single mum help

riley_dn2

HI,
I became a single mum to 2 beautiful children in march of this year and currently receive income support, child benefit, housing benefit and child tax credit. It was my husband that left not me. (the swine got a younger model!)

we have however, remained friends. he sees the children every day and we have actually slept together ( yes I'm a fool), as a result I'm pregnant. I'm petrified that i'll be "done" for benefit fraud when this is definately not the case. We live in separate addresses and do not wish to be a couple.

can anyone help on what my next step should be, i can't face a termination

thanks

slowandsteady_2

Im no expert but im sure you wont be done for benefit fraud, as im sure who you choose to have a relationship is your business, so long as like you said you are not breaking the rules about living as a couple and stuff.

Your husband would likely be expected to contribute to the upkeep of all your children including the baby id have thought, which is only right.

Then i expect you will receive extra tax credits and child benefit for your new baby and Healthy Start vouchers also.

Im sure you havent committed a crime so dont worry.

If im wrong im sure someone more knowlegable will be along!

Enjoy your pregnancy!

riley_dn2

Thanks, a few friends have told me as much but my ex is drumming it into me that there'll be a huge investigation and i'll be arrested and i'll lose all my children! as you can probably tell, he doesn't want me to have the baby. no doubt he'll have a lot of explaining to do with the new girlfriend!
thanks for your thoughts again

[Deleted User]

Dont believe a word he says,sounds like a rat anyway,he certainly as you say has his reasons for trying to scare you into not having his baby.
Does he currently make contributions to his children either on a voluntary basis or via the CSA?If not then make sure he does now.

NobleWordz

riley_dn2 wrote: »

Thanks, a few friends have told me as much but my ex is drumming it into me that there'll be a huge investigation and i'll be arrested and i'll lose all my children! as you can probably tell, he doesn't want me to have the baby. no doubt he'll have a lot of explaining to do with the new girlfriend!
thanks for your thoughts again

Sounds like he is afraid to be honest and trying to put you off having the baby.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation years ago, there we no issues..

Congratulations BTW.

Oh I pressed the thanks button by accident.

CRANKY40

He's talking through his bum. You don't even need to name the father to the CSA anymore if you don't want to.

rheme

riley_dn2 wrote: »

Thanks, a few friends have told me as much but my ex is drumming it into me that there'll be a huge investigation and i'll be arrested and i'll lose all my children! as you can probably tell, he doesn't want me to have the baby. no doubt he'll have a lot of explaining to do with the new girlfriend!
thanks for your thoughts again

What a control freak and bully. When did he qualify as an expert in social security payments and procedures? Suggest he goes for retraining.

He is cr**ping himself about what the new girlfriend will do for one and secondly worrying about how much extra money this is going to cost him and for how long for.

Look after yourself, your children and have a brilliant pregnancy.

elektra-2007

Im pretty sure your allowed someone to stay over a few nights a week anyway, so dont worry its not an issue.
As a single paremnt you will be entitled to hs vouchers from about 6months pregs, then a sure start mat grant of £500, and ct credits with an extra £10 (i think for the first year), and child benefit. Dont let him worry you about authorities ect, Of course if he splits up with the gf and you get back it will all be different!

wobin

There are plenty of single mum's who fall pregnant (on purpose or by accident) and they are not investigated for fraud. Your ex does not know what he is talking about. x

uganda

Like the others have said, you have absolutely nothing to hide (though it sounds like HE does!).

Even if the benefits section got suspicious and investigated you (highly unlikely) you telling them the complete truth about what happened would suffice to satisfy them that you were bona fide.

In the meantime good luck with everything else, it doesn't sound like you've made things easy for yourself but we all make mistakes.

sp1987

Do not have a termination if that is not what you want to do....there is nothing worse than the wrong decision for you on such a crucial thing.

He is trying to get rid of the ''evidence'' as it were and is trying to manipulate you.

At least you may soon have a third beautiful child to make up for the mistake of sleeping with the pratt again!