2.5 Million Families on £100k/year Don't Feel Rich

fc123

PasturesNew wrote: »

Well, I feel lucky I live here and have what I have. I feel "rich" in that way, but I do find UK society seems to spend 100% of its time trying to make me feel financially inadequate. My struggle is between feeling I'm doing fine ... and the pressure of others based on what they think I must have, just because they do.

Most "conversation" with people seems to be a list of them telling you what they've bought/got and where they're going off on holiday! ... in a smug way

Who are you hanging out with?? Try hanging out with some diff types for a while. Don't feel financially inadequate.......I do understand though. I still feel very poor all of the time...achingly so sometimes...but I know we are not....not compared to others.

However.....can I just say, I know and hang out with a wide variety of people from all income brackets...and the stuff that really upsets people is usually affairs of the heart, problems with kids/elderly parents and so on.

My SIL is meant to be 'living in poverty' from a financial perspective but, some weeks, she has more spare cash than us.

And I will confess, we are in the 6 figs but only just and I live a far less cosy existence than my parents or grandparents (like; I have to work full on 7 days p wk just to get by,whereas my mother and grandmother could waft around running the home ...a nice 4/6 bed family detached in nice area jobby too....I only get to waft post 10.30pm for an hour or so).

It's a state of mind too. I will always feel not wealthy as it is such a struggle and effort to bring the £££ into the household. If I stop and have a rest.....oooooops...it all collapses.

fc123

PasturesNew wrote: »

I have only ever been once. About 20 years ago, somebody took about 6 of us to a show as a treat. Miss Saigon it was. Hell of a long journey, there/back on the same day too. Apart from that I've never been to a theatre, or a pantomime. I don't really fancy them either. I think theatres etc outside of London are completely different affairs... I was brought up in the countryside and have usually lived rurally. Any local theatre groups would have had a dull production running for a few nights twice a year probably.

I think more people go to more things these days - but it could be because I'm mixing with posher people online than I ever did in real life. In real life I just mixed with ... the underclasses, until I stopped doing that as I had nothing in common with them except they just hung out on walls/street corners for free.

When you move, you can get £10 Gods tickets for many top shows if you contact the theatre directly and can go next day (weekdays) plus I will take you to Billy Elliot....It is just amazing. Still best show on in London.
My dad used to pop into the royal opera house after work and get really cheap OAP seats (I think a fiver?0 on standby ....this was few years back mind. Otherwise it was £100 per seat.
I admit, it always amazes me who are the people that can afford to go to opera/ballet and eat out all the time.

PasturesNew

Quite a lot of these £100k earners on this thread then ... didn't expect any to exist here to be honest. I guess I just assumed that people here were usually earning about £25-40k max.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

Quite a lot of these £100k earners on this thread then ... didn't expect any to exist here to be honest. I guess I just assumed that people here were usually earning about £25-40k max.

Sort of my point to you in the past: you can;t tell someone's money (not that league money) just by looking at them or reading their posts. This dissappoints some, mind you.;) Often whats flash ain't paid for cash.

Mr.Brown_4

PasturesNew wrote: »

Quite a lot of these £100k earners on this thread then ... didn't expect any to exist here to be honest. I guess I just assumed that people here were usually earning about £25-40k max.

Perhaps it makes some sort of point PN. 100k doesn't neccessarily get you any more 'fun' or better quality freetime- just a bigger mortgage, higher school fees and an imperceptible rise in living standards that you are too tired to notice.

Oh and that utter twonk Gordon determined to bring class war back into politics and basically blame and bleed rich people until he achieves some kind of equality. Having failed to raise standards for poor people, why not tax the rich out of existence?

Some sort of achievement, that after ten years or so of Labour, and the NICE decade, and supposedly low inflation - 100k is not the lottery winnings that it would have been considered in earlier days. No wonder every other dim wit with a second rate degree has a job on t'council at 100k PLUS.

Sorry. Meant to do a jokey post. Got a bit annoyed instead.

fc123

PasturesNew wrote: »

Quite a lot of these £100k earners on this thread then ... didn't expect any to exist here to be honest. I guess I just assumed that people here were usually earning about £25-40k max.

But for some of us it's better some years than others.

The reason OH and I never 'feel' wealthy is that large chunks of our earnings get spent on things that used to be free (free for my parents for example) like schooling.

I really hate to chatter about earnings as it's so subjective and always comes over to others in the wrong way.

OK, Confession time.....I did feel ''wealthy'' last week. DD has a back issue and as OH has a deformed spine, I 'phoned GP to get an appt. just in case she had inherited it.
Week waiting list so we went to a chiropracter; £52. *Kapow*.

Some prodding, kneading and stuff...problem is her rubbish shoes (I have tried but we don't 'do' rows in sensible shoe shops any more) and fallen arches, her fashion bag used for school slung over one shoulder and her mattress.
So,we bought insoles £42 *double Kapow*.

Follow up appointment (to see if solutions helped) £53 *thwack*.

Then a further appt booked....we cancelled it as back is fine now.....and we did discuss the value in spending a further £52.
And I do know that finding £152 extra would be impossible for many so I accept that we may not be as ''poor'' as I usually feel.

Spirit_2

lostinrates wrote: »

Sort of my point to you in the past: you can;t tell someone's money (not that league money) just by looking at them or reading their posts. This dissappoints some, mind you.;)

At work I look like I earn 'enough'. The rest of the time I look care worn at best. I have no idea how my posts look.

lostinrates

fc123 wrote: »

And I do know that finding £152 extra would be impossible for many so I accept that we may not be as ''poor'' as I usually feel.

I have spent a lot, most of what I had, on my health...and its something I cannot resent. I might have died rich: but what would that have done for me? I was really lucky to have help with that health too, because the a lot I had wasn't anywhere near enough.

lostinrates

Bootski wrote: »

Stupid, Selfish and everso greedy to think you can't live on that amount of money.
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But that is not what is said. Its said they don't feel rich, which is different from not being able to live on that amount of money.

kabayiri

PasturesNew wrote: »

Quite a lot of these £100k earners on this thread then ... didn't expect any to exist here to be honest. I guess I just assumed that people here were usually earning about £25-40k max.

I dislike talking about money or material things really. I'm not even sure what my house value is.

In the past we would get invited to dinner parties. One hostess, although a really nice person, always had that tone which meant she knew the value of everything in the M&S store. It wrankled with me, to the point where I remarked how similar she looked to Thelma off the Likely Lads.

I don't think we've been invited back since....