Private info disclosure - advice please?

faithcecilia

Most of you know me so I'll leap straight in!

My superiors at the convent have asked if I would allow them to request a report from my counsellor in the new year. Now my immediate reaction was 'of course' but now I am wondering if I should ask for some conditions?? I wonder if I should say that I want to read it before it was forwarded. Obviously if I then said I didn't want it sent on it would mean there was something to hide... I feel a bit 'naked' just saying yes go ahead, but maybe this really is a leap of faith moment?

I must stress, the email I have had does not put a lot of pressure on me, but I do sense that if I refuse then things will be delayed re me going back, and as I say, I don't feel i have too much to hide - the have seen me at my worst!

onetomany

omg well as you no hunnie i dont have any excperence of this but i did ask to see my file(in care) after i left and all 3 party info was removed , maybe u can ask how much they are allowed to see? dont let this bring u down hunnie your doing a great job xxxxxxxxx

weezl74

Hi faith cecilia,
I work as a counsellor, and if a report was requested from me I always discuss what my client is happy for me to disclose before writing sending.

There are only a very few circumstances where a counsellor wouldn't be able to do this. One is if they needed to notify that you had received profits from criminal activities and the other is if you had planned a terrorist attack.

Since I'm sure neither of these have crossed your mind, I'm sure your counsellor will be happy to discuss it with you and the convent do not need to know that you have had that discussion unless you wish it.

HTH

Weezl x

faithcecilia

Thanks to you both. I don't feel too worried, not down - if anything its major progress! I just don't want it to be a case that yes is the only answer if that makes sense?

I will discuss with my counsellor before replying, and obviously that will be at the earliest tomorrow so time to think.

McKneff

Just wanted to say 'hello' faithcecilia, glad youre doing well.

onetomany

faithcecilia wrote: »

Thanks to you both. I don't feel too worried, not down - if anything its major progress! I just don't want it to be a case that yes is the only answer if that makes sense?

I will discuss with my counsellor before replying, and obviously that will be at the earliest tomorrow so time to think.

yep i agree hun after all your come thro would take some people years not months keep smiling x

skintbutsolvent

Hi, don't know your story but go with what makesyou feel at ease - maybe allow limited access to info?

floss2

I guess its a bit like when an employer requests a report from Occupational Health about whether an employee is fit to do their job. I would talk to your counsellor.

ceridwen

Hi Faith

Well - I'll just keep my fingers crossed for you that everything works out for the best. I can see very clearly that you are fighting extremely hard to be able to go back into the convent asap - so much so that you would literally go back in tomorrow if you could.

Please please dont be in such a hurry to get back in there that you go before you've fully concluded what you came out to do - as it will only "pop up again later" otherwise. We can all see clearly just how unhappy you are at present - hence all the helpful responses. But please please - for your own sake - make sure you've fully covered everything with your counsellor and taken a bit of time to settle into the job/home you are now in. Moving is very unsettling for all of us and you've now had a couple of moves in quick succession - it takes a while to settle...

I'm no counsellor - but sometimes things in life can be like layers on an onion - you think there is just the top layer to peel off and thats it = job done. But there are a couple of other layers beneath that to peel off as well before one gets to the "usable bit of the onion". Are you quite quite sure that "all layers are peeled off that onion" and not just the "top one"?

Take care.

xx

tandraig

may I say that i am NOT a counsellor. I am a reiki healer who has taken a couple of accredited counselling courses as a requirement when volunteering as healer with a local cancer charity (whose principal ethos was counselling).

as a healer I wouldnt even consider discussing clients with ANYONE even if the client wanted me to - I just couldnt. I feel so deeply that what clients say or what i pick up during sessions cannot be discussed with anyone else. I do know from the counselling courses that there are exceptions - principally being if the client intends to or has harmed themselves or anyone else.
only once did i get a client who self-harmed and a question to the charity manager reassured me they were aware of this without my having to reveal what client had said.
perhaps your counsellor is prepared to compile a report - I wouldnt be if you werent planning to hurt yourself or anyone else i would refuse on grounds of confidentiality.
btw - on the counselling courses confidentiality was drummed into us!!! even to the point where we were told not to reveal client details to the office manager or even the counsellors supervisor.

Errata

as a healer I wouldnt even consider discussing clients with ANYONE even if the client wanted me to - I just couldnt.

Can you tell us how your supervision is managed managed if you refuse to discuss clients with your supervisor ?