depression

Tiff_2

blinky wrote:

I think most people here think too much it's one of the reasons we have the problem. Other people have told me that I think too much - I see things that other people don't notice.
Hope you're feeling better soon Miroslav. Becareful of the drink though - alcohol can have unpredictable effects on us depressed people. Don't want you feeling worse.

Your regular posting in this thread is valued by myself and many other people here.
Take care,
Paul

Hi Paul
I believe that we overthink because of the problems we have and it then grows into the chicken and the egg scenario.
I was actually told once that the more intelligent and articulate you are, the harder you find it to accept that you are ill and the treatment, because you're always looking for the logic & reasoning behind it all. You think that just because you understand something that you can stop it, but we all know that's not the case. It's truly frustrating when you can't get yourself back on your feet and you blame yourself for it.....:o
When in reality, we all know it's Sazzy's fault!:D :rotfl: Sorry Saz x
That's why I advocate doing things like crosswords, puzzles, drawing (even if you can't!;) ) because it stops you thinking and it focusses your mind on what you're doing and if that's happeneing, you're relaxing and it's physically impossible to be stressed and anxious at the same time.
I tell people not to drink because it's a depressive...and because if I can't drink, why the heck should they?!
Much love
Tiff xxx

Sazbo

Miro hun - did you think any further which film you wanted to see? I'm supposed to be going to see Marie Antoinette on Friday, which doesn't help you with reviews, I appreciate. But secretly hoping I can get out of it, just can't face going out know what I mean? :rolleyes:

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

LOL

Must be something about this thread. It looks like I might have rescued my fledgling relationship from the jaws of disaster. :j There's being increasing texts and she's replied positively to an email where I bared my soul and explained my problems to her. There's also a Meeting up with 'R' for a drink + bite to eat tomorrow night. If things go well I think (hope) that we are meeting up over the weekend. Must keep my feet on the ground. Keeping everything crossed and hoping that I don't get too nervous.

Today hasn't been too bad - work has been less stressful. Fixed a few things and successfully diagnosed an issue - just need to work out how to explain it to BT (too complicated to explain over phone to help desk :doh: ). Still plenty of work to do when I left but it wasn't urgent so it could wait. Even bought a couple more self help books on the way home. Trying to stay positive.

I know I was quite bad last night but it was a mixture of being extremely tired and having a stressful day. When I'm feeling a bit low / vunerable I find it easy for my mood to slip when I tire.

Miro - maybe 'S' is feeling threatened by Britney becoming single again or maybe she's gone to tell her to stay away from her man . Seriously hope 'S' and yourself are fine and I'm sure she'll be in touch soon.

Thank you all for your support. You are all :A :A :A :T :T :T

Hope this post helps at least somepeople and I wish everyone a safe night. Don't want anyone to give up hope - Things will change and get better but I know when you are very low you cannot see it. Just keep it going even if it's just for me.

Thinking of you all.

Paul

PS. 4 year old with depression. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/wear/6127694.stm Truly truly sad, but it did happen in Sunderland... Speaks volumes to me :whistle:



Hope everyone

Glad things are looking up with 'R' (We're gonna have a whole alphabet on here soon )

I know 'S' has many problems, but I want to be her super hero

Anyway, good night,. hope tomorrow's dinner 'date' goes well

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Miro hun - did you think any further which film you wanted to see? I'm supposed to be going to see Marie Antoinette on Friday, which doesn't help you with reviews, I appreciate. But secretly hoping I can get out of it, just can't face going out know what I mean? :rolleyes:

Yes, I suggested 'Step Up'

http://www.ropeofsilicon.com/movies.php?id=3194

She likes dancing

I understand you may not want to go out! I don't like it myself, but get confidence if doing it with/for someone else!

How many people you meant to be going with?

Sazbo

Tiff wrote:

you find it to accept that you are ill and the treatment, because you're always looking for the logic & reasoning behind it all. You think that just because you understand something that you can stop it, but we all know that's not the case. It's truly frustrating when you can't get yourself back on your feet and you blame yourself for it.....:o
Much love
Tiff xxx

OK now I'm spooked! Tiff you've been looking inside my head!!! And can I just apologise for the state of the place?! :eek:

Sazbo

blinky wrote:

LOL

Must be something about this thread. It looks like I might have rescued my fledgling relationship from the jaws of disaster. :j There's being increasing texts and she's replied positively to an email where I bared my soul and explained my problems to her. There's also a Meeting up with 'R' for a drink + bite to eat tomorrow night. If things go well I think (hope) that we are meeting up over the weekend. Must keep my feet on the ground. Keeping everything crossed and hoping that I don't get too nervous.

