Prison

greenface

what could you do if people moved into your next door now and had a son doing bird or off his cake on drugs etc. Nothing. but not forgetting you want to sell and you know your neighbours son is "in for a stretch" someone made you a decent offer would you say whoooa hold on i second did i mention Charlie Manson Next door. If their neighbour hasnt had a problem its not their problem

SPOTTEDCUP

sorry nickswift
you knocked fishing for infomation most people would of still told you to get lost though

you could buy the house and anybody move in nextdoor theres nothing you can do about it

you will find 99% of neighbours are great if you both make an effort

the lady has been upfront and honest with you thats a good start in my book, its unfair to judge her through her son

Debt_Free_Chick

nickswift wrote: »

I work from home, so I dont want to be disturbed during the day (or night really) so who I live nextdoor to is more important to me than most people.

But this guy is IN prison - shouldn't you be more concerned about those who are not?

Although, having said that, one can never be certain that those we live near are not up to "no good", especially if they've not yet been caught.

It just seems to me that you're worrying about something that's been addressed. And, of course, you don't know what he's in prison for. Shoplifting? Driving offence? some other misdemeanour?

benjo

nickswift wrote: »

I work from home, so I dont want to be disturbed during the day (or night really) so who I live nextdoor to is more important to me than most people.
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It is your money, your (potential) home - check until you feel happy. This guy could be serving a prison sentance for mass murder and be suffering from a severe and treatment resistant psychosis with underlying anti social personality disorder (or perhaps I have been reading too many cheap novels).... on the other hand he could be serving 28 days for non payment of a fine imposed for not having a TV license and his mental illness might stretch only as far as obssessive cleanliness.

The Mental Health Foundation estimate that 1 in 4 people will suffer some form of mental ill health at some time during their life and that only 1 in 10 prisoners in the UK have NO mental health problems - where ever you move, you have a pretty high chance that your neighbour will suffer during their life time and of every 10 people leaving prison for non payment of fines for not buying a TV license, 9 of them will have mental health problems - meh, lies, damn lies and statistics, but you get my drift.

On the subject of not wanting to be disturbed during the day or night then I would really recommend buying a detached property, (if it is that important to you then dont even consider an attached property) - preferably one that is pretty isolated. Even the nicest, most god fearing neighbours are disturbing at times - especially those who play piano and sing hymns badly for 3 hours on a Sunday!

I have had some brilliant neighbours throughout my life, some that I consider to be as close as family - but when I lived in terraced/semi/attached properties, they did get on my nerves, they did 'disturb' me - I would fight tooth and claw always to be in a detached/isolated property - I like being able to wave at my neighbours as I see them in the distance rather than listening to them flushing the loo in the night!

You cant control your neighbours, but you do have a choice about how close those neighbours are to your bondary fence - is this the right house for you?

goldbyron

Unless there has been official complaints between No.14 and No.16 - No.14 has no obligation to tell you anything at all. No.16 has a son in prison with MH problems and the postie has indicated an issue - I understand your hesitation and I probably would withdraw as neighbours are very important to me. However the vendor has not acted outside of any obligations at this time.

Debt_Free_Chick

benjo wrote: »

It is your money, your (potential) home - check until you feel happy.

I don't disagree with this, but you are then left with the task of "checking again" every time someone new moves in next door or close by. Not something that will come easily to many of us, but a personal choice.

ILW

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

It just seems to me that you're worrying about something that's been addressed. And, of course, you don't know what he's in prison for. Shoplifting? Driving offence? some other misdemeanour?

Probably murdered his neighbour with an axe.

not_loaded

I’ve a ghastly feeling that the son isn’t really in the nick. He’s actually murdered the neighbour and is now selling his house by impersonating him.

The woman you thought was his mother is in fact a transsexual lumberjack who has the son under his amorous enchantment. Thus the apparent honesty (which fooled most of us) is merely a subterfuge.

You may however get the house for a good price, but get your surveyor to look under the patio…

Hopejack

The thing is the postie said 'watch out for no 16' - could it in fact be that the woman/rest of the family is a nightmare and that it is not just the son who is in fact in prison so can't do much on the outside right now anyway. The woman could seem like Florence Nightingale during a fleeting visit but may actually be more like Myra Hindley in real life/day to day!!

It just strikes me as odd that the postie thinks there is still an issue....

I think the OP has every right to do some research - like he said, it's a lot of money and huge investment, the biggest most people will ever make. I wonder if those of you who have pooh-poohed his actions have ever lived next to problem neighbours?

Re the vendor, it's a while since I sold but don't you have to fill in some questionnaire asking if you've ever had problems (not necessarily official?) with your neighbours?

Ian_W

ILW wrote: »

Probably murdered his neighbour with an axe.

Ah, so that's why there was no-one in at No 12!

It's all very well flaming or trying to reason that you could get a bad neighbour in other ways but at the end of the day it's nickswift's call, his substantial wodge of money and if he ain't happy he'd be a bozo to buy it. Personally I'd have made more effort to find out what went on (other neighbours, local paper etc) but mother hoping to move before son gets out and next door neighbour up for sale doesn't bode well. IMO.

It's alright being PC about mental health and being in prison but you lot weren't exactly queuing around the block to buy 10 Rillington Place, now were you? :eek: