what do i write in a sympathy card?

iwanttosave_2

Trollydolly wrote:

ive unfortunatly had to write a few this year and recieved some aswell.

I found it was much nicer to recieve ones that talk about things you remeber about the person, good times you shared etc.

Infact i dont write cards anymore i write a letter.

I include a little notebook for the person to write anything they want in. I had one when my grandad died and told him all the things i never got chance to, and now write little letters to him in it with news he would have wanted to know, like my sister being pregnant or the next door neighbours new car lol

Ive done the letter /notebook thing a few times and always got a very emotional but thankful responce. I always wanted to talk about my grandad and nobody else knew what to say, so i think funny little stories and stuff make the person feel like the deceesed wont just be forgotten.

So id say dont write a card write a letter

TD xx

that is such a beatiful idea might have to pinch that one if ever I (or when ever to be exact) have to do this

atrebor

Definatly go with the letter not the card. I've never had to receive any but have had to write quite a few recently. I try to avoid any cliches - which is really hard and just write what i really feel even if it sounds a bit clumsy. In the last one i wrote to a close friend "I didn't know X that well, but I know how much you love him and that must have made him someone very very special.I know that you have some wonderful memories of wonderful times and I really hope that these will help to get you through these tough times"

I think its great that you are going to see her. It is all to easy to write a letter but it takes alot to pick up the phone or call round. good luck and be strong.