4 year old and bed time

Anthillmob

again tonight it was easier. she came down twice [she snuck past me as i was in the loo the last time]. however the OH gave in and gave her the tissue she requested when i said not to, but it worked. when i took boris up she was half asleep and after i kissed her goodnight and said she was a good girl she rolled over and closed her eyes.

just need to teach them to respect their toys and not to trash their room. shes is ok its ypung boris who is the nightmare.

and teach her that 'leave your brother alone right now' means just that. drive me mad!! one step at a time eh.

Sublime_2

Mines back in her usual sleep routine, just a coincidental blip after reading your post. Just goes to show, its perfectly normal for them to play up at times.

I only allow my DD an inch of water if she asks, so she doesn't wet herself, or need to go to the loo in the night. I have also told her to get a drink from the bathroom sink, if she's been really persistant afterwards. This has stopped her from demanding drinks at night.

I agree with taking favourite toys away as a last resort. It may seem harsh, but it works. I have always explained why I have done it, so that she know's it is a punishment for being naughty. She loves her cuddly toys, so it does work.

I also let her have a cd on while she goes to sleep. Only a story, lullabies, or nursery rhymes, at night (no Bratz Rock Angelz! ).

mumOf2wonderfulkids

Anthillmob wrote: »

just need to teach them to respect their toys and not to trash their room. shes is ok its ypung boris who is the nightmare.

and teach her that 'leave your brother alone right now' means just that. drive me mad!! one step at a time eh.

when you learn the secret to all that please let me know lol!

dd room is a constant bomb site and they only have to be together for 5 seconds before they start their arguing

glad tonight was better for you x

Aputsiaq

Anthillmob wrote: »

tonight was all good, she made a promise to mu mum earlier today taht she would behave at bedtime and go to sleep. daddy read her a story, i went up and said goodnight then it was i want daddy one more time, then mummy and on it went. threats of no book [daddy promised to buy her a waybuloo book tomorrow if she stayed in bed] and threats of phoning 'nanny honeybunch' had no result. screaming and exorcist routine started. because boris is happily fast asleep we have had no choice than to bring her down te stairs.

she is now sat on the sofa over the other side of the room with no telly on and no toys. daddy is in the kitchen with the dog and im over here on my laptop. we are totally ignoring her. she is yawning but still refusing to go to bed. stubborn madam. maybe when she does go off ill ensure she is awake at 6am. or is that just mean? lol

again every excuse in the book. i gave her her torch and camera.

no mention of the lights.

however she did mention she could hear people shouting and i assumed it was a couple outside getting in their cars when i looked out of the window earlier but just heard our detatched neighbours going at eachothers throats again.

we couldnt change the kids room over to ours as ours is very very small and just abouts fits our bed.

youre giving in to her.
she knows that if she keeps kicking up a fuss and being noisy youll take her downstairs.
you have to ignore her. put her to bed and thats all. no more talking. if she screams she screams, if she wakes the little one then thats just how it is but she will stop in 2 days if you ignore her.
she is also telling you she can see/hear things because she sees from your reaction that you believe her, so she does it more.
if you dont nip this in the bud, it will get worse.
bedtime 7pm, no argument.

Aputsiaq

mumOf2wonderfulkids wrote: »

when you learn the secret to all that please let me know lol!

dd room is a constant bomb site and they only have to be together for 5 seconds before they start their arguing

glad tonight was better for you x

there no secret its called disipline, reinforcing good behaviour and punishing the bad and sticking to it.
you also need to follow a few rules if you want a peaceful household. the most important being absolutely no tv/dvd or any such nintendo/sega game in the bedrooom. not under any circumstances. this is something that can be given to them at 13 (to signify becoming a teenager) but stiill it needs to be supervised.

daniel_owen_uk

See for me, that's simply not true.

Both our children (3 and 6) have TVs in their room, we just don't allow them to be turned on a bedtime, quite simply because.... it's bedtime!

Rewarding good behaviour works better than punishing bad, so remember keep encouraging.

mumslave

My kids dont have a tv in their bedroom but they have a leap pad and a vtech cyber pocket console. I dont think it matters what you have in their bedroom, as long as you are firm and bed time is bedtime.

That said, I had a tv in my room as a child and my parents didnt really supervise...I was watching jo brand at the age of 7 and had seen lady chatterlys lover by the age of 8 :eek: