Abusive Texts. Help Please

welshsue

Hi

My son has received a very abusive text from a 12yr old girl (ex friend) which I have just seen this morning and I am not at all impressed.
He was called gay (which I'm not concerned with as "sticks & stones etc") but it also said "Go f**k a duck and called him a d**k head. This was all in capital letters so she knew exactly what she was saying.

Is it an offence to send this sort of thing?. Do I just speak to her mother about it or report it to her school (I have never met the girl or her mother and don't know her address but know which school she attends).

I appreciate some people may say just ignore it but I have a 3yr old in the house and would not like to think he can pick up the phone and see this sort of language.

Any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks

DarkConvict

Its verbal language rather than a threat so i do not think its an offence. However you probaby can report it to your network and see if they will block her number from your sons mobile. It is up to yourself if you wish to report it to the school but think of your son when you do it. Ask him about it first.

silkyuk9

I wouldnt make too much fuss about it to be honest. lime you say sticks and stones. they are 12 year olds, this will stop as quick as it has started, they will be best mates again by the end of he week.

i could understand if they were 16 or 17 year olds and sending threatening texts such as violance. but 12 year old dont understand the meaning of words to be honest.

I know its upsetting for you as we dont want anyone calling our kids names but its all part of growing up. they will be called much more in life. Also im sure if this was my son he would go mad with me if i interfered in something like this.

Just monitor the situation if it persists then maybe call you phone company and get the number blocked. Also to be honest if you reported it to school, would they be interested.

Like i say just monitor it, they are only kids and im sure by the end of the week it will have all blown over

welshsue

I have spoken to my son about this and he is quite annoyed at the text (it was him who showed it to me in the first place so obviously was upset at receiving it).
They both go to different schools and live in different towns so the chances of seeing each other is slim.
Will monitor the situation and see what happens.

silkyuk9

welshsue wrote: »

I have spoken to my son about this and he is quite annoyed at the text (it was him who showed it to me in the first place so obviously was upset at receiving it).
They both go to different schools and live in different towns so the chances of seeing each other is slim.
Will monitor the situation and see what happens.

well its not like this person lives near you then also dont blow it out of context, i doubt she is a physco. texts cost money, if he does not fuel the fire and just ignore it she will get fed up and stop.

kids pain in the !!!!!

Blackpool_Saver

Have you got older children or is this your first experience of going towards teenage years, I am asking you because to be honest this is tame compared with some of the stuff that lies ahead, it is hideous, beyond hideous I agree, but sadly it is the way the children communicate these days.

welshsue

Blimey, so I have worse to come.... thanks for that!!! shall look forward to that. He is my eldest son. so no experience of this before.

Minxy_Bella

Twelve year olds know exactly what they are doing!

I would inform the mother, as nicely as possible, and ask for her help in stopping this nasty behaviour before it escalates.

And yes, I have teenagers. You have to nip this in the bud IMO.

Blackpool_Saver

welshsue wrote: »

Blimey, so I have worse to come.... thanks for that!!! shall look forward to that. He is my eldest son. so no experience of this before.

I am sorry but I am being honest, facebook, Bebo, phones, etc etc, they speak to each other this way and far worse. Sorry, it's heartbreaking, I know.

jinky67

Can you not block her number on his phone?

Usually in the settings for messages

I am afraid this is just normal teen behaviour :rolleyes: horrible little critters they are