Sallyx's Sink or Swim, Swimerdy Swim Diary ;)

sallyx

Def my ex numpty, our numpty is too nice to be a real numpty lol

Burlesque_Babe

if you want Italy Sally, you will have Italy, I quite fancy a DFW meet there

sallyx

Well who knows bb!

Am feeling a bit meh, I know it's a very very selfish meh too. Last night we were discussing my teacher training, moving, living arrangements and basically all the things we might need to consider in the future. It's obviously put him in a reflective mood as I've just got an email from him saying he's sat at work wondering why he's given most of his working life (18 years) working where he is, it would be wrong of him to make plans fir the future when he would rather not be there and that would involve a pay cut. Don't get me wrong I want him to be happy I guess there is just a horrible sickening feeling of knowing how hard it is and what strain it puts on a relationship. He's not one to be rash and just leave it just fills me with dread if I am honest.

Right need to talk to him about it ....

redsquirrel80

I think the fact that you're discussing all these things so openly is a really good sign Sal, I think you will cope with changes as you go along. Does it worry you because of ex's job/ lack of job history?

LouiseJ

Sally, for what its worth I think that it is a good sign that he is looking to get out of a place that he doesnt care for.

I have watched my beautiful man be slowly and consistently beaten down over the past 22 years by a work place that fails to care about its employees and uses the stick rather than the carrot approach. They have never invested in any training so they pay the men a decent(ish) wage but know that they would be hard pushed to find anywhere else at the same level - hence trapping them.

Some days I wish the place would burn to the ground then the decision will be taken out of his hands and he will have to forge a new career for himself.

I guess what I am trying to say is that if he values himself enough to actually make the move then he will probably have much more drive and ambition to progress in a new role, so the pay cut may be temporary.

I shall shut up now:o

sallyx

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

I think the fact that you're discussing all these things so openly is a really good sign Sal, I think you will cope with changes as you go along. Does it worry you because of ex's job/ lack of job history?

Absolutely Squizz, when I met ex he was in an ok job much as R is, he wanted out and wanted to get some training. I/we/my mum spent thousands on him doing all these courses and he never finished one of them...now he is in a lower paid job than when I met him 10 years ago. Im not tarnishing R with the same brush and he is far more driven and committed than ex but this is where my fear stems from. I will tell him all of this and I wouldn't stop him doing it, I would support him all the way but he needs to know my concerns

Lou I think you are totally right, I said to him that basically now that his home life is happy its made him realise how unhappy he is at work...he's used it as his crutch and stability for the last however many years. The main issue is that he was going to buy the company a year ago and the communications broke down and since then its been awful

I hope your OH's place burns down, its horrible when companies do it to their trusted employees

Lucifa73

sallyx wrote: »

So my nice quiet little wedding in italy isn't really going to happen....all the wonderbras will be there donning outfits chosen by the Bunster lol :T

We can be quiet..... honest:p

LouiseJ

Lucifa73 wrote: »

We can be quiet..... honest:p

yeah we will just make sure we are too sozzled to speak:D

redsquirrel80

LouiseJ wrote: »

yeah we will just make sure we are too sozzled to speak:D

*thinks of the video of Bunny's party*

Lucifa73

redsquirrel80 wrote: »

*thinks of the video of Bunny's party*

there's a video? is it on youtube yet?:p