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tigerfeet2006

kerrypn wrote: »

Ever since I joined I have been overwhelmed with how nice people are on here-and in particular you MicheH, confused and Tigerfeet are really friendly to new people even when we get it wrong, like I do quite a bit.

Its nice to know not everyone judges you by your mistakes.

Nope, sorry you lot, you're stuck with me too now

Good!!!

confused76

aww Kerry i'm glad you're sticking around
i plan to stick round as well, until i outstay my welcome x

MicheH

Kerry this place is so addictive, I've not been posting much the last few days because I needed a break as I was refreshing every 5 miutes or so to see if there was anything new to post on. It's a bizarre feeling isn't it? I feel I belong and looking at my confidence issues like I have been tonight I guess it helps me to help others in the manner I do as it's helping me hold my head up high. I do think a lot and analyse myself and my behaviour. You give real good advice and support

kerrypn

I agree, I feel like this site has lifted me out of the proverbial "naughty corner"-its nice to share experiences with people who understand and have been there. I don't think there are many places I could go and be so honest about my finances but here no one says a bad thing, its so refreshing-it helps because it does knock your confidence when you file for the bankruptcy, I was a broken woman on the day of court. There is a stigma too, but you wouldn't know from people here.

Ignore your sister. At least you are being honest and wouldn't hurt a fly, that takes real courage and strength-I know which I would rather turn to out of the two of you

curly04

we all have family that we wish we could shoot in the head but we are not allowed or we will go to jail

I could name about 20 of them in my family

Keep your chin up and don't worry, you never know she could hit her head on every rung of the ladder on the way down

Angiepange

Hi Miche

Thought I hadnt seen you around for a few days. I always read your posts with interest and im sorry you are feeling low from your sisters remarks. Some people who havent experienced BR just dont have a clue what an emotional toll it can have.

I too thought that 3 months in I would be feeling 'better' emotionally but its just not happening for me yet.

Im glad you find comfort in this forum, you will build up your self esteem over time, im sure. As for your sister she may never truly understand unless her circumstances take a turn for the worse one day.

Keep your spirits up sweet,

Angie x

LeeSouthEast

Miche: I'd sell her on eBay if I were you and adopt a nicer model! That's shockingly awful.

dollparts

Oh Miche, she's at it again that sister of yours

We have spoken about her before, you and I and I must say it does sound like she maybe reveling in it slightly. Some people take weird steps to assure themselves that the bad things won't happen to them-it seems that's her MO as opposed to giving her sister some moral support and show some compassion for her when she's meeting it hard in a difficult situation.

I know some have said she maybe blissfully unaware but if you look at the flipside-this woman is your sister and presumbly knows you pretty well. That's an educated guess of course but I'd say a safe one.

Miche, easy for me to say but don't indulge her. At least try not to. As daunting as going to sort your HB and CTB on your own may seem you will feel not only empowered once you have got it sorted but there would also be the absence of the smug, poorly thought through throwaway comments that obviously hurt your feelings a great deal.

Leave her out of those dealings and summon the same courage that got you to the court the day you went BR and aim her out of it on that level.

She has no right and is nasty to make you feel like a Cinderella.

She needs to take stock of what's going on around her, if she was half the person you was she'd be all the better for it.

Give her a wide berth when tending to these matters. On a practical note, can any of the HB applications be done online? I did all of mine including submitting the supporting documents without having to leave the house bar the posting of the stuff they needed. I submitted the whole application online.

She's partly to blame for your insecurity the way I see it. Of course I am not trying in influencing you to cause a rift between you but I honestly beleive that life is too short to tolerate those that make us feel so miserable.

That's my thoughts on it anyway, hope I haven't sounded off too much here!

Trom

Oh Miche, that sounds horrible, I complete sympathise. Whichever way you look at it though she's the one looking bad - if she'd doing it on purpose it's a horrendous thing to do to anyone, let alone family and if she doesn't realise then that's just ignorance and insensitivity.

Don't worry about your low self esteem though. If she feels such a need to flaunt her fortunes when you're down, then she must have a good share of it too.

korben556

I am so sorry that your sister sees her only way of validating herself is to pick on your misfortune.

This type of behaviour is I suspect based in jealousy of you - I know that sounds insane with what you have been through, but I speak from personal experience. I am about to go BC and HAD a friend that seemed to derive pleasure from my misery. Anyway turns out from talking to others that she has been jealous of me for many years, how nuts is that!?

Please do not let her get you down, it's her that has the problem and is unhappy with her lot, whatever the outward appearances.

Best wishes

Korben