Need Some advice re awkward situation & classmate

focus888

Hi everyone, hope someone can help me with this. Hope this is in the right section. I've recently started an evening class, only started in September. Anyway we dont have set seating but when i sit down i always have a girl im friendly with on one side as we get on really really well. And then on the other side of me is an older man which i just have friendly chit chat to occasion and say hello to. Ok anyway during our last lesson i glanced over at the mans screen and in his username section instead of the given numbers for login in he had words so it made me curious to read them and it said 'my name' i love you. It has really freaked me out and now im really not looking forward to going to my class. Maybe others think its not a big deal but i go home late by myself and i just think its really weird that i have hardly spoken to him and he thinks he loves me. I dont want to sit next to him no more because im really scared of leading him on or giving him completely the wrong impression and basically im just not comfortable sat next to him no more. what can i do apart from tell him straight out?

bank_of_slate

Can you and your friend sit together elsewhere away from this chap? hopefully he'll get the message.
...Linda xx

focus888

The class is already too big so its really crowded, i thought about coming in later and sitting somewhere else because normally i sit down anywhere and then my friend sit downs next to me and the guy on the other side. if i came in late or almost late i think all the seats will be taken up. =( it sounds silly when you think about it but im just dont feel comfortable one bit now.

lufcgirl

Are you sure it's yourself he's referring to and not somebody with the same first name?

Strange, but it could happen!

focus888

maybe it could be someone else, but theres no one else in that class with that name and i sit right next to him. it makes more sense him trying to get me that message than him just randomly writing about loving someone with that name? either way its made me really uncomfortable and abit scared of what could happen if he thinks he loves me when i dont know him and hardly speak to him.

olias

If you really are that concerned, then could you not have a word with the tutor/lecturer or whoever leads the class and explain your concerns and ask that he have a word?

Olias

Proc

Reading other people's texts.
Reading other people's diaries.
Reading other people's emails.
Reading other people's letters.


If you go looking for information you don't want to see, you'll find it. I once made the mistake of reading my girlfriend's diary. Never again. What people think and what people say are always very very different.

You're best of just sitting elsewhere.

Zazen999

focus888 wrote: »

The class is already too big so its really crowded, i thought about coming in later and sitting somewhere else because normally i sit down anywhere and then my friend sit downs next to me and the guy on the other side. if i came in late or almost late i think all the seats will be taken up. =( it sounds silly when you think about it but im just dont feel comfortable one bit now.

Sit on the end of a row and get your chum to sit next to you.

He's probably just a dirty old man trying it on with younger ladies in evening classes; have a quiet word with the tutor when you can and find out if he is a serial evening class goer and just make polite conversation if you have to and don't give him any ideas.

If you react he'll probably get worse. Ignore the old fart.

poet123

Tell your friend, and tell the Tutor. The Tutor will then find a reason to change the seating arrangements. We have issues like this all the time, don't sit and stew about it, or worse, stay away from the course because of it.

simpywimpy

what sort of age are you? Are you under 18?
You could swop seats with the female so she sits next to him next week.
Is your name quite common? It could be the name of his partner.

I think you should move away first. If he then makes an attempt to move next to you or something, you could have a quiet word with the tutor

frugallass

I agree with those who say you need to speak to your tutor in the first instance