Today hasn't been too bad - work has been less stressful. Fixed a few things and successfully diagnosed an issue - just need to work out how to explain it to BT (too complicated to explain over phone to help desk :doh: ). Still plenty of work to do when I left but it wasn't urgent so it could wait. Even bought a couple more self help books on the way home. Trying to stay positive.

I know I was quite bad last night but it was a mixture of being extremely tired and having a stressful day. When I'm feeling a bit low / vunerable I find it easy for my mood to slip when I tire.

Miro - maybe 'S' is feeling threatened by Britney becoming single again or maybe she's gone to tell her to stay away from her man . Seriously hope 'S' and yourself are fine and I'm sure she'll be in touch soon.

Thank you all for your support. You are all :A :A :A :T :T :T

Hope this post helps at least somepeople and I wish everyone a safe night. Don't want anyone to give up hope - Things will change and get better but I know when you are very low you cannot see it. Just keep it going even if it's just for me.

Thinking of you all.

Paul


Hope everyone

And we're thinking of you, Paul. Hope tomorrow goes well, do let us know. Sx

blinky

Question:

I sort of posted this the other day in my original thread.

When is the right time in the relationship to tell the other person about your depression / mental illness?

To be it's not really a subject for early dates - I find you never know how anyone is going to react to what you say (even people you know well). I worry that the other person will think you're a psycho / madman / complete basket case. If you keep it back to long often they can sense there's something you're holding back and that can cause trust and related problems.

I posted this question on a depression forum and was frankly shocked at some of the responses. Some people said should shouldn't tell. To me that seems wrong, it's not healthy and everything we do or experience shapes us in some way, even when we recover from our problems.

Please don't fret about this question all night

Always we remember we are brave for admitting we have a problem and talking about it frankly here. Both are huge steps. Please take some heart in that. :T

Personally I find it easier to talk to other sufferers about depression as they have some comprehension of what it feels. It can be v. hard to talk to people close as you know it could hurt them.

Better go to bed. Work starts at 7am again.

Sleep well. (HUG)

Sazbo

Miroslav wrote:

Yes, I suggested 'Step Up'

http://www.ropeofsilicon.com/movies.php?id=3194

She likes dancing

I understand you may not want to go out! I don't like it myself, but get confidence if doing it with/for someone else!

How many people you meant to be going with?

Oh, just a couple of women I know from the gym. One of whom I really like, who knows my situation, the other one I don't like, to my way of thinking she is very shallow - obsessed with how she looks, how everyone else looks, everyone else's age, etc. Trivial City. I just don't have the energy for it right now y'know? Would rather spend the evening with my duvet, sad as that might sound.

Miroslav

blinky wrote:

Question:

I sort of posted this the other day in my original thread.

When is the right time in the relationship to tell the other person about your depression / mental illness?

To be it's not really a subject for early dates - I find you never know how anyone is going to react to what you say (even people you know well). I worry that the other person will think you're a psycho / madman / complete basket case. If you keep it back to long often they can sense there's something you're holding back and that can cause trust and related problems.

I posted this question on a depression forum and was frankly shocked at some of the responses. Some people said should shouldn't tell. To me that seems wrong, it's not healthy and everything we do or experience shapes us in some way, even when we recover from our problems.

Please don't fret about this question all night

Always we remember we are brave admitting we have a problem and talking about it frankly hear. Please take some heart in that.

Better go to bed. Work starts at 7am again.

Sleep well. (HUG)

As soon as it feels comfortable, every relationship is different.

'S' and I already knew of each others problems beforehand, not that we're in a 'relationship'

Miroslav

Sazbo wrote:

Oh, just a couple of women I know from the gym. One of whom I really like, who knows my situation, the other one I don't like, to my way of thinking she is very shallow - obsessed with how she looks, how everyone else looks, everyone else's age, etc. Trivial City. I just don't have the energy for it right now y'know? Would rather spend the evening with my duvet, sad as that might sound.

Ahhhhhh, stick with the nice one

Doesn't sound sad, we all need our own time