Private info disclosure - advice please?

tandraig

none of your business errata. I didnt discuss clients with anyone. as a volunteer healer i had to do accredited counselling courses - but wasnt a counsellor. therefore wasnt answerable to anyone. unless i went around being a blabbermouth - in which case i would have been shown the door. the charity I worked for was principally for counselling and support to people affected by cancer - as a healer i was on the periphary of the therapies offered. but the counselling courses were to make the volunteers aware of confidentiality issues and how to handle clients (other therapies such as beauty and aromatherapy and others were offered). we didnt have to attend counsellors sessions. but - if we had issues we could speak to office manager or counsellors supervisor - that was made plain if we came across situations we couldnt handle.
sorry about the first sentence errata - couldnt resist, lol.

faithcecilia

THings to think about, thanks

LydiaJ

ceridwen wrote: »

Hi Faith

Well - I'll just keep my fingers crossed for you that everything works out for the best. I can see very clearly that you are fighting extremely hard to be able to go back into the convent asap - so much so that you would literally go back in tomorrow if you could.

Please please dont be in such a hurry to get back in there that you go before you've fully concluded what you came out to do - as it will only "pop up again later" otherwise. We can all see clearly just how unhappy you are at present - hence all the helpful responses. But please please - for your own sake - make sure you've fully covered everything with your counsellor and taken a bit of time to settle into the job/home you are now in. Moving is very unsettling for all of us and you've now had a couple of moves in quick succession - it takes a while to settle...

I'm no counsellor - but sometimes things in life can be like layers on an onion - you think there is just the top layer to peel off and thats it = job done. But there are a couple of other layers beneath that to peel off as well before one gets to the "usable bit of the onion". Are you quite quite sure that "all layers are peeled off that onion" and not just the "top one"?

Take care.

xx

What ceridwen said. Listen to her; she's very wise (suddenly panics and hopes ceridwen is a "she").

faithcecilia

Any further thoughts/suggestions welcome, I really am not sure...

springclean

yes, i agree with everything Tandraig said. most counsellors do not even make notes, as confidentiality is the fundamental ethos of counselling. if you thought the counsellor would just tell anyone who asks what you have been talking about, would you really have opened up..?

what you say to a counsellor stays in that room (there are a few exceptions as tandraig explained). the counsellor is bound by a code of ethics, which include confidentiality and non-judgement. are your superiors?

Errata

faithcecilia wrote: »

Any further thoughts/suggestions welcome, I really am not sure...

Have you asked yourself -

How disclosure will benefit them
How will it benefit you
How will it benefit others in the future
How will it impact on the relationship between you and your counsellor
Will a limited group of people have access to it, both now and in the future
What do you feel would be a reasonable amount of time, from your point of view, for you to come to a decision.

HTH

tandraig

Errata has raised very good points in post 17. I was going to raise the fourth issue myself - but she/he beat me to it!
May I ask faithcecelia - did you find your own counsellor or is it one employed by the church??? Am sorry if you said on other thread - but i havent read it all yet.
even if counsellor employed by church - it changes things slightly in that you would know this going in.
however, I know of counsellors who work in the police service and they would not give a report as such - they would just say whether in their opinion the officer was fit for duty..........is this the kind of thing your counsellor means?? if so i think that is acceptable.
I can see by what i have read on your threads so far how much you miss the convent and how much you want to return. not going to add my twopennorth to that!
just want to wish you luck and hope you get your hearts desire.