no known post made

dmg24

columbo321, aside from the benefits issue, could I suggest that you get some counselling regarding your feelings towards the NHS? They are not healthy, and are probably making your health conditions worse.

sunnyone

columbo321 wrote: »

To start with, I have always worked and was a professional photographer with 2 shops before the NHS crippled me when I gave birth. Then they dragged me round the hospital for 4 days until they gave me an x-ray and discovered my pelvis was up near my hips! It took me a year to learn to walk again, but I was left in permanent agony and damaged. I have had to wear a pelvic brace since I was 24 years old. My marriage broke down and I couldn't work and lost my shops. I was also unable to have any more children through the NHS' appalling treatment of me.
My son has had to help me since he was able to walk. Now, it is causing nothing but stress and my son deserved some time of his own. My sister has always helped me , but she has cancer now and obviously can't. At the moment it feels like the bottom has fallen out of my world. I have been in and out of hospital my whole life. I trained as a counsellor 5 years ago and got top marks, but my illnesses and disabilities got worse and then the NHS ripped my nerves in my pelvis when I had an hysterectomy. I haven't had one bit of compensation off the NHS.
As for bending the the system as far as it will go, I think it is the NHS that has bended me as far as I can go. No, I cannot manage on my own at night - I just don't have any choice. I have stayed with my sister last night and my friend the night before because my asthma is bad and the sciatica is extremely bad. I think I deserve some help after what the NHS have done to me. I have never had any help of the Social Services until last year and my doctor is disgusted.
I tried to sue the NHS for 3 years, but they just stuck up for each other.
I cannot afford to give the SDA up, as I won't be able to afford the help I pay for myself. My son has a right to his own life and not to have to look after his mother all his life ( which he has done up until now.) I think I deserve every penny I am entitled to because if it hadn't been for the NHS and their mistakes I would probably have a successful career now.
I have no intention of having the Social Services help me. I have already been in hospital once because they have left me and I am not having any stranger helping me. I had them once and they stole out of my house, threw my dogs outside and smoked in my kitchen! They have neglected me for a whole year, giving me money and then not checking on me when I have begged them for help.
My doctor has told me that my stomach is damaged and my disabilities are getting worse because I am doing things I shouldn't be doing without help.The system as it is stinks. The rules are wrong and mixed up and no one sorts things out.
My sister's schizo boyfriend has been calling here, there and everywhere saying my family has committed fraud and the police and other agencies are sick of it
You obviously don't understand the needs of someone with lots of illnesses and disabilities.Yes, my son would have to clean his own place, but he wouldn't have to help wash and dress his mother, take her to the hospital in the night, remind her to take her medication, do all the cooking and cleaning, watch I don't leave the cooker on, help me in and out of bed, jump up every time I need something, take my pets out, go shopping for me, make MY bed , iron MY clothes and get stressed with me being ill. Be around 24/7. No, he SHOULDN'T have to do that so I had my sister to help me and a friend.
He pays my sister to live with her out of his Uni money and before that he lived in Uni digs, but he had to give them up because they are too expensive and he wants to help me until I get sorted out.

Good point dmg.

Plenty off people have had problems with the NHS but you have to get over it or it will wreck anything left in your life, being bitter is counter productive and helps no one, nor does feeling sorry for yourself and the energy its taking from you can be used for a better purpose. If your case was as straight forward as you put it you would have a case for compensation.

Social services have a duty to help you and if they dont contact your MP, take action and force through DPs so that you can chose your own help.

From your own account here you are commiting fraud, you need to sort it out now and the NHS has nothing to do with it nor does your sisters ex.

bestpud

columbo321 wrote: »

