New Year Still Broke

roger196

If you want some basic psychology of why people are spendaholics read "Games people play" by Eric Berne. It is a bit old, my copy was 65p new!
Like alcoholism, people are only "cured" if they want to be cured and it is a lifelong problem which has to be faced and overcome every day.
Congratulations on your progress so far.

suzzybabe

roger196 wrote: »

If you want some basic psychology of why people are spendaholics read "Games people play" by Eric Berne. It is a bit old, my copy was 65p new!
Like alcoholism, people are only "cured" if they want to be cured and it is a lifelong problem which has to be faced and overcome every day.
Congratulations on your progress so far.

I will try it

Thanks for info

Any insights are helpful

Got a copy on amazon

Might be the best £4.70inc p&p I have ever spent

I am very interested in the vagaries of the human mind anyway be a nice way for me to relax over the weekend.

Please keep in touch I will let you know what I think

Suzy xx:T

suzzybabe

InaPickle wrote: »

That's sooo true. I can't believe how addicted I have become to paying off my CC.

And Suzy, if you really are anything like Miss X, you will already have tons of pairs of shoes (and clothes of other descriptions) which have not been worn or only worn once. Work that wardrobe, girlfriend!

Are you sure we have never met ??? :rotfl:

You know me so well

Suzy xx

fiveyearplan

nervousmother wrote: »

Id not seen that before tiger.. ooo me and OH can save nearly 6k by takins our own lunch, cutting out the 1 magazine and £7 choc a week plus stopping smoking! food for thought... btw my stop smoking date is 16th feb! going to get some patches though

That would go a long way in your mortgage pig!

InaPickle

suzzybabe wrote: »

Are you sure we have never met ??? :rotfl:

I don't think so, but if we ever meet I will know you are the girl with the fabulous shoes! :rotfl:

suzzybabe

blind-as-a-bat wrote: »

If it helps, that was my OH's reaction, that and hanbags, and matching purse of course;):D

It was hard, and that is just from my perspective, watching her drool at shop windows (while i drooled at the computer shop windows:p)

It takes a while, in fact three years in our case, she saved, went out, and bought a pair of boots with her christmas/birthday money.

Made them more spaicial, being bought and paid for, her words not mine.

Though she has sulked since, thanks to the snow she cant wear them


There is some ironic message in there, somewhere

Depends how you read it to which message you get

Every little bit of help and encouragement is heart warming to me -truly-with the advice and kind words I am gleaning from this forum I may well beat this terrible affliction

I don't want to overstate but I have been making myself ill with all the worry mainly about having to ask my parents for help again!! I feel such a failure Now I feel like I have a tiny glimmer of hope.


I can't wait for my appt with CAB

I luv MSe

Suzy xx

suzzybabe

InaPickle wrote: »

I don't think so, but if we ever meet I will know you are the girl with the fabulous shoes! :rotfl:

Lol with the bag to match :rotfl:

Shoe_Gal

You are sounding more positive - I am sure you can do this

suzzybabe

Shoe_Gal wrote: »

You are sounding more positive - I am sure you can do this

I am

Day 2: Thermos coffee and no after work drinks

Probably saved @ £50 in two days Spent £4.97 on a self-help book

Suzy xx

:j:j

penguin83

Hi suzzybabe, just spotted your thread, you have come so far in a matter of days, imagine what you could do in few months.

Shoes are my thing too - I'm guessing you have tonnes of them, if you want a new pair sell some of your old ones until you have enough to buy them - soon your mindset will change and you will want to pay it off a debt but at least for now you wont be increasing it.

x x x x