Baby wants boob all the time - help

Yama_2

My DS was a really lazy feeder from the beginning. It took him 1hr+ to feed as he would always fall asleep, then 15 minutes free then back to feeding again. Everyone said latch was fine and it did get so much better once I got to the weaning stage and food would fill him up a tiny bit longer. Just shy of a year and he's still rubbish (either takes an hour or a minute) but I'm determined to count the number of good feeds at least two hands before I give up The BF helplines were fantastic and am indebted to them, and of course the MWs and HVs.

All the best

Yama

JBD

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

I think because it is a natural act that can involve exposed body parts that are normally not exposed. Urinating and sexual intercourse are also natural acts, but many people don't like to see them in public either.

Thinking about it, many people don't like to see topless or naked sunbathing. It really is no surprise to me (an ex breastfeeding mother) that a lot of people are uncomfortable with breastfeeding in public. And then when, if ever, does it become unacceptable? It it's acceptable to feed a newborn in public, how about a 6 month old who could be crawling round the cafe one minute and feeding the next, a 12 month old walking toddler, 4 year old etc. Like anything in public, I think it requires thought for other people as well as the baby in question's needs.:)

Sorry, I still don't understand why. I'm sure breastfeeding mothers try their hardest to be discreet and not reveal too much flesh, both for their own comfort and that of passerby's. I don't think urinating and having sex are comparable either as the vast majority of people choose to do these things in private anyway. There are laws against these acts in any case and not against breastfeeding in public. Yes I do think it would seem a little strange to see a 4 year old Bfeeding in public, perhaps because this situation seems a little bit more taboo and unusual generally.

cleopatra4485

pookienoodle - thankyou, I am the first of my friends bar one who has had a baby, so I am hoping when they all have babies look to me for advice to help them on their way (when I know it all haha). I try to keep the house between 18-22, so its not too hot or cold.

Ruby Moon - Yes I truly agree, its just getting the first few times out of the way and I should be fine, its just the fear of the unknown.

SugarSpun - It is quite a taboo subject in the UK, the fact we are speaking about it now shows there is a bit of a problem, whereas other countries would probabably not even think about it. Generally people are not against it, but they may have a shock seeing you do it as you do not see it very often. If I was you I wouldn't even think about it, you are used to doing it, its not illegal, its not wrong, so whip em out LOL.

Skinchick - I feel quite lucky now, I do not know how you deal with that sort of sleep disturbance. Hats off to you for your patience. I generally do not leave her to cry very long, I test her out for a minute or 2 to see if she is just tired or fancies a moan, if she carries on I will pick her up and she stops crying and snivels with the bottom lip out, so cute.

Lunar Eclipse - I know for a fact she is a comfort feeder alot of the time as she will just have her mouth around the nipple and suckle a couple of times a minute. I dont mind doing that for her sometimes so the trust and bond is intact, but I would prefere not to get her too used to using me as a dummy all day.

fsdss - LOL I think I will pass on your generous offer, I wouldn't want the mice moving out from there home.

Mandragora - Yes my belly has gone almost completely back to normal. My mum said that bf was good for that. They should use this reason on the breast is best campaign

becs - all the best with the baby making (and have fun as you will forget what sex is like soon enough lol) thanks for the idea, I will be on the look out for a few nice pashminas.

Thankyou all for the great tips and advice, I feel much better now about things. I have just finished pumping while she is asleep to encourage the milk supply. Plenty of food and water is a must and I am on a hunt for a pashmina for my modesty and my OH and I are going shopping on Satuarday to test her in a sling, thats comfortable for both of us.

SugarSpun

cleopatra4485 wrote: »

SugarSpun - It is quite a taboo subject in the UK, the fact we are speaking about it now shows there is a bit of a problem, whereas other countries would probabably not even think about it. Generally people are not against it, but they may have a shock seeing you do it as you do not see it very often. If I was you I wouldn't even think about it, you are used to doing it, its not illegal, its not wrong, so whip em out LOL.

The other thing is, I think, that there's almost no flesh on display when public breastfeeding is done sensibly Especially in winter, I have a nursing vest on under a warmer top, and can pull the top up and drop the vest one side at a time. Mine all have little peekaboo inserts, too, so only the nipple is out - and since the baby's firmly attached to it and usually attempting to dive into my vest headfirst, the main problem isn't that you can see my boobs (cause you can't!) but the embarrassingly loud appreciative noises she makes while she's feeding. Om nom nom, in fact, and she's taken to engaging the boob in conversation while feeding. (It has yet to talk back.)

I shall be feeding my small monster wherever she needs it, and if anyone complains I plan to ask them if they'd prefer that she screamed.

It surprises me that the UK is so apparently anti-baby - I see so many people complaining about crying babies/public breastfeeding/having a baby next to you on a plane. My monster recently had a meltdown in Paris - in the cafe in the Louvre, to be precise. The staff took my order ahead of the line of people in front of me so I could sit down and feed her, and when she kept on yelling they were fighting over themselves to be the one who got to walk her up and down and sing to her. When it happens in Germany people ask me if she's ok and if she's hot/cold/overstimulated/hungry and if they can help. When it happens to friends of mine in the UK all they report is passive-aggressive tutting and the sideeye.

Babies are hard work, but so long as the parent is doing whatever possible to get the child to behave reasonably I don't see the need to complain. Children left to scream or run amok while the parent does something else are another matter.

cleopatra4485

Yes baby also coes at the boob, especially after she has been quite vocal to have it, she is coeing at her giraffe in her play jungle right now. My OH is South African, maybe she wants to go safari :rotfl:

I forced her to carry on feeding this morning, 20 minutes on one and 20 minutes on the other and she seems quite happy at the moment. Give it 10 minute ha.

Yes the most irritating is prams on the tube/train at rush hour, yes that was my opinion before baby. It makes me laugh really that people get offended by breastfeeding, when we are a nation who likes to go out on a friday or saturday night and drink to excess and then flash our bums and boobs to any passer by :rotfl:

claireac

Your daughter sounds adorable!!

Just keep repeating the mummy mantra - it too shall pass! It sounds like a growth spurt, but make sure you're eating and drinking plenty. More than normal as she's feeding so often. It def sounds like a growth spurt, in fact I was convinced you were one of my friends until I saw hold you are lol.

Hang in there, it'll be worth it in the end. It's such a wonderful thing to do if you are able to. I bf all 3 of mine and loved it!!

Mrs_P_Pincher

Drink plenty rest plenty and she'll get enough milk. Think of the sitting around time as being good for both of you. Treasure these times because in the blink of an eye she'll be asking to borrow the car keys.

In my day we used to feed one side and then the other and then start the next feed on the last boob from the previous feed. I used to leave one of the hooks in my nursing bra undone so I would know which one to go for. I was surprised when a friend had a baby recently and was told one boob per feed. Must be the new fashion...

It's hard work as others have said, but so much easier in the long run and better for baby and you.

Good luck

Mrs P P

woody01

My youngest seemed to spend the whole of his first 18 months with his head up my jumper.

18months???
Blimey......that is , well, weird.

MrsBartolozzi

woody01 wrote: »

18months???
Blimey......that is , well, weird.

Why? Historically, and in other cultures where breastfeeding is not seen as abnormal children are breastfed until they are 3 or 4 years old.

HariboJunkie

woody01 wrote: »

18months???
Blimey......that is , well, weird.

Why? "Natural" would probably be a better word for it.