - if I get 'done' that means I'm settling for you).


I would imagine that some of them got the money together for private IVF in the end, but there weren't any reversals done under my PCT.

However, you asked for information, so as you have been told by your GP basically, not to bother, you could try this -

Perhaps you could be referred to a specialist to discuss management of hormones, rather than just sterilisation? That way, you don't meet an instant brick wall - and you are less likely to left as a low priority referral. And if it appears that sterilisation is in fact the best option, the fact that you have considered other avenues (as evidenced by being referred for hormones, not permanent contraception), adds to the case for funding the procedure?

Treacly

I was sterilised (on the NHS) at 30 and didn't have to push particularly hard. My surgeon told me that the only women who ever asked for reversals were ones who had had children before their sterilisation and who then remarried and wanted more. People like me who knew they never wanted children just sent him a Thank You card every year and were perfectly happy!

Mupette

I got sterilised, but only when i was about 34, i had one child and had difficulty with down there, my blood type means that most pregnancies would not work.. and i personally felt that one child was enough, i didn't want several children that i know i would not be able to cope with including financially, i had recently been divorced and i wanted to concentrate on being a mother to the child i already had.

did i regret... yes and no, yes as my heart will always tell me i want another child, my head says no, the world is over populated as it is, i have one ds and to go on to have another would be selfish for me as i could not be able to financially be stable for another.

There are some women out there that make me mad, half a dozen children, several different dads, she's then on her own with them on benefits, and she has no respect for her kids, you know the one who screams foul mouth abuse at her children.


OP think long and hard about sterilisation, you may think this is the only answer right now, but i think you need to see someone about why your body is rejecting the hormonal pills, etc. It is final, and a lot of women regret it later on.
Its true men won't do it and we are soft when they say that, we think we understand that it takes away their manhood, it's rubbish, its just a final commitment for a male to make, and most are not prepared to do so.

ceridwen

www.mariestopes.org.uk/

- no unreasonable age restrictions

- no wait (certainly not likely to be any more than a week or two I would imagine)

- no argument

Just pay the bill and "done and dusted". Cost - think its about £1,000 for women currently.

Pollycat

If your doctor is adamant, then I agree with Ceridwen re the Marie Stopes clinics.

This sounds strange to me:

He has said they wont look at sterlising under 30

They? Who are 'they'?
I find it hard to believe that there is an age embargo on sterilisation in your NHS area.
I think this is maybe your GP's opinion.

To be honest, your post doesn't come across to me as being definite about not wanting children.

You don't say 'I don't want children, I've never wanted children, I'll never want children, if me and my OH split up and I meet a fab man who wants children, I'll STILL never want children'.

In fact, you've not mentioned children at all, just the problems you're having with contraception.
Could this be why your GP is not keen to recommend you for sterilisation?

I apologise if I'm totally wrong with this but that's how your post comes across to me.

If you're really serious about being sterilised, I'd follow the link that Ceridwen gave.
It's very much 'no fuss', many years ago they were offering sterilisation on an out-patient basis under local anaethsetic (general if you preferred), this was at the time that sterilisation under the NHS meant a week long stay in hospital.

Whatever you do, do make sure it's your final decision.
Although Paparika says

i know it can be reversed

it's not guaranteed, and is a much more difficult process than with a vasectomy.

Alikay

My friend was sterlised on the NHS at 25 when she didn't even have a boyfriend. She's an intelligent, articulate lady and stated her case well, so her GP referred her to a consultant in the district hospital who performed the op within a few weeks. The method of sterilisation (both tubes removed, not tied or using rings) mean there would be no possibility of reversal.

Shelldean

Pollycat wrote: »

If your doctor is adamant, then I agree with Ceridwen re the Marie Stopes clinics.

This sounds strange to me:

They? Who are 'they'?
I find it hard to believe that there is an age embargo on sterilisation in your NHS area.
I think this is maybe your GP's opinion.

To be honest, your post doesn't come across to me as being definite about not wanting children.

You don't say 'I don't want children, I've never wanted children, I'll never want children, if me and my OH split up and I meet a fab man who wants children, I'll STILL never want children'.

In fact, you've not mentioned children at all, just the problems you're having with contraception.
Could this be why your GP is not keen to recommend you for sterilisation?

I apologise if I'm totally wrong with this but that's how your post comes across to me.

If you're really serious about being sterilised, I'd follow the link that Ceridwen gave.
It's very much 'no fuss', many years ago they were offering sterilisation on an out-patient basis under local anaethsetic (general if you preferred), this was at the time that sterilisation under the NHS meant a week long stay in hospital.

Whatever you do, do make sure it's your final decision.
Although Paparika says



it's not guaranteed, and is a much more difficult process than with a vasectomy.

Well I'm fairly certain I'm not with the same GP yet I was told them same thing, back in 1996.
So I would assume they are the doctors/NHS, as I was told them same thing after giving birth to twins at 24. I suffered REALLY bad PND and there was no promise I'd not have twins again next time( unlikely but there was NO way i was doing that again)
Was refused several times in fact, told to come back when I was 30.
So hence the reason at 27 I had another child. He's my xmas baby as he was concieved xmas night when the contraception failed (split) And despite presenting myself in A & E on boxing day morning and being given the morning after pill (I really wasn't taking ANY chances) He proved he was determined to be around. He's 11 now!!

Oh and by the way am still not sterilsed LOL Just extra careful these days