Leaving my partner - practical advice needed

Diane1961_2

First post was right on the nail. My advice is nearly always the same when there is change about. Try not to out guess the world. Only deal with what is yours, how others react is entirely up to them. When chaos reigns do one thing at a time; get through one day at a time. And trust me, things will improve just keep moving forward and stay out of everyone's emotions once your decision is made, how you behave affects how others behave so be calm and steady. Good luck

Pee

Whatever the legal responsibilty re the £10,000, you are perfectly aware of your moral responsibilty to pay it back. I can't believe because your partner is controlling you may not pay the money back to his father.

With regard to leaving, if you are worried about him contacting you at work etc speak to the Police beforehand. They may be able to help. I also suggest you tell your work HR dept, so that they are aware of the problem.

neneromanova

Do you have anything set up legally in regards to the £10k "borrowed" off his Dad?

He has said that you don't need to pay it back as it's for your future which is very stupid in their part as you are not engaged or married. So you don't need to pay it back. If he turns round and says you need to, tell him he said you didn't have to. Unless you've signed a letter with a solicitor for the £10k.

Mutter_2

You can make a free call to Women's Aid.

A friend has been struggling badly since May, getting nowhere through Solicitors etc.

She turned to WA last week as I'd heard such good things about them. Now everything is moving in the right direction. She sent me a message last night to say "they are lovely".

Remember, domestic abuse doesn't have to be physical!

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/?gclid=CO63k7zZsJ8CFWlr4wod_3Hd1A

Best of luck.

rachel6188

no advice just wanted to wish you luck. stay strong and hugs hun. take care of yourself xox