searching for adopted sister

louise35_2

can anyone help me..........i didnt know until my mum died in 1987 that she had given birth to another daughter, and i have been trying to find her since,but as i dont know her new name i have been unable to.
all i know is her date of birth and birth name..........and the date and area that she was adopted
thank you in advance
keeping everthing crossed

fsdss

contact the Social Services Adoption Team for the area in which your sister was born / adopted. all they can do is put a letter in her file and if she requests it she can contact you.

from what i understand only she can initiate a trace if she so desires

hope this helps

andycarmi

Looking for adult relatives try
The Salvation Army's Family Tracing Service.

http://www2.salvationarmy.org.uk/uki/www_uki.nsf/vw-search/79FF668A8768F77480256F19005BE0C0?opendocument

Good luck, know this worked for a freind.

Gem_

I am not sure the salvation army can help with adoption cases - from the info on their website it seems adopted children are given a new birth certificate so it is not possible to trace them based on this.

They do suggest another website http://www.look4them.org.uk/ which might be of help. This company seem to provide what you are looking for http://www.norcap.org.uk/home.asp

Good Luck

G

Beckipeg

Here's some information from the Bedfordshire Virtual Library pages (http://www.galaxy.bedfordshire.gov.uk/webingres/bedfordshire/vlib/0.information_reference/finding_people_how_to.htm#Are_you_an_adopted_person - this page has the links to pages mentioned):

"You can contact services that specially help people who have been adopted and their families. The National Organisation for Counselling Adoptees and Parents (NORCAP) is a charity providing help and support for people who are adopted, birth relatives of adopted people and adoptive families. It has the UK's largest Adoption Contact Register. You can find links to other services on the BAAF web site

If you are adopted, or if you are a birth parent or other relative of someone who was adopted, you can ask for your name and address to be added to the Adoption Contact Register at the General Register Office. If a connection is found, the General Register Office sends the adopted person the details of the relatives and informs the relatives that a connection has been found

You can search indexes of legal adoptions in England and Wales since 1927 at the Family Records Centre in London. The indexes contain information under the child's adopted name only. It is not possible to cross-check with registered birth names.

You can order adoption certificates by post or by telephone from the General Register Office or in person from the Family Records Centre. Adoption certificates refer to the adoptive parents and the child's adopted name only. They do not give details of the child's birth parents or original name

You can read further details about adoption and access to birth records in the book 'The Family Records Centre: a user's guide, 2nd edition', by Stella Colwell, published by the Public Record Office, 2002

The book 'Where to find adoption records: a guide for counsellors, adopted people and birth parents, 3rd edition', edited by Georgina Stafford and published by BAAF, 2001, is a directory of adoption agencies with details of the years for which they have records"

Hope this helps take you further

Prudent

I can add nothing to the good advise given. However I would like to encourage you by saying that my mum (age 74) found her younger adopted sister last year.

macchicken

Try putting an ad in some local or national papers.
good luck

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Once the adopted person has turned 18, it is ok to search for them. People who are searching are supposed to go through an intermediate service such as social services, however, I wouldn't trust social services. Don't know that many people who've had good experiences with them.

Check out https://www.afteradoption.org.uk go to the forum. Plenty of good advice and experiences from every angle of the adoption triangle

hotbod

agree about lack of trust with the social services
you could try unity against injustice website
i am sure they have a section on there for relatives who are searching for each other
good luck !

divadee

Not tying to put a downer on things, but if a connection is found tread very carefully please.

Your sister will have her own life, might not want to know about her birth family and that can be upsetting for everyone.

I am adopted and i have no interest in finding my womb that carried me (i say that as she is not my mother my mum and dad are the people who have loved and cared for me all my life not her) Some people need to know others dont. You might feel very upset if she rejects you if you did find her, as she might not want to know anything.

I hate this new law that allows the biological people to trace their children, its wrong and only the children should have the say as to weather they want to be found and have contact etc.... They gave up that right when they gave their children away for adoption.

This might sound like i am bitter but i am definately not. I could not have better parents i love them deeply and most of the time forget that i am adopted anyway!!! My mum laughed when i went to the drs recently and asked if i had any history of disease in the family and proceeded to reel off everything that they have had!!! lol

crutches

have pm'd you