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in a bit of a wedding ring pickle!!

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  • emlou2009
    emlou2009 Posts: 4,016 Forumite
    it would still be the wrong colour though steph :)
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  • svjenni
    svjenni Posts: 525 Forumite
    what about getting them plated with a white mtal - is platinum plating possible? or silver if not?
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  • shellsuit
    shellsuit Posts: 24,749 Forumite
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    Nobody can expect you to wear 2 different coloured rings on one finger!

    I'd just say thank you for the gesture, but my engagement ring is platinum (or whatever it is) and I'll need a silver coloured metal wedding band as 2 different colours won't look right.

    It's not being mean, it's being realistic, 2 different coloured metals will look so odd!
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  • emlou2009
    emlou2009 Posts: 4,016 Forumite
    hmm, i've just found this which seems to suggest its perfectly possible to plate yellow gold with rhodium, but that it will need re-plating frequently, so if i did go down that route i'd have to not have it for a while at a time while its re-done... not so sure now!
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  • emlou2009
    emlou2009 Posts: 4,016 Forumite
    do you know what though actually, i was so worried about telling him i didnt want the ring in case i seemed like an ungrateful cow, i was expecting a barrage of people telling me how rude i am to not like the family heirloom i've been given! thank you for all being so nice and understanding what my problem is, you have all reassured me that its going to be ok to speak to him about it whatever i end up doing!
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  • iamana1ias
    iamana1ias Posts: 3,777 Forumite
    Can't he have your ring melted down into a pendant or something, for you to wear on the day, and then buy you a white gold band to wear with your ring? He can wear the original ring if he wants to.
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  • Maydot
    Maydot Posts: 203 Forumite
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    Could you use the heirloom rings for the actual ceremony but purchase a white gold ring to match your engagement ring to wear after?

    It does look odd to wear two colours of gold together and hopefully H2B would understand this. His family rings would be used for the most meaningful part of the ceremony and you would still have them for future wear if needbe. :)
  • sarah_elton
    sarah_elton Posts: 2,017 Forumite
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    It is a lovely sentiment, BUT, you're the one who has to wear the ring for the rest of your life! I think you need to tell him. You're the one who'll see it on your finger every day.

    Personally, I like yellow gold (and it doesn't look chavvy on me :p). But that's just it; it's all about personal taste.

    OHs mum had a family engagement ring she offered him. It just wasn't to my taste and I told him so, and he was fine with that. Also, I felt that my ring should be mine; just mine. I didn't want it to have been used in a previous marriage, even a long and happy one. Just my feeling.

    Also agree completely that two colours of gold together would look very odd. I have a yellow gold engagement ring and when we look for wedding rings (I do want a plain yellow gold band) will want to match the shade of gold as closely as I can.
  • jenhug
    jenhug Posts: 2,277 Forumite
    white gold is just yellow gold that has been rhodium plated. can you not get that done?
  • iamana1ias
    iamana1ias Posts: 3,777 Forumite
    jenhug wrote: »
    white gold is just yellow gold that has been rhodium plated. can you not get that done?

    No it's not :rolleyes:

    The yellow gold is bleached with white metals before being plated ;)
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