First Dates??

ells888

Just wondered where you all went on your first dates?? Iv just met a really nice man, but as its been a few years im finding it hard to think of something other than pub? bowling? .... help me!! thanks xx

jcr16

our first date we went to the local pier for a walk and a natter to get to know each other. no pressure just a friendly giggle and laugh. bought portion of chips and chatted as we walked along the seafront. nothing mega romantic but nothing too ott ( nothing worse than going for a meal with someone and ending up having nothing to talk about ,lol)

For hubby and i it was wonderful we then saw each other every day getting to know each other more and more and we have now been married for nearly 8 years and have 3 fantastic children. so worked out really well.

Minimum_Wage_2

have lunch somewhere, go for a nice walk, chatting along the way so you find out more about him. then see where it takes you from there

Good luck

lostinrates

Very first date was impromtue, we had been introdced by a mutual friend colleague and lots of people we both knew were about wherewe had met (a gig) so slipped out and ended up having a drink and chat in a nearby gay bar (we are a heterosexual couple, but the atmosphere was good and it was not so loud so as not to be able to chat). First organised date was at an Art exhibition followed by a light meal. I prefer to not be sitting down llevening, especially with a ''new'' person. The art gave us time to not hve to look into each others eyes, and something to talk about. Of course, as we are bow married we would have been fine without the art and staring at each other all evening, but you don't know that at first.

DigitalJedi

Depends how well you know each other already. I always make sure a first date is quick just in case we don't get on. So lunch is always a winner since its naturally timebound without the other person thinking you are ditching them.

If you know them a bit better than that already and are sure things will be ok then I've also taken ladies to a comedy club (nothing beats laughing). Another good idea depending on where you live is to go ice skating (perfect excuse to hold hands). I once took a lady I met from here snowboarding but based on my experience I'd warn against that as breaking her arm on a first date isn't good sign. Memorable date though.

Silverbird

My husband and I met for the first time one evening (we met via a dating site, so had been talking for a few weeks before meeting) and we went for one drink in a nice, quiet bar and then to the cinema to watch a film and then we went for another drink afterwards just because we got on so well and wanted to chat some more. It worked well for us x

Pee

Hmm.. think how well you know the person is an important question. With my boyfriend we were friends already, so when we got together there was no pressure about what to talk about and we ended up back at his pretty quickly, neither aware that the other one was keen.

Had a good date with a man I didn't feel any real connection with at an outdoor shakespeare event. Possibly the wrong time of year for that and you could also easily be the wrong people to do it. I think everyone loves Shakespeare, but they don't all know that they do yet.

Snowboarding would be good, but a bit physical for me for a first date... and breaking my arm might make me think of pain when I thought of my date, putting me off someone I might otherwise have liked... Ice skating I am rubbish at, but if one party was quite good, the hand holding would be nice and you can do this in city centres and the Eden Project for somewhere a bit different.

The cinema is quite a good one, if you can agree on a film, and maybe a drink or meal afterwards, when you have the film to talk about.

If I really like someone I get nervous and can't eat, though, so maybe that wouldn't be so good.

If i had a first date in a pub, I'd be nervous and probably drink too much. This wouldn't be all bad as a disapproving person wouldn't suit me longer term...

Ten pin bowling sounds like a good idea, but maybe better with a group.

If it was a nice day is there a lake you could walk around or a hill you could climb? Preferably with lots of nice trees in autumn colours? maybe afternoon tea somewhere a bit swishy?

minerva_windsong

On my first date with my boyfriend we went to a swish bar in York. It was actually quite funny though as we were friends for a year before we got together, and we went from having loads to talk about to having very little because we were both really nervous!

I think the best idea is something where you can talk and get to know each other - coffee maybe? Lunch? Or the pictures and a drink after?

Fuzzy_Duck

It was the pub for me, but then we both enjoyed going to the pub and a couple of drinks helped my nerves! I agree that it depends on how well you know each other really. If you have a good idea of what interests you share you can do something you both enjoy doing. An art gallery or a museum is always good as you have something to talk about!

If I didn't know the person I'd probably go to a coffee shop as you can get out quickly if it's not working- or go elsewhere if you're having a good time.

xxlaurissaxx

We went to the pics to see the holiday on our date we have watched it last xmas again and it was really sweet. xx

dwichmann

mine was the cinema and drinks but we were already friends so was easy anyway. Back in my dating days i used to take girls to the zoo, was a bit different, most women love the zoo and an easy conversation starter. Gives you something to easily fill in any awkward silences, encourages walking and talking plus you can buy a nice present at the end.