Son playing truant

familyof4_3

Lots of tears and apologies but story seems to go...

He forgot a book for English & knew his teacher would be cross. He didn't want a punishment excercise so came home. Told him he'd probably end up with a bigger punishment excercise now

Later in the evening I said "you'd better be telling me the truth because when I speak to Mr ??? tomorrow I really don't want him to tell me this has happened before". 10 mins later he comes down to say "I skipped French a few weeks ago because I forgot my homework". It was last period of the day and I'm sensing because he got away with it once he thought this was easy. Well not in this house matey!

Have left a message at school for his teacher phone me but still waiting

familyof4_3

[FONT=Courier (W1)]What a joke. You're not going to believe this but the school seemed confused that he wasn’t there – they even had him marked as present for one of the 2 classes he missed. [/FONT][FONT=Courier (W1)]Teacher thanked me for bringing it to his attention!!! [/FONT]

[FONT=Courier (W1)]Only positive thing was he mentioned there was also a safety issue as the school is quite far away and son has to get a train. [/FONT]

[FONT=Courier (W1)]Nonetheless, I’ve asked the teacher to have a word with him and he said he’s going to give him a detention next week. [/FONT]

[FONT=Courier (W1)]Feeling a bit guilty for telling on him now but my goodness - what a shambles, can't believe they admitted that they'd marked him in when he wasn't.[/FONT]

[FONT=Courier (W1)]Anyway, thanks for all the contributions. I'm still glad I spoke to school and hopefully the talking to he gets from the teacher will make him realise that this is not a road he wants to go down again.[/FONT]

xxvickixx

I would be very upset about the register mix up. I there was a fire he would be assumed to be still in the building and various other things spring to mind. It a very dangerous position the school has put themselves in. What if a pupil goes missing and they cannot correctly identiy the last time they were present?

Savvy_Sue

I know I shouldn't encourage you, but I think I put the fear of God into my lads more than their father does, and yes we do live together!

Have you ever considered, btw, that some single parents are such not through choice but following bereavement? And that your comments are not only unhelpful but distressing in such situations?

Hardup_Hester

I can't understand why his absence wasn't picked up by FDR, I work for a school & we are told we have a legal responsibility to alert the parents if a child is a missing & I assumed this was so in every school.
Hester

brankholm

master_of_nothing wrote: »

I trust there is a father on the scene to fill him with fear

There must be a dad because she mentions that she'll sit down with hubbie and son to discuss.

amazed the school admitted not knowing.

Hope you have it resolved. I have a son around that age who has just gone to secondary school and worry he'll get in with the wrong crowd and start acting up.

anewman

master_of_nothing wrote: »

I trust there is a father on the scene to fill him with fear

Ah that's the way all Fathers should treat their sons. Lead by example and all that!

To the OP does he have many friends? I don't mean just one or two friends but a wide circle of friends like. Would he be considered shy or quiet?

He may not necessarily admit to being bullied as he may feel it is a sign of weakness.

familyof4_3

anewman wrote: »

Ah that's the way all Fathers should treat their sons. Lead by example and all that!

To the OP does he have many friends? I don't mean just one or two friends but a wide circle of friends like. Would he be considered shy or quiet?

He may not necessarily admit to being bullied as he may feel it is a sign of weakness.

Yes, he certainly appears to have loads of friends. We live a just outwith this schools catchment area so he doesn't see them outwith school too often however we're always told he's the "joker of the pack" and "very popular".

He had a detention yesterday so hopefully he will have learnt his lesson. I've calmed down a bit too. That doesn't meant I won't be keeping a close eye on the wee beggar. His dad drove past the school today at lunchtime to make sure he was on the premesis - I think we're going to do this ramdomly until the trust has been regained.

Thanks again everyone.

fantasia322

master_of_nothing wrote: »

I trust there is a father on the scene to fill him with fear

What a ridiculous remark, fathers are not there to fill children with fear, they are their to support and nurture as are both parents. When a child makes a mistake its to be corrected but not through fear.
If you have children Master of Nothing, i feel sorry for them.
Children are about love not to be ruled or kept in line with fear of a parent. God knows what you will say next. Spare the rod and spoil the child????? or some such waffle.

Tom1234

fantasia322 wrote: »

What a ridiculous remark, fathers are not there to fill children with fear, they are their to support and nurture as are both parents. When a child makes a mistake its to be corrected but not through fear.
If you have children Master of Nothing, i feel sorry for them.
Children are about love not to be ruled or kept in line with fear of a parent. God knows what you will say next. Spare the rod and spoil the child????? or some such waffle.

Ignore Master of nothing. He's just a troll.