help. Xmas do... suspected of doing DRUGS!!!!!!

u264047

Hi all,

Just after some advice, had the Office Xmas party on Thursday last week and I was heard SNIFFING in the toilets (i have had a terrible cold all week) anyway, turns out there was the Sales Manager taking a leak at the urinal at the same time I was in there... as i was leaving i said hello etc... and he said "get out of my face" also said he "is no mug, been around the block a few times and knows what I was doing in there"

He then rounded up everyone who was still there (this was quite late on) and made everyone leave me there... besides the two people who chose to stand by me as they know i'm not the kind to do drugs.

Met up with them/him later on by accident and he'd spread it round that i'm a "smack head" and after much condescending chat with him later he said if i admit i have a "drug problem" then he would stand by me...

He also said that if i just tell him what i was snorting in the bathroom he'd let it go.. so i said fine "i was snorting a lozenge" (i was drunk) then he said he didn't believe me and threatened me with a sit down on monday morning with high ranking managers etc... oh, and that i'd go to prison.

I'm really good at my job, I like it and i am NOT a coke fiend... What the hell should i do? This is ridiculous... please give me advice as this is really haunting me.

Thanks,
Matt

pinkshoes

Firstly, you can detect drugs in your system for quite a while after you've taken them (2 to 5 days for cocaine), so tell him to organise a drugs test, and if it proves positive, you'll pay for the test yourself.

You could always tell your work colleagues that the real reason he started the rumour was that you caught him having bum s*x in the cubicle with another man...

EDIT: http://www.drug-aware.com/articles/16/order-online

dtc04

he sounds like an idiot, if a boss was spreading rumors like that about me I would be considering putting in a grievance.

kiwifruit_2

Its been a while since Ive worked in the A&D field, but a drug test for cocaine usually needs to be secured within 48hrs of last use. If it were me, I would be off to get a blood test, paying for it myself. Let this guy take you to management and then when the results come back negative and clear, showing that well within the 48hrs you got the test done - I would then ask him to pay the cost of it all and an apology with notification to all he had told, that he had apologised to you.

wontfallforit

u264047 wrote: »

Hi all,

Just after some advice, had the Office Xmas party on Thursday last week and I was heard SNIFFING in the toilets (i have had a terrible cold all week) anyway, turns out there was the Sales Manager taking a leak at the urinal at the same time I was in there... as i was leaving i said hello etc... and he said "get out of my face" also said he "is no mug, been around the block a few times and knows what I was doing in there"

He then rounded up everyone who was still there (this was quite late on) and made everyone leave me there... besides the two people who chose to stand by me as they know i'm not the kind to do drugs.

Met up with them/him later on by accident and he'd spread it round that i'm a "smack head" and after much condescending chat with him later he said if i admit i have a "drug problem" then he would stand by me...

He also said that if i just tell him what i was snorting in the bathroom he'd let it go.. so i said fine "i was snorting a lozenge" (i was drunk) then he said he didn't believe me and threatened me with a sit down on monday morning with high ranking managers etc... oh, and that i'd go to prison.

I'm really good at my job, I like it and i am NOT a coke fiend... What the hell should i do? This is ridiculous... please give me advice as this is really haunting me.

Thanks,
Matt

First things first, you're extremely unlikely to go to prison for drug use, even if you had done it. With no physical evidence of drug posession/useage whatsoever, there's absolutely nothing that could happen to you, legally.

Secondly, you need to make note of the fact that this manager in question apparently told other people that you were using drugs. You need to establish whether or not this is true, from the people he apparently told (when push comes to shove, don't be surprised if many people deny all knowledge of his gossip).

If the manager insists, then go to the meeting with his seniors, and put your case across - factually and truthfully.

(you might also want to request that your employer drug-tests you but to be honest I don't really know how feasible that is - maybe I watch too many movies )

hartcjhart

I might be wrong but I am sure there is a drugs 'toxicology'test that can be done by using strands of hair,maybe consider getting that done, or say to your employer that you are more than willing to undergo the test

raebhoop

Go over his head to higher management and state your case...If you let it drop nobody is going to believe you.If this was over a week ago, proving your case might be difficult....but it would be a mistake to leave the ball in his court.

hartcjhart

here we go I knew I had read it somewhere

http://www.trichotech.com/?gclid=CKXGrs6A454CFYKCzAodu1l_Mg

u264047

Thanks for all the quick replies, thing is, this is going to ruin my reputation....

I mean, this was at 1am in a bar in town... well after hours, i just feel like i shouldn't even have to offer a drug test.. my word should be enough. I swore to him on my mothers life (last resort!) and he just stared at me flat and said "i don't believe you, that is what a drug addict would say"

I have never felt so spoken down to in my life... everyone at work likes me, just this one guy (who i have nothing to do with really, doesn't even work in the same building) with a napoleon complex, decided that because i'm pretty cool and get a lot of recognition for what I do, decided to be a !!!!!! with me about this.

Guess my card is marked now... even though i love the suggestion above about spreading a bum sex rumour!

BeenieCat

Omg he sounds like a grade A t0sser!!

I have a sneaky suspicion his seniors will know what he's like if they've ever socialised together before, people don't generally just turn into such idiots.

He sounds paranoid aswell, maybe he's the druggy :eek:

pinkshoes

Seriously, I wouldn't worry about it!

Go along to the meeting, tell them you've never used drugs, and they're welcome to do a random drugs test on you at any time they choose.

Odd this guy knows so much about drugs... perhaps he should be the one being tested??