MSE Parents Club Part 8

searching_me

i have to admit i swear ... not alot and tends to be when im angry which i usually do when zoes not in the room (i dont like her seeing me angry mummy should be happy) .. but she knows what are adult words and thats shes not alloed to say them x

newmoneysaver_2

tiamai_d wrote: »

MFD, please don't take this the wrong way...

but as Benjamin grows up you will probably find that your views on certificates changes and you will see them as more a guideline rather than an absolute. I always said DS1 wouldn't play this and that but now after seeing that he knows the difference between reality and a game or film, and seeing what he sees in real life etc, I have relaxed my views a little. You grow as a parent alongside your child, it's pretty cool really

I like that :kisses3:

searching_me

newmoneysaver wrote: »

Searching are you not xmas shopped out yet?:p

There is no min age here for duckilings but the woman said the first 40 mins is structured play. I think it lasts an hour, but Liam has only ever done 20-30 mins the pool.

nope lack of money has put a stop to that just lately ..

wow my local is strict they have to be 6 months and time limit is 30 mins then they throw you out the pool :rotfl:x

tarajayne

tiamai_d wrote: »

MFD, please don't take this the wrong way...

but as Benjamin grows up you will probably find that your views on certificates changes and you will see them as more a guideline rather than an absolute. I always said DS1 wouldn't play this and that but now after seeing that he knows the difference between reality and a game or film, and seeing what he sees in real life etc, I have relaxed my views a little. You grow as a parent alongside your child, it's pretty cool really

I agree, and would add that what you let one of your children do at 9 might not be the same for all of them. You sort of work out as you go along what is suitable depending on their personality etc. X :A

chopsticks

rmac....did you give us your news? Did I miss it?

emlou2009

oh i meant to say, i got the uggish boots today from shoezone so thanks buttons, they do look cheap but the sole looks like part of the boot at least, i hate the ones that look like the top bits been made and the bottoms been made and they've just stuck them together with glue, i know that sounds ridiculous cos thats how they make them but never mind :rotfl:

My_Fathers_Daughter

redmel1621 wrote: »

I don't think you are a freak, I think you are careful in what you let your children watch/play. I do allow mine an extra 'freedom' but believe me I do keep an eye on how these things might be affecting them.

Mel x

Thanks for that insight Mel - I wasn't being critical, just interested on how you thought.

r.mac wrote: »

MFD - re: age requirements/limits/guidance. growing up I was never allowed to watch films that were for an age older than I was - when I was 17, my mum wouldn't let me take out Frankenstein from the video shop. Regardless of the fact that i had been at university for a year (away from home and doing as I pleased!) or that I had read the book! It was a bit of a pain at the time (I remember being upsetthat I wasn't able to see the bodyguard in the cinema) but now I am pleased they were like that. We all grow up so fast - especailly these days that it seems a shame to rush things along.

It is personal choice though, and this is just my personal view - I am not criticising those who do/think differently from me. The one thing I would say is that my parents were consistent - i think that was the key.

Which is why hubby, I and DSS's mum are discussing this now - well in advance of having to make any decisions. DSS only raised this today and it took us all by surprise!!

tiamai_d wrote: »

MFD, please don't take this the wrong way...

but as Benjamin grows up you will probably find that your views on certificates changes and you will see them as more a guideline rather than an absolute. I always said DS1 wouldn't play this and that but now after seeing that he knows the difference between reality and a game or film, and seeing what he sees in real life etc, I have relaxed my views a little. You grow as a parent alongside your child, it's pretty cool really

I have been a step-mum for nearly half of my step sons life so I think Benjamin is irrelevant to be honest. I respect what you are saying but I was a mother for years before Benjamin came along.

I do accept however, that I am a lone voice on this LOL! I will shut up now.

emlou2009

i think its awesome that your DSS has you and your hubby, and his mum, all in a similar mindset and able to work together on this, too many kids from "broken homes" have dads that go out of their way to do the opposite of what the mum wants behind her back to get one up on them!

money_maker_3

you are far from a lone voice MFD, I know a lot of mums that are the very same, you just happened to post it at the same time as the people who dont agree are on !! :rotfl:

searching_me

:wave: hi mm x