Coldfeet - common?

dfarry

Thanks for all the comments...

I have given my other 'arf plenty of time this weekend to decide for herself...

We saw the property for the second time on Friday as well as the school that we would want our kids to go too.

I think the second viewing reinforced how nice the house was but also highlighted the one negative (small garden). However whereas before it was a case of....

"Hmmm this is a nice house would we like to buy it?" this time it was "This is the house we have committed to (well for most part) and will now need to make home"

Suffice to say, she has carefully thought about things and also read the comments here......

The move will be going ahead :T

silvercar

Well done! You know now you've thought it through.

nickinoo

I am going through exactly the same thing at the moment, we went to see our new home & the garden is smaller than we were told plus the kitchen/diner looked small & that was just an empty shell but I know how I fell in love with the showhome & how much I will love it when it's ours. I also worry as we are moving to a new development & our cornershop is about 1.5 miles, we are going to be an hours drive from where we are now so we will be leaving our friends behind, the public transport is not that good either but at the same time the idea of a more peaceful setting & a better quality of life have got to be worth it.

dfarry

the idea of a more peaceful setting & a better quality of life have got to be worth it

Absolutely! :rolleyes:

Jorgan_2

I think its only natural for people to have second thoughts, people generally fear change, be it moving house, job, school etc. When I last moved it was to an area 160 miles from where we lived, OH kept on asking 'are we doing the right thing?' I asked her last week if it was the right thing as it was four years since we moved & she said she can't even remeber living in the old place.

Toto

I think everyone feels this to a certain extent. I am moving in a week and although I never really liked this house very much, I suddenly found I became really attached the day I decided to move. All sorts of things worried me, what will the new neighbours be like? Will my daughter hate the tiny garden? Also, I sat and cried my eyes out one day because I realised this house was the last place I saw my mother before she died suddenly.

But, moving is right for my family and in my experience no house ever feels perfect until you make it home, there will always be doubts, even tiny silly ones. I guess for me it’s just a fear of leaving the past behind. And yes, my OH thinks I am completely insane and can’t wait to move, he really can’t understand the daily changes of heart from I want to move to waaaaa I don’t want to go.

clairehi

To the OP - yes, it is totally normal - I had cold feet right up until the point that we unpacked in our new place!

I know how you feel, we had to compromise on the size of the garden too, (but then all the houses we saw had small gardens).

You arent choosing between this houses and the house of your dreams - you are choosing this one because its the best one youve seen. Theres nothing to stop you continuing to look though, in case something better comes up.

(I am still checking Rightmove, and I havent seen a better house for us, in our area, since we offered on it 6 months ago).

Hillfly

Is there anyway you could let to buy your old house?
If so you could maybe then return if you found the move didn't work out?

I suspect once you are settled in you will not look back anyway.