Bit of advice please....

Scared1980

Little bit of advice needed please…

I am seriously considering handing in my notice at work to be a stay at home mum to my 2 DDs (6 and 3) and am expecting my 3rd in September.

I am lucky to have a very very supportive OH who is more than happy for me to do this.

I think I am nervous in that I have always worked from the age of 16 and am wondering how hard it will be to adapt.

Has anyone here gone from a career woman to a stay at home mum?

I have been considering it for over a year!!!

I’m not the greatest at cooking from scratch etc. so am hoping that with the extra time I will get better at this… I love baking so am looking forward to sending my DDs to school with lots of homemade treats.

What do you reckon??? Am I mad to even consider this?

Thanks in advance

L
x

Bronnie

Scared1980 wrote: »

Little bit of advice needed please…

I am seriously considering handing in my notice at work to be a stay at home mum to my 2 DDs (6 and 3) and am expecting my 3rd in September.

I am lucky to have a very very supportive OH who is more than happy for me to do this.

I think I am nervous in that I have always worked from the age of 16 and am wondering how hard it will be to adapt.

Has anyone here gone from a career woman to a stay at home mum?

I have been considering it for over a year!!!

I’m not the greatest at cooking from scratch etc. so am hoping that with the extra time I will get better at this… I love baking so am looking forward to sending my DDs to school with lots of homemade treats.

What do you reckon??? Am I mad to even consider this?

Thanks in advance

L
x

I think you'll find lots of us on here who did this! Look on it as a new career; probably one of the most worthwhile and satisfying you could ever have, but like all careers with it's ups and downs! If you have the opportunity to try it and see if it suits you I would say go for it! Presume you've been thinking the matter through carefully re budget etc.

pukkamum

Well i was a stay at home mum who went back to work recently now my dd is 3 and at nursery.
I hate it!!!!!
I realised how much i loved being at home with the kids and all the day to day stuff so this has prompted dh and i to try for a third as my dh (i know it sounds chauvanistic but isn't honesty) loves me being at home too.
He loved it when he came home to a relaxed wife who wasn't running round trying to do everything in two hours instead of all day with happy kids talking about the fun we have had (though there were days he came home to screaming kids an exhausted harrassed, angry wife and a messy house).
Staying at home with kids is what you make it, yuo have to make the effort to get out and about with hte kids and do activities etc otherwise you can get brain drain.
On the other hand please don't imagine it is all going to be wonderful homemade cakes and fabulous meals from scratch every day, you would just be setting yourself up for a fall.
There will be days when you can't get out the house or you can't be bothered to cook from scratch, and the kids are driving you insane but hopefully the good will outweigh the bad!!!!

Scared1980

Thanks for the responses :0)

Me and the OH are going to sit down with a fine tooth comb and look at the finances tonight.. it looks viable at first glance but want to make sure that we have accounted for everything.

I definitely won't be cooking from scratch every night lol! my OH loves cooking so I will be letting him do it at least twice a week lol!

I am thinking it will be nice to get me and my dd's into a nice new routine before number 3 comes along too!!

pukkamum - Good luck on trying for number 3 :0)

L
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pukkamum

Routine is definately key, when at home i always made between getting home from taking ds to school and eleven my working hours when i did housework etc, then would do an activity with dd or go out, that way i din't get too bogged down with house work i can highly reccomend flylady.com, she has loads on tips on running a house with minimal effort.
Good luck love x x x x

kazmc

OMG I cant believe you are just thinking about it!!
I would absolutely jump at the chance.
I'm SO fed up of being a fulltime working single mum and you are so lucky, you cant get this time back so grab it with both hands and enjoy!!!
Have fun whatever you decide

natbags

I gave up my career when I had my DS (now 8) Being a SAHM is the hardest job I have ever, ever done but the most rewarding. I love it that I can attend all meetings, plays, school activities and productions without having to negotiate the time or take a holiday - these moments are priceless and the chats and special time we have when he has just come home from school - wow! I get to know so much more about him, what hes been doing, playing with, learning while its fresh in his mind - sometimes he even remembers what hes had for lunch too

I'm lucky now that hes a bit older I can choose to work a little - i'm self employed and do just 2 days during term time, school hours and I do it more for me and keeping up with the industry I worked in, the technology etc... and for a change of enviroment - but thats purly through choice - so I highly recommend it HTH

Kazipoo

I gave up my career when I had my first... I attempted to go back to work, but the buzz had gone. Since then (and 4 girls later) I occassionally work (temp agency) if I feel like i'm going stir crazy, and have also found myself working in local shops etc. Because its been soooo long since I worked full time, I know I would find it very difficult getting back into the swing of things. I have however found that I am quite handy when it comes to baking, cooking, art and now crocheting lol.... this site has kept me sane at times when I thought I was losing the plot, and made me find things to do with myself. This year I plan to return to college and retrain in the hope of emigrating at some point in the next 10 years to New Zealand!!

alisong_2

If you can't afford to give up work altogether or just prefer to still do some work, part-time is a good option. Employers are legally required to properly consider a request to work part-time in order to look after family. Good luck with whatever you choose.

rachbc

there a uge pros and cons to both - I've done both and found each has its frustrations, highs and lows. My question would be why have you been thinking about this for so long and not yet done it? generally if we really want something we find a way of making it happen - if you have been in a postion to be able to be a SAHM but haven't yet done so then maybe you need to have a think about if its really what you want or just what you think you should want...

Can you take maternity leave for No 3 and take the time to decide if you are going back - I guess a lot depends on how different things are once that baby is here and that could swing your decision one way or the other...

Mine are 11 and 3 now, I work 30hrs over 5 days and they still have plenty of hm treats to take to school

zippychick

Hi Scared

There is a whole thread about stay at home Mums

OS tips for SAHM

Stay at home and do OS

I'm single so can't advise from experience, but just wanted to say how lucky you are to have a supporting OH and kids.