Help needed re so-called friend

mum2one

I may be overreacting, but just wanted some thoughts,

Wine_of_the_World

What a horrid thing to text. And for seemingly no reason! (not that there ever would be a reason).

Have you ever confronted him about the DSS statements? Has he apologized at all?

Perhaps you are better off telling him you no longer want to have anything to do with him. It doesnt sound like you get very much out of this relationship at all. He seems very childish, like he gets angry at someone and then goes way over the top over getting revenge.

I'd really cut ties with him - before he can do worse to you and cause more upset.

irishjohn

Change your mobile number again and keep it to yourself. Find somewhere else to go on holiday and move on - friendships can run their course and come to a point where its time to move on. They only work as long as they meet the needs of both people - and this one does not meet either of your needs now.

seven-day-weekend

He does not seem a nice man at all. Very manipulative and very vengeful. Also very immature.

I personally would cool down the relationship, don't tell him your business, don't run him around. If he can treat you like that when you are supposed to be friends, then there is not really genuine friendship there.

esmf73

Personally I'd cut all ties and change your number - you have a daughter to think about now and it sounds like he's obviously moved on. Some friendships change over time - and it sounds like this one has.

Best of luck - there are lots of people out there who would love to be your friend.

poppyolivia

oh no, I did read all your post but I really don't know what to say but didn't want to read and run, I think if it was me if he txt I would txt back..and leave it at that..???? So at least he can't say you are ignoring him and if he wants you to visit say you are busy?

Zazen999

I'd text him and say 'Go Away Off'. And leave it at that. Never respond again.

You have to ask if you really need someone like this in your life at all.

Also, just a point; please don't throw the fact that your mum is still upset about losing your sister back in her face after an argument. Be an adult and understand that if that happened to your DD, you'd never get over it. So just don't do it.

Money_maker

Gin you mentioned. Is he an alcoholic? Could this explain the text?

mum2one

Money_maker wrote: »

Gin you mentioned. Is he an alcoholic? Could this explain the text?

When I knoew him, never without a bottle of gin, even this time, when I was there, on the side was 3 litre bottle cheap white strong cider, changed from gin now to vodka, there was half bottle vodka and tonic on side.

He admitted himself, that he goes through about 3 bottles of vodka a week + cider, + smokes like a trooper, he's in remission for concer, he's got a wack of health probs, yet drinks like a fish out of water.

mum2one

These are the texts that he sent b4

- THANK U SO MUCH I LOVE U IM IN BED - That was after we'd been out, there was a missed call, from him, saying thank you for a lovely day, like old times, so I rang him back, and it went to voice mail, so left a message, great to see him, take care.

then the next one -after my voicE mail

LOVE U XXXXXXXXX

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We'd left it as I'd ring once a month to see how he was,

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I don't say anything to hom about the DHSS as it was sorted but at the back of my mind I was extremely careful what I said, more let him do the talking.

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I'm going to hold off changing the mobile number for now, just so much hassle letting everyone know etc , I only can only presume that he was on a drink fueled session and hit out at those that care..... Based on previous history once he's done the dirty deed he doesn't bother.

This may sound daft but in a way I'm glad I saw him, and that he has done this, as its strengthened the reason why I dropped the contact in the 1st place, and how much better off we are without him. I'll give anyone a 2nd chance, but he's blown it.

Thank you for everyone taking the time to reply, I think just more shocked and annoyed at him, as it didn't make sense, but now looking at it, it makes sense, he's a prize pillock....... x


Without sounding

mum2one

After a weekend of thinking ans stewing, I have now found out how to block the number on my phone, so he can't text or phone.

As for holidays, we're not down to near with he lives till August nxt yr, and in all honeslty with his condition if we bumped into him he's unlikely to see us, (not sounding cruel), at the end of the day, he's lost a very good friend, and next time stick to my judgment.

Thank you again xx