To start with, I have always worked and was a professional photographer with 2 shops before the NHS crippled me when I gave birth. Then they dragged me round the hospital for 4 days until they gave me an x-ray and discovered my pelvis was up near my hips! It took me a year to learn to walk again, but I was left in permanent agony and damaged. I have had to wear a pelvic brace since I was 24 years old. My marriage broke down and I couldn't work and lost my shops. I was also unable to have any more children through the NHS' appalling treatment of me.
My son has had to help me since he was able to walk. Now, it is causing nothing but stress and my son deserved some time of his own. My sister has always helped me , but she has cancer now and obviously can't. At the moment it feels like the bottom has fallen out of my world. I have been in and out of hospital my whole life. I trained as a counsellor 5 years ago and got top marks, but my illnesses and disabilities got worse and then the NHS ripped my nerves in my pelvis when I had an hysterectomy. I haven't had one bit of compensation off the NHS.
As for bending the the system as far as it will go, I think it is the NHS that has bended me as far as I can go. No, I cannot manage on my own at night - I just don't have any choice. I have stayed with my sister last night and my friend the night before because my asthma is bad and the sciatica is extremely bad. I think I deserve some help after what the NHS have done to me. I have never had any help of the Social Services until last year and my doctor is disgusted.
I tried to sue the NHS for 3 years, but they just stuck up for each other.
I cannot afford to give the SDA up, as I won't be able to afford the help I pay for myself. My son has a right to his own life and not to have to look after his mother all his life ( which he has done up until now.) I think I deserve every penny I am entitled to because if it hadn't been for the NHS and their mistakes I would probably have a successful career now.
I have no intention of having the Social Services help me. I have already been in hospital once because they have left me and I am not having any stranger helping me. I had them once and they stole out of my house, threw my dogs outside and smoked in my kitchen! They have neglected me for a whole year, giving me money and then not checking on me when I have begged them for help.
My doctor has told me that my stomach is damaged and my disabilities are getting worse because I am doing things I shouldn't be doing without help.The system as it is stinks. The rules are wrong and mixed up and no one sorts things out.
My sister's schizo boyfriend has been calling here, there and everywhere saying my family has committed fraud and the police and other agencies are sick of it
You obviously don't understand the needs of someone with lots of illnesses and disabilities.Yes, my son would have to clean his own place, but he wouldn't have to help wash and dress his mother, take her to the hospital in the night, remind her to take her medication, do all the cooking and cleaning, watch I don't leave the cooker on, help me in and out of bed, jump up every time I need something, take my pets out, go shopping for me, make MY bed , iron MY clothes and get stressed with me being ill. Be around 24/7. No, he SHOULDN'T have to do that so I had my sister to help me and a friend.
He pays my sister to live with her out of his Uni money and before that he lived in Uni digs, but he had to give them up because they are too expensive and he wants to help me until I get sorted out.

Your earlier posts suggest your son has stopped being your carer because you can no longer receive money for him to do so and because you would lose the SDP if he lived at home...

You also said he lost his student digs when he lost the wage for being your carer...

But if it is because you don't feel he should be caring for you then you need to find alternative help.

You say you don't want a stranger and your sister is very ill so this suggests to me you would like to be able to pay your son to provide your care.

That is an issue you need to sort wish social services and drag in outside support if need be, as said.

The fraud is a separate issue and will need to be dealt with as DWP etc see fit.

Maybe it would help to separate the issues and deal with each one in its own right?

daska

If you have a personal budget from SS then you are allowed to employ family members as long as they don't live with you. However, if they agree you need live in help, then they are able to bend the rules for this as your paying him would allow him to move back in but this would affect your entitlement to other benefits. (If you get LHA, that might possibly increase, it did for me but my carer isn't related to me.) I think you need an advocate

columbo321

I am going to close this because my mum doesn't even know what she is talking about.

columbo321

sunnyone wrote: »

Good point dmg.

Plenty off people have had problems with the NHS but you have to get over it or it will wreck anything left in your life, being bitter is counter productive and helps no one, nor does feeling sorry for yourself and the energy its taking from you can be used for a better purpose. If your case was as straight forward as you put it you would have a case for compensation.

Social services have a duty to help you and if they dont contact your MP, take action and force through DPs so that you can chose your own help.

From your own account here you are commiting fraud, you need to sort it out now and the NHS has nothing to do with it nor does your sisters ex.

My mum has not committed fraud anywhere and I don't think she has posted this. I am trying to close it down.

healy

I wish someone had quoted the original post.

I hate it when people mess around like this.

alwaysonthego_2

Board guide comment

Thread closed