depression

rose07

Miroslav wrote:

Even my :whistle:

I know she knows I'm not like that, but she can't get her head around it. Her last b/f not only abused her, but ran off........with another man Even her real dad and step dad abused her. The only person who hasn't, was her Mum who died around the same time mine did, 4 or 5 years ago. Scarily, both had breast cancer that spread & a breast removed. We were amazed at how similar our Mum's were in that respect. So every guy she's had contact with has abused her, so even if we did get romantically involved, I would make sure first that she knew I cared about her, and that i'd never hurt her. I'm thinking way ahead of myself here, but hey, I have to have dreams

:rotfl: at that comment, should I not ease into............no forget it Oh my :rotfl:

I'll go with the flow. I'm afraid I have spolied her again, spending loads on our dinner tomorrow. I'm gonna make mistakes, I just wanna show her how much I appreciate her

Scary stuff, going to her place. Apparently, last week, she tried on clothes in front of my flatmate and was often just in underwear........flatmate said she may do same to me and even ask me to try her clothes on :rotfl: Not only would they be umpteen sizes too small, but I don't think a red skirt and matching top would suit me

Next time you go to the moon, can you bring back some cheese. Not had any for a while. Ta

Keep writing the essays, always good to hear from you, and everyone of course

Bed............I have to go..........Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhh, scared :eek:

:rotfl: :rotfl:

yes def go with the flow ( the flow of the relationship that is), oh dear think its time for me bed. . . ... :rotfl:

and if she tries clothes infront of you it means she is comfy infront of you, i do this sometimes coz i feel at ease with the people i am with, i t aint a big deal, but if she strips and then hops on the bed then you might wanna worry, :rotfl: soz not helping am i?

ok serious rose now......
miroslav, just let things ride the way they are, you are both getting along, and things are going well. dont over do it but dont worry about it also.
easier said than done i know, but just try and relax when you with her, and the rest will follow.



and yeah course i will get you some cheese the next time im there, can get crackers too if ya like.?

thanks hun, good to be here tonight. xxxx

rose07

Tiff wrote:

Miro...:shhh: don't be silly Miro - blue is c-a-l-m-....
don't tell anyone but.........


it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones -it's-the-red-ones -
- it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones -it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones - it's-the-red-ones -

:drool:

yumyumyumyumyumyumyum

:dance:

I really must stop doing this! :rolleyes: :rotfl:

Much love
Tiff xx

i like the blue ones........:rotfl:

and red ones..... yumi

but im quite addicted to skittles at the mo, prob why im typin ten to the dozen at the mo, high as a kite, hahahahaha

they are my happy pills. :rotfl:

Horasio

Hi

Been out today recovering our car from the garage, decided not to repair it, so got a scrap car in our driveway. Feel sad, as we had it from new.

It is also depressing looking at the prices garages are asking and the males (sorry guys) who are selling the cars are right jerks. The women were great, a bit new, so lack some knowledge, but very approachable.

Also been very stressed about the children next door making excessive noise outside. I don't mind children playing but it was very noisy, for a very long time in the wet, and disturbing us.

We were really tired when we came home and it was very noisy again, so had to ring them. Again, their attitude is 'it's not that bad' - it is, we can hear it loudly above our TV and we can't eat in peace. I would like to shoot them to be honest:mad:

I had such a stressful week with the car, noisy building work from one neighbour and another one's noisy children, I found it hard to sleep. I need to sleep for health reasons plus I need to feel clear about buying the right car.

We are meant to be going away in 2 weeks, so would like peace resumed.

Horasio

flis21 wrote:

Hi FG, how are you?

Does anyone know when you get your 3rd star, I am on 548 posts and haven't got it yet!!

I think it is 551 and you have got your 3rd star now:)

Tiff_2

Miroslav wrote:

I've had a weird 30 minutes :eek:

As Sunday draws closer, I'm starting to feel worried again, like really worried.

What if 'S' does make a move? How do I say no?

What if she doesn't.......will I be unhappy? My feelings are all mixed up.

What if she does, and I like her, but don't want to be like the rest? What if I like the attention and still want to prove to her, I care about her?

What if I'm not good enough for her? What if her ex partners were better partners, as people, as friends, in the bedroom

What if she takes me saying no to sex as rejection?

Arrrrrggggggghhhhhhhh, so many Q's, most of which will never come up in reality.

I'm so confused as to how I like her............I know I really like her, really care for her, but I am physically attracted and adore her.

At 30, you'd think i'd not need to ask.........but because of past losses, I'm not sure what i'm doing

Ahhhhhhhhhhh, a weak moment again, when things were going so well.......

