Dad worried they've brought the wrong house

Morgan_Ree

blushingbride wrote: »

Dad already has a business so they wont be doing that.

Mum wants the space as there are 4 of us so we can all come and stay etc

Well unless you're all planing on moving in there then yes 7 beds for 2 people is excessive

But who are we to say what they can or can't spend their money on!
If they love the house then let them get on with

blushingbride_3

Its not that they didnt want to downsize like i said they've been looking for ages to move & this is the hosue that they have both liked.

Also where we are its hard to find nice houses which are smaller & have land, something which dad has always wanted.
If they'd found the house when they first started looking - about 5 yrs ago then it wouldnt be a problem.

One solution is that when they find it too much they will move into the barn & we will live in & look after the bigger house.

Otherwise i wonder if they might have to do it up & put it back on the market.

ckerrd

ILW wrote: »

Previous house may have had 20 bedrooms.

I took this comment "it is bigger & they were supposed to be downsising!" in the first post to suggest that it was bigger than their previous property. But it may simply have been that it was bigger than they had originally intended to buy. The OP will doubtless clarify

blushingbride_3

poppysarah wrote: »

Get him to look into ground source heat pumps if he's worried about heating costs. not sure what floors you have in a georgian house or what issues there might be doing work on it.
One of my dream houses is this one
http://www.rightmove.co.uk/property-for-sale/property-19292404.html

Thanks Sarah, yes we will be researching different heating systems.

The house you like is lovely, similar to the one they have brought but they have one 2 floors which is a bonus.

With regards to old age, there is space for a lift etc or for them to live just in the downstairs rooms if ever need be.

I was just worried because dad seems to think he's made a big mistake so wanted to find out other peoples views & come up with suggestions which might help him feel a bit more positive.

Of course this horrid weather doesnt help

ckerrd

How big was the old house?

And it is still not "brought" it is "bought"

pickledpink

blushingbride wrote: »

My parents started moving yesterday & now my dad (59yrs) is panicing that the house is too big.

it is bigger & they were supposed to be downsising!

It has 7 bedrooms & very large downstairs rooms.

The only advice i've given him is to so it up (needs some decorating etc) & see how they feel.

There is also a small barn/outbuilding which me & hubby would like to convert & live in. this would mean they have help onsite etc & wont be on there own.

Anyone elses parents live in big houses? is it a major problem as they get older?

BB

Strange your farther is panicking now!:eek:

Is it in a rough area or something? Why is he only now having grave doubts?

Regarding the heating.............tell them to close some of the rooms off and buy some calor gas fires for the sitting room, bedroom/bathroom ,and kitchen - that will cut down on heating costs considereably.:money:

MSE is geat isn't it?:D

Doozergirl

pickledpink wrote: »

Regarding the heating.............tell them to close some of the rooms off and buy some calor gas fires for the sitting room, bedroom/bathroom ,and kitchen - that will cut down on heating costs considereably.:money:

MSE is geat isn't it?:D

The thought of buying a big old house and then closing off rooms and using calor gas heaters - this is exactly what the people I know were doing and it's just insane - perhaps a brutal opinion but if you can't afford or don't want to pay to heat it and enjoy it, don't buy it! It has caused issues because damp will creep in if a house isn't kept warm so the battle starts instead against that.

lincroft1710

7 bed house = more to heat, more to clean, more to light, more to pay (Council Tax), more to maintain, more to decorate, possibly more difficult to sell when they want to move.

I love the idea of a 7 bed house with land, I'm a similar age to your father BUT apart from the actual initial cost, all the above put me off completely.

blushingbride_3

well thanks for all your comments, sorry for the spelling mistakes i didnt realise that was more important than the actual topic!

Dad seeems to have settled a little after our chat, i think he is just worried he has made a mistake plus possibly upset about leaving the house they've been in for so long, even thought they've been wanting to leave it for a long time.

Once they're settled they will be fine,

Unfortunately there isnt gas only oil so i am off to research oil fires

thanks for all the advice.

PasturesNew

Maybe the best bet is to crack on with the barn conversion for now, then move into there and convert the big house into two flats. Then they can move back into the lower flat, rent the top one out and you can move into the barn.

7 bedrooms is too big. There's a lot of maintenance in any property, just keeping the gutters clear, sorting out odd bits and pieces of the exterior, not to mention all the inside stuff.