Prison

bristol_pilot

Not all people with MH problems are bad, but MH plus prison suggests violence to me.

Our prisons are not full of little old ladies who could not pay their council tax. The government is DESPERATE to get prison numbers down. So it takes a violent or significantly anti-social offence to get sent to prison these days. Could be repetitive burglary, repetitive car theft (both of which which I class as violence btw), arson, racially-motivated attacks, serious drug dealing. I'd say it was HIGHLY RELEVANT what the neighbour is in prison for and I wouldn't buy the house unless I knew.

geri1965_2

bristol_pilot wrote: »

Not all people with MH problems are bad, but MH plus prison suggests violence to me.

Not necessarily, my friend has severe mental health problems (bi polar) and has been in prison four times, he has never been convicted of any offence that involves violence though,

Violent people are violent people, mentally ill or perfectly sane.

bristol_pilot

Not necessarily, indeed. But I wouldn't bet my house on it.

Hopejack

Tbh the fact the postman said that would make me walk away - he's not going to say it just for the 'good of his health' - he has nothing to lose. Another neighbour, would be less likely to be truthful I fear, they could be friendly with the person selling or even no 16! You just don't know. The thing is a lot of people don't realise it could get them into trouble if they are not truthful and then you buy and have an issue.

I personally would walk away - there are other houses.

And, why did the woman feel compelled to tell you, a complete stranger, that her son was in prison - very odd imo....

Milliewilly

Yes you would think as she volunteered this information freely then it must be common knowledge. I too would walk away.

Not related strictly but when I bought a house with (unknown) structural issues a few years ago all the neighbours openly discussed the problems with me. When I asked why they hadn't told me before I completed they said they felt that if I pulled out and said to the vendor its because 'X neighbour has said theres a problem' then they were then stuck living next to someone they have aggreived by casuing thier sale to fall through.

nickswift

thanks everyone, I have left a message with EA pulling out of the deal.

SPOTTEDCUP

nickswift

let me get this right you knocked on number 16 to talk about the ladies son and she invited you in and told you all about him

think she sounds a nice person, most people would of told you to get lost and mind your own business

maybe they should be more concerned about you moving in!

nickswift

SPOTTEDCUP wrote: »

nickswift

let me get this right you knocked on number 16 to talk about the ladies son and she invited you in and told you all about him

think she sounds a nice person, most people would of told you to get lost and mind your own business

maybe they should be more concerned about you moving in!

I know, I do feel bad about it, but I am always going to do my research if I am making a big purchase like a house as its for 25 years. I did not knock on her door to talk about her son (you need to read my original post) , I just wanted to check her out becasue of what the postman said about #16 I had no idea about her son, she told me all about him and his prison stuff / MH issues.

new_home_owner_3

DVardysShadow wrote: »

Or might not. Some neighbours who have not been to prison can cause more grief than those who are inside

Ive just read this and it made me laugh:D how can they cause grief when they are inside prison?

not_loaded

At least the lady at number 16 was straight with you. Not many people would have been so forthright.

From this forum it can be seen that honesty is getting a bit rare in the house buying and selling situation. I wonder if you consider the vendor was being honest with you?