stressed beyond belief

katiesmummy

this has been the month from hell so far-

oh had a crash last week and broke both his legs, my dog died on friday and yesterday my ds fell down the stairs and smashed his 2 front teeth out

i am desperately trying to find a job after 5 years off work, had lots of thanks but no thanks emails, jobcentre aren't being helpful at all re me signing on, can't afford to have our dog cremated so i have had to bury him in the garden, and this morning i got a letter from the court stating that my violent ex is taking me to court for access to our son.

i am trying to look after 2 kids, an invalid oh, the house, do my ou coursework, work out how to survive on the wages oh has left as he won't be able to work for ages and im supposed to be taking the train up north tomorrow to go and collect oh's dd.

i seriously feel like i'm going to blow up soon

dehaani

You should try some alcohol or recreational drugs.

red_devil

things can only get better as they say!

Lifes stressful at times aint it?

katiesmummy

dehaani wrote: »

You should try some alcohol or recreational drugs.

been there done that- i don't do either anymore

katiesmummy

red_devil wrote: »

things can only get better as they say!

Lifes stressful at times aint it?

right about now i want to crawl in a hole and never come out again!!!

Maddie

katiesmum, I'm not very good at advice but will give it a go;

- when is coursework due - can you put it at the bottom of the pile for now as it sounds like you have enough on your plate? perhaps ask for an extension?

- sorry to hear about your dog dying, i guess you've not had time to grieve properly yet, but make sure you give yourself some time for this soon.

- you will survive somehow on the low income I'm sure - try not to stress too much. Of course you can get loads of advise on here.

Ok, go and get a cup of tea and have a break to breath. Make a list of what you need to do. Focus on the most important first and try to forget everything else for now.

You will get through this!

fernliebee

Oh no! Sounds like an absolute nightmare hun. Try and find half an hour to have a good cry, it relieves so much stress.

You will get by because we have to survive, but it will be tough times. Look at OS board as they are the moneysaving guru's! And let the unimportant stuff slip a little while you have so much on your plate. Try and find time in all the chaos to sit down for 5 mins with a cuppa, and try to think of nothing at all! x

Pee

Are there any benefits you are entitled to that can help whilst your OH is not working? You should be able to get an extension if that feels right for you. I guess OH's dd would be very disappointed not to see him - maybe a good chance to study on the way there.

I don't envy you an in pain and unable to work OH, if not grumpy already, he soon will be...

Wishing you all the best. You sound a complete star.

julie03

sounds awful for you, my gran died this weekend and it really helps to let it all out, i would take a hot bath with a cup of tea and some chocolate and have a really good cry to get it out of your system, and could someone else bring your oh dd down as it would save you an awful lot of time and stress
x

katiesmummy

Pee wrote: »

Are there any benefits you are entitled to that can help whilst your OH is not working? You should be able to get an extension if that feels right for you. I guess OH's dd would be very disappointed not to see him - maybe a good chance to study on the way there.

I don't envy you an in pain and unable to work OH, if not grumpy already, he soon will be...

Wishing you all the best. You sound a complete star.

i am going to sign on until i get a job so at least we will get something until then, although the jobcentre aren't very helpful

he's already grumpy- gone from an extremely active man to not being able to do anything for himself is doing wonders for his personality!

i actually think this is a test -we only moved in together a few weeks ago- someone wants to test the strength of our relationship- i'm convinced of it!!

mummy_Jay

KM - firstly big hug

Take one thing at a time, and it there's nothing you can do about it (like OH having 2 broken legs) put it to one side.
Make a list of what you need to do.

As for the letter from court I know the moment you picked it up your heart sank and worst case scenerios start playing through your head but you are on job seekers which should mean you get legal aid, you need to talk to a solicitor and see what that means. So choice one and make an appointment, then try and put it out of your mind until the appointment (til will probably be a month away)

Tell OH, the broken legs don't mean he can't help in the house, he can do washing up, dusting. He's use to being active so he can learn to be active with crutches. He can even sit and peal the veg for dinner, every little helps.

You will survive on your income you just need to clear your head enough to plan out a budget.

As for the course work, talk to your tutor explain the circumstances as see if you can get an extention if necessary. Or put it to one side for a couple of day whilst you deal with the rest.

As you get each thing done, tick it off your list.

Another BIG HUG, you can do this, some where deep inside you know you can.

Don't give up on the job front, its always quiet just before and after xmas, the job market should pick up feb/Mar time. In the meantime you have done the right thing. Another idea maybe to try signing up to a few job agencies, if you haven't already.