working student mum with redundancy looming - looking for a little advice please

jdturk

Person_one wrote: »

If he saw me taking advantage of my OH and shirking my responsibilities I hope he'd point it out to me! Beside the point anyway as he wasn't brought up to believe that children are 'women's work'.

The reason I am concerned about the OP's OH is that it seems like she could resolve a few of her problems quite easily if she let him take care of his own child more! I don't think its classed as 'babysitting' if you're the parent, its just 'doing your job'.

I agree totally but its down to the OP to instigate this and not make excuses up about her OH working hard through the week etc etc

And as a side not you hope he would point it out but it would annoy you if he said anything and even then it may not change things

jdturk

marywooyeah wrote: »

ignore jdturk - he's clearly just another troll!

yeah obviously a troll who has more posts than you :rolleyes:

I was just offering another point of view and because it may not be what you want to hear you accuse me of being a troll.....nice!

Person_one

marywooyeah wrote: »

We do have time for each other, when our son is in bed we always spend time together each night and then I will crack on with some uni work or some housework while he unwinds. on sundays we either all head into town or the park or go for lunch etc and spend time together, throughout the day I will take DS up to the nursery to play with him and when I am cooking dinner or hoovering etc OH will go and play with him. sundays are the day when OH gets to relax and we spend time as a family, I think it would be unfair to take that away and have him look after DS all day instead. Please dont let that make you angry - far from it I look forward to it all week! I dont get much time to myself, I am obviously on my own when doing uni work but other than that I dont get much time to relax but that comes with it, going to uni full time+working+toddler+housework I knew it would be like this. It does get tiring but I went into motherhood and uni life fully aware of this.
ignore jdturk - he's clearly just another troll!

So Sunday isn't the ONLY time he can relax and unwind?

Out of the four things you listed that are your responsibilities, the last two should be shared.

Back to your original problem though (gasp!) I think it would appease your manager to show him your uni timetable for as far in advance as you have it. He may think you are withholding it because you want to cherry pick your shifts and hide from him other times when you are available. I don't think its unreasonable for him to see that you have say 24 hours in a week when you aren't at uni during shop hours and he can pick the 16 that suit his business. Taking into account travel times etc.

Linzp

Slightly off topic but in your first post you mentioned that you have to work sixteen hours to qualify for the WTC element, you then said your partner works full time?
If that's the case than isn't the sixteen hour rule cancelled out by the fact that you qualify for the thirty hour element instead?
Still trying to get my head around tax credits!

Linzp

Ah, please ignore above post, I've realised you BOTH need sixteen hours to qualify for help with child care costs!