mt SOA little advice needed x

iamana1ias

Poosmate wrote: »

Oh well if your daughter is too young to get a paper round, I guess she's too youg to be sent up the chimneys then or off to the workhouse! Oh well.... On to plan B.........

If you have some spare time each day you could up your income by (apparently) £90-100 per month by doing "daily clicks". I haven't tried this (yet), but there is a thread on this forum which is usually on the first page by Eager Learner. The thread on this forum is "part 2" but I'm sure I saw "part 1" on the "Up You Income" board. Might be worth you having a look at it. In the first thread it said it would take half an hour a day to earn £3 per day.

Once again good luck.

Poo

Not forgetting that any income will have to be declared to the DWP

coookiewoookie

iamana1ias wrote: »

and in the meantime you can teach her the valuable lesson that she doesn't get everything she demands and cancel sky = another £20 or so every month to throw at your debts.

I cant seem to get out of the contract grhhhhhh .... plus not sure where i gave the impression she demands it as i said the sky was more for my sanity .. cebeebies is not her age range this is why she wont watch it ...cant say i blame her i dont think i could sit thru a few hours of ninky nonks and tombilvioos after a hard day at school .......theyre good kids like to be creative im gunna push this a bit more now and some reading try and wean them off it .... but you know what its like when tv can be a god send somedays when u just want to get dinner sorted baby sorted etc .....

SINGLE SUE - wow how do u do it .......I have a dsi on the birthday list:eek:

iamana1ias

coookiewoookie wrote: »

SINGLE SUE - wow how do u do it .......I have a dsi on the birthday list:eek:

I'm guessing "no, you can't have that" works

SingleSue

coookiewoookie wrote: »

SINGLE SUE - wow how do u do it .......I have a dsi on the birthday list:eek:

They don't get the expensive items on their lists.

They know if they want the silly expensive things, then they have to save their pocket money, ask for money for birthday and Christmas from everyone and do odd jobs for neighbours and family to buy it themselves.

Eldest got his Xbox 360 Elite and middle his Wii this way.

I only buy what I can afford and no-more...the children also love and really appreciate whatever I get them.

coookiewoookie

iamana1ias wrote: »

I'm guessing "no, you can't have that" works

yes does work ....she understands to a certain degree in her child like bubble view of the world ... just hate they cant have what others have ......but hey it will all come x

SingleSue

I know what you mean, I felt awful guilt about how little I could buy my 3 compared to what others were spending, made me feel a complete failure to be honest.

But, it is an important thing for children to learn that they can't always have what they want...and a want is not a need.

coookiewoookie

I think this time of the year can be espc hard for single parents... This new facebook trend of taking pictures of xmas day doesnt help ive seen loads of kids opening mountains of present! ekkk ...just a bad time of the year for me i thnk !! oohh well not for another year now! woohooooooooooooo !

pink_numbers

I think the best gift you can give your children is the gift of learning to live within their means.

If you keep getting into debt to buy them the silly expensive stuff they want, they WILL learn that it's ok to go out and buy things you cannot afford. This will in time lead them to think it's ok to be in debt, and get themselves into debt.

OR you can start doing what SingleSue has done (which I think it's amazing), and teach your children the reality of money. Your children will learn that it's bad to be in debt, and stay debt free.

It doesn't cost a penny, but it will be the best gift they'll ever receive in their lives.

good luck

diddlepops

OP - I made a decision this year that my three children were going to have a great christmas but I was not going to end up in more debt as a result. They have had smaller less expensive gifts and not one of them has complained. They have loved their stuff because I explained it to them - that Mummy and Daddy love them so much and its just the thought that counts. That said, my DS has said he wants an Ipod, DSi and football boots for his birthday in April when he will be 4!!! :eek:;)

You will be surprised how kids adapt if you are honest with them. We reduced our SKY package last year because things were hard when DH was laid off - but we talked to them and told them that they could have Freeview etc. When we were in a position to upgrade again, we did and they have Disney again but I would not hesitate to withdraw it if we had to

I have yet to have my lightbulb moment - I know things aren't great but because we are "managing", I still bury my head in the sand. Doesn't stop me trying to reduce and gain though!

Hope your New Year turns out to be better than last.

Hugs x

SingleSue

Uncalled for and not very nice at all.

For many, at the time they have their children, they can afford to have them and it is only because of some kind of disaster (job loss, illness/disability, death or split in the relationship) that means the whole house of cards comes down.