Hi Miro,
Hun, I swear to God - I'm gonna jump!:D :rotfl:
It's all natural to feel like this angel.
Now this is your first warning - get the blue smarties out - remember, c-a-l-m- and reeeeeeeelax.
Option 1
Enjoy your date.
Remember to breathe.
Come back and tell us how it all goes.

OR

Now that Sazzy's taken care of (God-I sound like the Mafia!:rotfl: ), I will provide Tiff treatment!:D :eek: :rotfl:
Seriously angel - just stage fright - take it as it comes hun.
Have a great time.
Much love
Tiffxxx

Sazbo

Yep I've been well taken care of by Tiff! :D I've gotta crash my lovlies, good talking to you, as always. Take care all, and sweet dreams. Sxx

rose07

Sazbo wrote:

Yep I've been well taken care of by Tiff! :D I've gotta crash my lovlies, good talking to you, as always. Take care all, and sweet dreams. Sxx

yeah i gotta go too, or i will never get up on monday, lol

nice to see ya tiff, ccstar, miroslav, feelinggood, saz, flis well alll the gang.

remember you are all strong people

take care all
and have sweet dreams
cyas tomorrow
xxx

Tiff_2

avocadomummy wrote:

Hello everybody
I am a new poster - it took me ages to work out just how to log in and actually communicate rather than just lurk. I have been suffering from depression for about four months each year over the past six years - really debilitating and awful for my children to have to live through - though they have been really good: this was not how it was supposed to be - I should have given them a really good life. I hope they will one day forget all this and not be prone to depression themselves. Does anyone know whether this can be "learned" or is it hardwired into someone's personality - or what?

Hello avocado - welcome angel!
May I ask, is it the same four months every year angel?
I know how you feel hun as I felt the same about my son, feeling like I'd let him down, that he was suffering because I wasn't well enough to do all the things I wanted for him. I felt like I'd missed out on the guide of How To Be Perfect!:rolleyes:

The reality was very different. Your children would much rather be with you, ill or not. I don't know their ages but if you bring them up to know that sometimes you are ill but that you do get better, they will be much better prepared for if, Heaven forbid, they do become depressed, or have a partner or friend who is depressed. They'll know when and how to get help. They will be quite resilient and won't panic if they understand about your depression being an illness like any other and that there is treatment. Obviously, this depends on how old they are as to how and how much you explain to them.

I think that you must focus on the other 8 months of the year that you are well. Inspite of your mental ill health, you are raising your family and you should feel proud of that. If there were concerns about their mental health, I'm sure you or somebody else would have acted by now. We're always hardest on ourselves and worry about them but they'll more than likely grow up to be perfectly well and probably more so because of your experiences as a family!
The only thing I might suggest is that you make sure they have outlets for their feelings - drawing, diary, student counsellor (confidential of course) or a close relative they can talk to.
Don't mistake normal childhood behaviour such as tantrums, temper, laziness, stroppiness as being down to your ill health angel - lots of children are like that. So don't be too quick to claim the blame.;)
There are different kinds of depression and I don't honestly know if it's hereditary - that's a question best asked of your doctor angel.

Seriously, I can feel tears because, as I've said before, no-one would want to have this kind of life and it can feel like a cruel joke. The only way around it is to get help and learn to manage the depression.
But it still hurts and it can be a lonely fight. But you've survived 6 years avocado & that's a real achievement.
I hope you'll feel free to become a regular here (all the drinks are on Saz and Miroslav!:eek: ) and I know that the wonderful people here will be valuable support when you need one.
Best wishes
Tiff x

Tiff_2

rose07 wrote:

Hi feelinggood
How are you?
I am glad you have found someone that you feel comfortable with, and feel like you can be you. I have had a few people like that in my life, most of them have faded now, but they have got me through things.
Draw energy from what you feel, and as you know it can never be, use the strength you feel to keep yourself going and do things to help yourself through things.
(don’t tell tiff but she is kinda my strength at the mo).
Do you have to mother your OH a lot, he seems like the younger one in the relationship? When things should really be the other way round
Well I hope you ok
Take care
Xxx

Hey Rosie! I heard that!

Tiff_2

Hi Guys - well we all made it through another day - serves us right!:rotfl:
Hey Rose :j - I am so proud of you angel. :A
Well done girl! I just wish I could have done more for you this week. I appreciate your kind words.
Will post tomorrow on relaxation technique - just as it was from my experience, not as a professional offering advice. Have missed you too.
Well, looks like we've all taken our blue smarties and I'm off to bed too.
Night guys - I wish you everything you wish yourselves.
Much love
Tiff xxx