in a bit of a wedding ring pickle!!

jenhug

It was the jeweller in ernest jones that told me this, it will need redoing, but should not need doing too often. my friend got married about 8 years ago, and her white gold ring still looks new.

iamana1ias

jenhug wrote: »

It was the jeweller in ernest jones that told me this, it will need redoing, but should not need doing too often. my friend got married about 8 years ago, and her white gold ring still looks new.

It's not true though (and the staff in Ernest Jones aren't jewellers).

Replating requirements will depend on how the jewellery is worn and how well it was plated in the first place.

And IIRC from a course I did, you have to have the white metal in the base gold to enable the rhodium to stick!

jenhug

Blimey, i stand corrected then! I only have bog standard yellow gold, what would I know! LOL!

JBD

OP, personally I would tell your OH straight if you don't like the ring.It's nice that he wants to wear his and to honour his great grandparents but thats his choice and personally I don't think he should make that choice for you. Your wedding ring should be something that you are happy with[obviously being considerate about his finances].

LegalBlonde

If you don't want to hurt his feelings, I would just try it on and tell him as if you have just thought of it - oh yellow gold and white gold/silver do not go, everyone knows that. Unless he suggests you change your engagement ring, I think you are going to have to melt the ring down to a necklace or something and get a different wedding ring.

My partner (who has not proposed by the way lol) at first did not seem to realise either that many women do not like gold. Luckily he bought me a ring with jewels at the front and a gold band at the back, which I wear on my little finger (it was our first xmas together, we didn't have time to go get it changed for my man fingers) so I was able to tell him about my preference for white gold/silver.

Your partner sounds like his heart is in the right place and it could be as simple as him just worrying about the money of buying new ones or that he has just not really thought of it that much rather than his heart being set on them. He obviously liked your engagement ring so if you just explain it cannot be worn alongside that I am sure he will help you think of something alternative.

I think if it was me the minute I saw them I would say I don't like them - lol hmmm maybe that is why my OH has not proposed!