More of a legal Police/rights question really...

babyangel10

dmg24 wrote: »

I'm not making judgment, but perhaps calling the police station four times is a little excessive, and characteristic of her personality? Maybe she should have a chat with her GP about her overzealous persistence?

I should have been clearer! She didn't call them 4 times in one day, but over the course of the past 1.5 weeks.

She's mad but not that mad!!! :rotfl:

ihatecaptcha

gertybertyangel wrote: »

She's mad but not that mad!!! :rotfl:

Aren't we all!

CHR15

gertybertyangel wrote: »

aint gonna bore you with the details

Are you crazy?? please bore us nosey people

hollydays

I think the whole point of telling someone not to harrass someone else is that they do NOT contact them again.One letter is one thing,but three??!!!Isn't this what stalkers do??!!
She needs to learn from this experience that no,means no.
One other thing that occurs to me,is if the friend twisted it,why write to apologise.
What you call "doing someones head in" might actually be a feeling of intimadition to the receiver of the letters.

babyangel10

Blimey - I really need to explain again!!! I'm making her sound like a total fruitcake!!! The 3 letters were sent over a period of 6 months - she works with this girl and they had been friends for ages but the rumour mill at work came up with bullship and the other girl chose to believe the spiteful rumour.

My sis is the kind of person who apologises to people if THEY accidentally bump into her, just to keep the peace etc. This girl and her have been friends for ages and neither sis nor I can understand why the girl believes the gossips, so has written to give her side, but the apologies are for petty insults that each of them have flung at each other since the fallout.(as you do)

She recently also (with the last letter) sent her a £50 gift voucher for her favourite shop by way of peacemaking again and the next thing the cop turns up!!!

But she kept the bl0ody voucher!!!!! Blooming cheek of it!!! :rotfl:I wish I knew someone who would intimidate me like that!!! lol!!!

Davey2009

Well I think the best advice is for her to find a new freind & have as little to do with this workmate as possible, the police wont be interested in explaining reasons why they work as they do & saying (I think you mentioned) that she signed this statement does sound a bit like she was agreeing with it but what I wanted to say to you is that there are many in-justices - I have suffered a few some you may read in my posts but I do believe in what goes around comes around so if someone has done you wrong it will one day in some form come back on them, good luck !

Meepster

gertybertyangel wrote: »

I wish I knew someone who would intimidate me like that!!! lol!!!

It can be arranged....what you wearing??

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

babyangel10

Blo0dy manky work uniform right now - but it is easily removed!!! lol! :rotfl:

Meepster

gertybertyangel wrote: »

Blo0dy manky work uniform right now - but it is easily removed!!! lol! :rotfl:

Well, that can DEFINITELY be arranged

Takoda

But it isn't normal to send 3 apology letters! It isn't a good idea to fall out with people at work because you're stuck with them until you change jobs so part of being an adult and grown up, is learning when to bite your lip and say nothing.

People do fall out though but again sensible mature people cope with it. You make new friends and move on.

Sounds like she has issues to be honest unless she is very young (16/17) and immature.

If the falling out is making her job difficult and that's why she is so DESPERATE to make up with this other person then get HR involved. They can speak to both parties and get them to agree to be civil or whatever in work time.

The other person must be feeling seriously harassed to have called the Police.