Home made ready meals

EstherH

MARLUC: I agree with you. My son works very long hours and I always leave him a plate of whatever we have to heat up in the microwave whenever he gets in. In his case, he doesn't seem bothered by whatever it is, so I don't think up special meals for him. I tend to put out an extra plate at teatime the same as ours and either leave it covered on the side or put in the fridge depending on what time/how warm it is. He just comes in and puts it in the microwave. Esther x

rosalie-lavender

Seakay wrote: »

He's 22 and you're doing his cooking for him even though he's not eating with the family? I hope you're getting paid by him for all of this because it sounds as though he's out making money and you're doing everything that you would do for a thirteen year old and not being paid for it. If he's at home and earning then you owe it to him to introduce him to the economic realities of the world, like what you have to pay for bed and board and what choices you get (none). If he doesn't want to cook after a long day then perhaps he should consider what it is worth to him to have someone else do that job for him.

If my son was working 12 to 14 hour days I would save him a portion of the family meal too or batch cook other meals if necessary. For all we know the OP's son could be repaying her effort in some other way when he isn't working. My eldest son fixes all our computers, upgrades them when necessary and built my daughters computer. In return I do his washing and some of the cooking. There are more ways of contributing to a family than just paying money.

janb5

I so agree with you Rosalie Lavender. I do this for my 23rd old son. We often exchange `favours` in this house but not on a tit for tat basis. We also have a couple of lodgers. One is a plumber, the other has great IT skills. They often have helped us out and I include them as members of our family etc.( do a wash for them, hang clothes out etc.) Everyone benefits without feeling hard done by!

CupOfChai

I agree too. When OH is working a 12 hour day I cook his dinner for that day in advance so he can take it with him and have it in his break. If he did not eat dinner at work I would leave him some to have when he came in the same as OP is doing. It's hardly any more effort to cook an extra portion when you're cooking anyway and he does other things than cook to contribute to our household as well (NB we both work full time).

nikki11

Seakay wrote: »

He's 22 and you're doing his cooking for him even though he's not eating with the family? I hope you're getting paid by him for all of this because it sounds as though he's out making money and you're doing everything that you would do for a thirteen year old and not being paid for it. If he's at home and earning then you owe it to him to introduce him to the economic realities of the world, like what you have to pay for bed and board and what choices you get (none). If he doesn't want to cook after a long day then perhaps he should consider what it is worth to him to have someone else do that job for him.

So because he is out working and not able to eat with his family, OP shouldn't cook for him??:rotfl: She's not doing everything for him like he's 13 it's because he's her SON. Also after working 12/14 hour days and coming home that late I don't think many people would feel like cooking from scratch. Not everything in the world is about money.

zippychick

I can't think of many meals that wouldn't reheat well apart from roast potatoes and chips?!?

Ive merged this with our homemade ready meals thread which has loads of ideas

I think it's lovely you're cooking for him

Zip

cutestkids

Seakay wrote: »

He's 22 and you're doing his cooking for him even though he's not eating with the family? I hope you're getting paid by him for all of this because it sounds as though he's out making money and you're doing everything that you would do for a thirteen year old and not being paid for it. If he's at home and earning then you owe it to him to introduce him to the economic realities of the world, like what you have to pay for bed and board and what choices you get (none). If he doesn't want to cook after a long day then perhaps he should consider what it is worth to him to have someone else do that job for him.

What a strange way of looking at things, it really does not matter how old he is he is still a member of the family and lives in the family home so why would she not cook for him.

Are you saying that as soon as someone is an adult they should just cook for themselves that is a house share not a family.

marluc

Thanks everyone for your supportive replies / posts. I did wonder whether cooking for the family was odd.
I have got some brilliant ideas, so thanks again everyone.

sixtiesgal_2

Just another question, I am wondering if ready meals are really that bad for you. If I can't get on with the slow cooker I may go back to them. I have read where the healthy eating ready meals from M&S and supermarkets aren't bad for you like the full fat ones. They are so convenient when you work full time and live alone - instant meals and hardly any washing up. Does anyone else on here have them regularly?

meritaten

I don't think the 'occasional' shop bought ready meal is 'bad' - but if you eat them every day then you are risking overdosing on salt and sugar. also they usually contain preservatives too, not to mention colourings and flavourings. it certainly couldn't be considered healthy to eat them regularly.

I would consider making my own 'ready meals' - have a 'cook-up' each weekend and portion out each evenings meal in a container, label it clearly and freeze it. much cheaper in the long run and far healthier!