Can't afford to buy my boyfriend a christmas present

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OP How old are you?
Surely you must realise that by keeping in touch in any way with your nasty ex is going to cost you financially and emotionaly and that no partner that is actually your partner will hate you or think you don't love him just because you cannot afford a present??????

And that Ebay items should be always delivered to YOUR address, the same as your paypal account is registered to for fraud protection??

DKLS

I'd recommend cutting the ties with the ex, email addresses can be changed for free, setting changed in facebook.
Also pick up a free sim card and change your number or if you have a contract phone get his number blocked.

Also be very careful what you say to joint friends, their loyalties arent what they seem, you could test them by planting a bit of info and see which direction the info goes in, I had to do that with a few of my joint friends, in the end I made the decision to sack teh lot of them.

naijapower

I strongly feel OP has lost it completely.....This is a waste of golden time.

Get a life and grow up.

Dont be a muppet for life.

gull5426

sarah,

hope you feel happier soon.

leave your ex well behind you (i am sure its easier say than to do it ).
if you cant afford any presents dont let it worry you.
we dont buy presents for each other any more, its time to get away from our materialistic society.

you and your current boy friend could just go for a nice walk( it wont cost you anything either and its very enjoyable)

fabforty

I'm just going to be really blunt - not because I want to be cruel, but because I think a faffing around will fall on deaf ears.

First things first, cut all contact with your ex. He's your ex for a reason. I don't know how much he owes you, but whatever it is it's not worth having such a creep in your life. You won't get the money back - so write it off and move on. Unless you have children together, you have no need to be in touch with him.

Second. You need to be less dependent and therefore less obligated to your new boyfriend. He pays the bills at his home while you stay there - fair enough. Giving you an allowance aswell? Stand on your own two feet. Get a part-time Saturday, evening, weekend whatever job. Apply for student loans (that's what they are there for). Then if you can't afford to buy him a present-just tell him. There is something unhealthy about a relationship where you are so caught up and afraid that he'll hate you if you can't buy him a Christmas present. You are bound to feel depressed as long as you allow others to dictate your life.
As I said at the outset, I'm not trying to be harsh (I'm a counsellor, I do this for a living). I really am just trying to help.