Are there any mums out there who live seperate from their children?

gabyjane

Could be a very long post for nothing otherwise and feel i need someone who understands..i feel like i have to defend myself but she is not with me due to anything i have done..just wondered before i post?
Thanks

loftus

Try this thread.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1954167

hbloomers

I haven't lived with my mum since I was 13 or so, so thats almost 6 years now. It wasn't through anything she done, but because my dad was keeping the house, and it was closer to my school.

HeatherH

It's not exactly the same, but I used to live seperate from my son for 2 weeks, every 2 weeks. It was awful, and it nearly sent me insane.

This board is pretty good for being non judgemental, and I'm hoping there will be someone about that'll be able to help you more than I can.

Heather x

gabyjane

Hi thanks so much for the replys, think that other thread is the right place to be but unsure of responces i will get as i didnt get her taken away from me as such i let her go..i;m not explaining this very well and not really in the right frame of mind..just found something on the internet she has posted and it's kind of shocked me..i'm a glutten for punishment really as will regret the replys i get no doubt but feel i have this huge thing hanging over me....

zztopgirl

Please dont feel bad, you wont get flamed or anything for giving her up, I gave up my daughters due to difficult circumstances. Hugs and please pm me if you want to chat xx

lynzpower

Oh gaby come on you are in a good place here for support, you know there will be people to help you x

Taypier

My parents divorced when I was 12 or 13 and we lived with my Dad. Back then I didn't understand why she didn't fight for us, it was as if she was leaving us. However now I'm older it kind of all fits together, I understand why she let us stay with dad, I think she was saving us all from the arguments/custody battles/trauma etc she knew my dad would (and did) use us kids as a pawns and didn't want to play his game. I just wish I understood her reasoning at the time, I caused her alot of aggro!

How old is your daughter? It's a frustrating time being a teenager!

MrsTinks

My mother left me with my dad when my parents separated - I was about 4 I think - she went to live with my now step dad and I lived with dad for several years, then my grandparents, then back briefly to dads and then to my mums when I was about 12/13... Mum made the decision to leave with with dad because he could take better care of me, he got the house in the divorce to help look after me and she would see me about every month or 2 - I had to get on a plane to fly to see her. Now I'm a mum I can understand how hard that must have been for her, I love her dearly but I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive her...

arlybarly

My natural mother dumped me when i was a baby because she always put men infront of her own kids, i ended up in care and was fostered by a decent family. My mom is the one who brought me up, i have spoken to my natural mother about this over the years and why she did it but i still feel so much anger for her and hatred especially as i have my own 2 kids now who i would die for. My advice to you would be to keep in touch all the time with your kids because they will not forgive you when they are older for not being around for them whatever your reasons, it wont matter, you will NEVER be able to make up the lost time.

deedee71

I live apart from my kids (if you can call it living). My ex is a farmer and the kids just love the country life. Eventually it became like the judgement of Solomon, and I had to let them go before we tore them apart.