Missing my dad

MyRubyRed

Hi love. I lost my dad three years ago. I still miss him every hour of every day. I was an only child and my dad was my hero.
You're probably going to find this first year without him very hard but it does get easier. I'm like katebl..I keep his photo with me always and mad as it may seem I have conversations in my head with him! Try to focus on the happy memories you have. Take care.xx

miemie

HI i'm a couple of years older than you, I lost my dad just before christmas last year, it's coming up to the anniversary of his death, i think about him everyday, even talk to him sometimes, i still can't listen to U2 (his favourite band without crying) as it reminds me so much of him. The raw pain has faded a little but i still feel there is something missing, its hard to explain almost like i don't feel complete. But i am lucky enough to be able to look at my children and see he lives on in them everyday.

Take care of yourself, cry when you need to cry, scream when you need to scream, but remember to laugh and think about all the good things he brought to you life.

Hugs miemie

LisaLou1982

Hey, i didnt want to read and run either.....

I lost my dad in July this year and although i get on with things, i think about him everyday and miss him so much. Sometimes i get upset and dont have a reason why other than i just want to talk to him so much and i cant do that anymore because he cant speak back to me. Going to the cemetery helps sometimes but it isnt the same.

I'll be 27 in 2 weeks time and im gutted that he wont be around for my birthday or Xmas this year. I always used to joke that he was a cantankerous old g!t....and he used to look at me and then break into a smile.

I send a big hug to you hun because i know how you feel. I appreciate all my friends kind words but they sometimes feel a bit empty because although they mean well, they just dont really understand how it feels to lose your dad.

xxxx

snapping_crocodile

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

Hey, i didnt want to read and run either.....

I lost my dad in July this year and although i get on with things, i think about him everyday and miss him so much. Sometimes i get upset and dont have a reason why other than i just want to talk to him so much and i cant do that anymore because he cant speak back to me. Going to the cemetery helps sometimes but it isnt the same.

I'll be 27 in 2 weeks time and im gutted that he wont be around for my birthday or Xmas this year. I always used to joke that he was a cantankerous old g!t....and he used to look at me and then break into a smile.

I send a big hug to you hun because i know how you feel. I appreciate all my friends kind words but they sometimes feel a bit empty because although they mean well, they just dont really understand how it feels to lose your dad.

xxxx

Thank you so very much. That is exactly how i feel. I sometimes just start crying when i think about him, knowing i will never be able to speak to him again breaks my heart. I find myself thinking about phoning him, but then I remember and it all comes flooding back. He was cremated, and his ashes are scattered with his parents 200 miles from here, so i cant go there to talk to him too often, though I am going down in a couple of weeks to say merry christmas

It is good to hear other people feel the same because in amongst everything it feels like no one can ever know how it feels. Like you say friends thoughts are very well meaning, but unless they have been here....Big hugs to you too. They were so very proud of us and knew how much we loved them.

karie

Hi, i hope you are feeing okay, and can only imagine how you are coping without your dad.

My boyfriend's dad was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer and we have been told he has not long left to live now. It's been a very difficult time and is only going to become more difficult over Christmas.

It's times like this that put your whole life into perspective.
It hurts so much to see my bf upset, and I don't know how we'll get through it to be honest. It makes me want to be around my own parents, who are in another country, and it scares me how much control we have suddenly lost over our own lives and our own future.

My thoughts are with you.. as an earlier poster said, be brave, but not too brave.

xx

BitterAndTwisted

I lost my mother ten years ago this Christmas and I still miss seeing her lovely face. It does get a little easier with time: I felt I'd reached a milestone when I didn't have her in my mind upon waking every day. It's strange that you mentioned phoning your Dad, I used to have the strongest compulsion to dial her number even though I knew she wouldn't be there, it's so hard to explain. But the truth is, they are with you every single moment, you carry them and everything they taught you with you, always, and that's a truly wonderful thing.

Sue-UU

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

But the truth is, they are with you every single moment, you carry them and everything they taught you with you, always, and that's a truly wonderful thing.

It is indeed BAT, but then I'm sure that's their spirit which will always remain with us, to guide us and to love us always. :A

Sue x

LisaLou1982 wrote:

Sometimes i get upset and dont have a reason why other than i just want to talk to him so much and i cant do that anymore because he cant speak back to me. Going to the cemetery helps sometimes but it isnt the same.

My DH always used to say it was the talking to his Dad that he missed so very much, but he still did so anyway, and although he couldn't reply, I'm sure they listen and the answers are given in actions. You give it a try LisaLou, no reason no to after all. You can also talk to him at the cemetery, most folk do and it's comforting to do so.

Sue x

LJM

just read your post and can i say it must be hard all the little things you did always mean the most,big hugs

i lost my grandad with whom i was very close 5 years ago it would have been his birthday yesterday and still miss him like crazy.i find i still talk to him even though obviuosly he not here it just gives me comfort