Warrant for arest. will hubby go to jail?

LizzieS_2

If the children are not his, he had the right to contest paternity upon first contact by the csa. If he had done that at the time and been proven correct, he would not be being pursued now.

He can still contest paternity, but he will have to do that separately to the csa case in hand (as he's already lost his chance through his own lack of action). If he is right, anything done by the csa will be undone.

He does need to attend court - it is past burying his head as he does face arrest.

There is no reason for you to be arrested, unless you create havoc upon attempts at his arrest.

If you can get him to court thats a good start. If not, attending yourself would help the justice cause, just not sure it would help your marriage.

LizzieS_2

WhatNow? wrote: »

troll yourself.

It is certainly a quote worth saving from DUTR (never thought I would see him say some things he did).

I think he's just missing Zara :A

WhatNow?_2-2

i will create havoc to kik him out of my house.

DX2

WhatNow? wrote: »

i will create havoc to kik him out of my house.

Do you really want that? You're hurt and angry don't do anything too rash.

LizzieS_2

Why are you angry? At 6 months marriage you are supposed to be too much in love to see flaws!

WhatNow?_2-2

LizzieS wrote: »

Why are you angry? At 6 months marriage you are supposed to be too much in love to see flaws!

becose he threatens to leave if i atend court. he freaks out wen i go out to use the forum. i shuld be mad at him but he shuldnt be allowed to be mad at me. i didnt ask for that. do you understand the humiliation it will be wen the police will come to knok on my door? im becoming useless at work becose i worry all the time and canot concentrate.

shell_542

LizzieS wrote: »

Why are you angry? At 6 months marriage you are supposed to be too much in love to see flaws!

So because she's only 6 months into her marriage and loves her husband, she shouldn't be angry at the man having been lying to her for god knows how long and even now, he's still not helping himself and would rather be arrested than sort his life out?

It must be a really awful time for you he won't escape them though. Private DNA tests are expensive. You cannot control what he does. He is very stubborn and has shown that by ignoring this mess for so long. All you can do is look after yourself, contact NACSA, give your husband the information he needs and then let him decide what he's going to do with it. Get the advicee from NACSA about how this could affect you as well. X

HalfPint

You have 2 issues here...firstly the csa issue...it's his problem..he needs to take his head out his A*&e and deal with it...you cannot do that for him...support him by all means but he is the one who has to deal with court, police and csa.

secondly...your marriage....6 months in and you have discovered he has lied to you about previous children, thats a very big lie...you need some sort of explanation..he may very well have good reasons for not having told you but marriage is about love trust and honesty...if you don't have that then you need to consider your position and whether you marriage to him is to continue...you need to have a heart to heart to with him!

sorry this maybe not the advice you came on here for. I wish you well in sorting these issues.

HP x

kelloggs36

Halfpint - excellent advice although just one point and this would mean that the NRP in this case would have to agree - the OP herself can deal with the CSA on his behalf (but not be the one sent to jail or arrested!) if he signs a letter to that effect. She can then find out exactly what the position is and even try to reason with him. If not, then I agree that you may have to consider your marriage position very carefully - do you want to be married to somebody who refuses to acknowledge his actions or who lies so easily?

DUTR

WhatNow? wrote: »

becose he threatens to leave if i atend court. he freaks out wen i go out to use the forum. i shuld be mad at him but he shuldnt be allowed to be mad at me. i didnt ask for that. do you understand the humiliation it will be wen the police will come to knok on my door? im becoming useless at work becose i worry all the time and canot concentrate.

Then let him leave, it seems so far he has brought dissapointment and trouble into your life.
It does not seem though as if you are a NRPP, but an NRP trying to seek a way of avoiding coughing up and posing as the NRPP. If he has doubts over the paternity of the children there is a process available to clarify his position, the option of hiding under the blanket is not the better choice by a long shot.