Copy Cat Neighbour

enor

You could start borrowing garden furniture from friends for a few weeks at a time. Once she's copied you swap to something else!

homersimpson_3

You could start borrowing garden furniture from friends for a few weeks at a time. Once she's copied you swap to something else!

Excellent idea.

(she looks at the ground if she sees anyone).

- lack of confidence?
the police may not be able to do anything but if anything serious occours but there have been made aware of the situation. Keep records of everything- dates and times etc and if she has done it to everyone else - only one version of story- the problem may solve itself. the attention will shift elsewhere. try to keep out of her way (in so far as you can)- the trouble with neighbour disputes they can escalate in to full scale wars and take over people's lives if you're not careful.

alice's_mum

fallen out with every neighbour in the area - she was apparently at war with the people who lived in my property before me.

If this is the case and you only bought the house recently, the vendors HAD a legal obligation to disclose this to you during the purchasing process. Did they do this? If not then you could always go back to your solicitor and chase this.

Lady_E

I have to say that unless you nip this in the bud it will escalate. Personally I would phone your Police Community Support Officer and ask if they could pop round when you KNOW the neighbour will be at home .The mere fact that she sees the car parked outside or the uniform inside ,may be enough to jolt her back to reality. I love the idea about borrowing friends garden stuff , why stop there , someone must have some racy underwear that could be hung out on the wash line.....tee hee

elona

Why not borrow something really Horrible!!!! Hang it on the line! And laugh quietly to yourself if she then wears it?;)

borrow stuff from friends and let her wonder how come you have something different every day.

Talk loudly in the garden about your "landscaping plans or jaccuzzi "- be as outrageous as possible.

misty

alice's_mum wrote:

If this is the case and you only bought the house recently, the vendors HAD a legal obligation to disclose this to you during the purchasing process. Did they do this? If not then you could always go back to your solicitor and chase this.

I think this is only the case if you formally involve the police ie. make an official complaint. My friend has a problem with her next door neighbour, following her, throwing things over etc. One of the reasons she didn't involve the police earlier was because if it became official she would need to disclose it to nay future buyer and she does intend to sell up in the next couple of years.

Lillibet_2

Some thoughts :
Diarise everything. Alert your community police officer, although as it stands I don't believe they can do anything at present. However, forwarned is forarmed.
Is it possible that a cat deposited the mouse/mice?
Stones can travel a long long distance, could it have come from further than next door? i.e kids playing further away.
Speak to as many neighbours as you can & alert them to your possible problem but don't gossip. Leave that to them! Word will soon get back to her!
Get round as many tradesmen with big named vans as possible to give you free quotes on things!
Hold a swinging party in the garden:rotfl:.

pinkpauline34

Thank you all so much for your reassuring words and some very interesting ideas ......

I am in Scotland and it isn't an obligation to disclose neighbourly disputes. I know when I sold my London property I had to confirm that I had never been in any disputes with my neighbours.

I am due to have my back fence replaced shortly but thought about painting it purple with yellow smily faces a week or so before it is pulled down! I have been in touch with my crime prevention officer and I'm still waiting for them to call round. It's a great idea to keep a diary though - while it's all still fresh in my mind, I'll write it all down - thanks for that bit of advice.

I have never lived in anywhere like this place in my life - do you ever feel you've made the biggest mistake of your life? I love my house and all I want to do is live my life quietly, peacefully and safely. I moved to Scotland to escape a violent ex partner with a history of stalking and I am now beginning to feel that I'm out of the fat, into the fire. God knows why I attract them ....... !!!!

Bun

Just wishing you good luck, hopefully with a six foot fence between you she shouldn't find it as easy to nose about.

Tondella

alice's_mum wrote:

If this is the case and you only bought the house recently, the vendors HAD a legal obligation to disclose this to you during the purchasing process. Did they do this? If not then you could always go back to your solicitor and chase this.

As i understand it vendors only have to disclose this type of information if asked (i.e. have you had any problems with neighbours?)

From your account the neighbour sounds like she has a mental illness. It might sound trite but i would just try and get on with your own life and not let it bother you - you won't get any results from either consulting her or starting to play her at her own game. You might want to keep a diary though, as if things do escalate then it may come in handy. I really sympathise with you, individually the episodes don't sound like much (she's bought the same cushions as me) and I can imagine the difficulty reporting them to the police, but cumulatively it must be very stressful for you.