christmas is coming, poor families, christmas and credit

inspector_monkfish

baileysbattlebus wrote: »

I smoke - I often go to our local shop with the grandson aged 8, (he and his mother live with us) I go for cigarettes, milk, paper etc and I often tell him he can't have Mars bar, Crunchie, Twix or Club Penguin stuff and that I don't have the money to buy them. I do have the money - but he has to learn he can't have something every time we go to the shop. The shop keeper has known me for 17 years, and has known the grandson from birth.

It's taken a long time but I think the penny is finally dropping - and I live in a very nice area and GS goes to a very good school - one where there is plenty of parental money and a lot of the kids are spoilt brats including him - he is materially spoilt by his mother - who buys him something every time they go out together - I think it's guilt because she is a single parent and works long hours - so he expects it - but not from grandma.

You don't know why the mother refused to buy the child a pepperami - GS used to love to get a pick 'n mix from our local shop at about the age of 3 or 4 - did he ever eat them? No, he just liked choosing them.

u old meanie!!
thats what grandparents are for - to spoil their grandkids !!
u should be ashamed of yourself....

lostinrates

baileysbattlebus wrote: »

I smoke - I often go to our local shop with the grandson aged 8, (he and his mother live with us) I go for cigarettes, milk, paper etc and I often tell him he can't have Mars bar, Crunchie, Twix or Club Penguin stuff and that I don't have the money to buy them. I do have the money - but he has to learn he can't have something every time we go to the shop..

the flaw in that of course, is that by example he's seeing that you do have something everytie you go to the shop for cigarettes with your other stuff! He's learning by example too!

baileysbattlebus

lostinrates wrote: »

the flaw in that of course, is that by example he's seeing that you do have something everytie you go to the shop for cigarettes with your other stuff! He's learning by example too!

I know what you're saying - but he has to learn money doesn't come out of thin air because he wants something - I find it far better to give him money of his own - he's not quite so keen to spend that. He still wants to spend someone else's. If he has a £1 when we go to the shop - he likes to come back with the £1 and some goodies. Or if he has £1 he'll want a comic costing £2.

He's a good little negotiator.

BitterAndTwisted

Eh, some parent aren't very candid. It might be an easier route for some to claim things can't be afforded rather than to say "No, you can't have that today" and then have to deal with the fall-out. Maybe that mother was one of those rather than a fag-smoking, selfish hag

Snooze

PasturesNew wrote: »

Do you ever breathe out White_Horse?

Hey! Leave the horse of whiteness alone! I love his rants and they give me a good chuckle. Imho he's right in what he says around 70% of the time but he puts his views across so harshly that everyone just ignores him and moves on to the next post. The other 30% of his posts are just :eek: though.

I like controversial people who speak their mind without give a f*** what anyone thinks of them/their opinions (and you fall into that bracket too PN ). I'm a big fan of the 'tell it like it is' club.

R

BitterAndTwisted

I admire people who see things as black or white. Shades of grey are just so darned tricky.

inspector_monkfish

Snooze wrote: »

Hey! Leave the horse of whiteness alone! I love his rants and they give me a good chuckle. Imho he's right in what he says around 70% of the time but he puts his views across so harshly that everyone just ignores him and moves on to the next post. The other 30% of his posts are just :eek: though.

I like controversial people who speak their mind without give a f*** what anyone thinks of them/their opinions (and you fall into that bracket too PN ). I'm a big fan of the 'tell it like it is' club.

R

i agree - but he's still a mentalist!

lemonjelly

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

here is a recent pic of jelly, incase you were still wondering....

In case you were wondering, this is Inspector Monkfish, prior to his honeytrapping incident:



& this is him after I'd finished with him:

inspector_monkfish

lemonjelly wrote: »

In case you were wondering, this is Inspector Monkfish, prior to his honeytrapping incident:



& this is him after I'd finished with him:

that is bang out of order jelly..... i would NEVER wear that tie with that shirt.... and as for the braces......:eek:

lemonjelly

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

that is bang out of order jelly..... i would NEVER wear that tie with that shirt.... and as for the braces......:eek:

IIRC you wore the braces & a smile, nothing more.

The braces & pigtails are summat to hold on to;):D