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One man, two babies, two women!

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  • shell_542
    shell_542 Posts: 1,333 Forumite
    edited 12 November 2009 at 12:46AM
    Loopy_Girl wrote: »
    Am struggling here to comprehend why your 'mate' would ask for a DNA, the female refused it but he still coughed up? As I said...more fool him...if he had doubts then he should have insisted on the CSA route...out of curiosity, how did this happy saga end? If she never got caught then presumably he is still paying CS? Or did for 18 years?

    It seemed to me from Speedster's post that his "mate" had a similar experience to the NRP in the OP and had a drunken one night stand. He has every right to ask for a DNA test as he is the one paying for it (privately) ... then we get onto the whole new debate of whether the CSA should pay for any negative DNA test or in fact perhaps the man and/or woman who doesn't know who fathered her child.
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  • Loopy_Girl
    Loopy_Girl Posts: 4,444 Forumite
    speedster wrote: »
    i don't know what or where she is now. the mate in question is died in a motorbike accident a few years back.

    Am sorry your friend died. It's a shame he never got to know for certain if the child was his. I firmly beleive that all kids should have 2 parents in their lives. I realise there are wicked women out there, I'm not that naive, but I also see that there are nasty men. It's a fcuked up world we live in sometimes
  • Loopy_Girl
    Loopy_Girl Posts: 4,444 Forumite
    shell_542 wrote: »
    It seemed to me from Speedster's post that his "mate" had a similar experience to the NRP in the OP and had a drunken one night stand. He has every right to ask for a DNA test as he is the one paying for it (privately) ... then we get onto the whole new debate of whether the CSA should pay for any negative DNA test or in fact perhaps the man and/or woman who doesn't know who fathered her child.

    No, you're missing the point shell. Read the post again. I was struggling to see why he coughed up AFTER she refused a dna test which he quite rightly asked for. But as you can see, speedster has answered it.
  • speedster
    speedster Posts: 1,300 Forumite
    his name was michael. no need to for the sarcasm with the "mate"

    he was in a sort of relationship with her. unfortunately, she was sort of in a relationship with at least 2 other guys.

    and like i said, csa invilvement would have been a whole lot more pricey for him/ this was before t'internet and the workings of the csa were known to most folk.
    NEVER ARGUE WITH AN IDIOT. THEY'LL DRAG YOU DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL AND BEAT YOU WITH EXPERIENCE.

    and, please. only thank when appropriate. not to boost idiots egos.
  • shell_542
    shell_542 Posts: 1,333 Forumite
    Loopy_Girl wrote: »
    No, you're missing the point shell. Read the post again. I was struggling to see why he coughed up AFTER she refused a dna test which he quite rightly asked for. But as you can see, speedster has answered it.

    .....I see.
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  • shell_542
    shell_542 Posts: 1,333 Forumite
    speedster wrote: »
    his name was michael. no need to for the sarcasm with the "mate"

    he was in a sort of relationship with her. unfortunately, she was sort of in a relationship with at least 2 other guys.

    and like i said, csa invilvement would have been a whole lot more pricey for him/ this was before t'internet and the workings of the csa were known to most folk.

    What sarcasm?
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  • speedster
    speedster Posts: 1,300 Forumite
    "mate".

    same as caps= shouting.

    highlighting words with " " is sarcasm or highlighting. no need to highlight the fact he was a mate.
    NEVER ARGUE WITH AN IDIOT. THEY'LL DRAG YOU DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL AND BEAT YOU WITH EXPERIENCE.

    and, please. only thank when appropriate. not to boost idiots egos.
  • Loopy_Girl
    Loopy_Girl Posts: 4,444 Forumite
    As a matter of fact I thought you were talking about you and using the euphanism of mate....we get it alot on here.
  • shell_542
    shell_542 Posts: 1,333 Forumite
    I was simply using the same term as Loopy Girl as it was her post I was replying to. There was no underhand meaning meant in my post at all.
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  • speedster
    speedster Posts: 1,300 Forumite
    Loopy_Girl wrote: »
    As a matter of fact I thought you were talking about you and using the euphanism of mate....we get it alot on here.

    ah. i see.

    apologies.
    NEVER ARGUE WITH AN IDIOT. THEY'LL DRAG YOU DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL AND BEAT YOU WITH EXPERIENCE.

    and, please. only thank when appropriate. not to boost idiots egos.
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