tracing my ex

Pee

I suggest you let your daughter write to him, making just a short letter asking him to contact her as she has questions to ask him, and pass that to his family to pass to him.

He can then decide what he wants to do.

Do you think he has concerns about giving out his address because of how he thinks you may behave - perhaps based on how you have behaved in the past or how he has seen other people behave or on his new family's thoughts on this?

I have a few male friends who have lost contact with their children and I have seen them be too scared to contact their children and pretend that it doesn't matter. I have seen them try and be brushed aside no matter what they do.

Whatever went on in the past with you and him, I would be very surprised if he wasn't interested in his daughter.

koobster

webitha wrote: »

what a twonk but unfortunately there is nowt you can do about it

i have had a thought, and im sorry, i dont mean to cause upset or offense, but,
have you thought that the reason he doesnt want contact, is the fact his "new family" doesnt know about you

they know all about us she was the reason he left us

koobster

Pee wrote: »

I suggest you let your daughter write to him, making just a short letter asking him to contact her as she has questions to ask him, and pass that to his family to pass to him.

He can then decide what he wants to do.

Do you think he has concerns about giving out his address because of how he thinks you may behave - perhaps based on how you have behaved in the past or how he has seen other people behave or on his new family's thoughts on this?

I have a few male friends who have lost contact with their children and I have seen them be too scared to contact their children and pretend that it doesn't matter. I have seen them try and be brushed aside no matter what they do.

Whatever went on in the past with you and him, I would be very surprised if he wasn't interested in his daughter.

she contacted him by phone b4 and he said "dont ring me" and hung up. yes i was angry when he left but i had every reason to be! he told me that he just doesn't love any of our chilsren and wishes he had waited until he met his new wife to have children which is not a nice thing to hear.i spoke to his dad and he said that they believe he never had any bond with our children but he does now with his precios ones!!!!!!!!!
i know if we found him and she went that he would slam the door in her face and say he never loved her so i don't want her to be put through that but she wont give up!
i hate him he was a crap dad when we were together he never had timne for them but thats all different with his new kids even his parents wont see mine coz his other kids asked them not to:mad:

DUTR

koobster wrote: »

she contacted him by phone b4 and he said "dont ring me" and hung up. yes i was angry when he left but i had every reason to be! he told me that he just doesn't love any of our chilsren and wishes he had waited until he met his new wife to have children which is not a nice thing to hear.i spoke to his dad and he said that they believe he never had any bond with our children but he does now with his precios ones!!!!!!!!!
i know if we found him and she went that he would slam the door in her face and say he never loved her so i don't want her to be put through that but she wont give up!
i hate him he was a crap dad when we were together he never had timne for them but thats all different with his new kids even his parents wont see mine coz his other kids asked them not to:mad:

As an estranged NRP , I would suggest leaving things be for now, let the NRP in this case decide when and if the time is right, leave things for the daughter to chase up if she so chooses, but you yourself stay out of the picture

kelloggs36

My ex used to be like that - refused to have any contact with our daughter. However, since the death of his MIL (whom our DD used to know when she did have contact with her father) he has suddenly changed. Even his wife (who was vile to our DD when she was there) has made contact and tried to be friendly. They haven't met yet, but have been in contact via facebook, and text. It is possible that DD will visit them over Xmas holidays. She is almost 21 now, so I don't care whether or not she sees him but what I do care about is whether he maintains the relationship that he is building. I don't want her to get hurt, but will be there for her if she does.

LizzieS_2

koobster wrote: »

even his parents wont see mine coz his other kids asked them not to:mad:

No wonder the son has no backbone.

Better off without his input, one day he will regret his pathetic actions.

DUTR

LizzieS wrote: »

No wonder the son has no backbone.

Better off without his input, one day he will regret his pathetic actions.

Truth is, one day he may not regret his actions , he has a new life and moved on, pays his dues and doing nothing illegal in this scenario.

jen_br

If you really want his address and i don't reccomend it it sounds like your daughter will get hurt and frankly I rather have her romantize about the relationship then feel unloved

but 192.com he will be registered with the census.. 192 looks up the electoral roll sooo you can find him there actually i have some free criedts and if you wish, (no pressure) i will gladly search for him for you PM me the details....

then it wont cost you but if your happy paying for the criedt they are very cheap then go for it!

koobster

ta but he isnt on the voters roll unfotunantely