The best policy the Tories could introduce is a proper married couples allowance

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'd feel a bit dirty just shacking up with somebody. A little grubby and ashamed..

I'd feel smug and a bit more attractive.

I don't think there is anything worng with shacking up, done it myself in the past, but this is...different.


There is an interesting quote by an american socialist feminist columnist about the tyranny of marriage. I beleive it was published about a fortnight before her own wedding. No...had a google and can't find it.

Cleaver

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'd want to be married. I'd feel a bit dirty just shacking up with somebody. A little grubby and ashamed.

How anyone could marry someone without living with them first is beyond me. It would be a bit like buying a house without bothering to look round it first.

Afriend_2

Cleaver wrote: »

How anyone could marry someone without living with them first is beyond me. It would be a bit like buying a house without bothering to look round it first.

Always the romantic...

Cleaver

Afriend wrote: »

Always the romantic...

Seriously though, would anyone in their right mind, or not blinded by religion (same thing really), ever actually commit their whole life to someone without actually living with them beforehand?

lostinrates

Cleaver wrote: »

Seriously though, would anyone in their right mind, or not blinded by religion (same thing really), ever actually commit their whole life to someone without actually living with them beforehand?

Yeah, I might. Who is the guy?

carolt

Cleaver wrote: »

How anyone could marry someone without living with them first is beyond me. It would be a bit like buying a house without bothering to look round it first.

But some people do do that (the house bit I mean). Hence all the tales of BTL woe: "Oh, Inside Track said it was such a nice area and would rent for 2 grand a month, and instead it's a crack den and I've never had a tenant but the squatters who hang out here have cost me a fortune in repair bills!" etc etc ad infinitum. :rolleyes:

wageslave

lostinrates wrote: »

I don't think there is anything worng with shacking up, done it myself in the past, but this is...different.

I didn't like being married and have no intention of ever doing it again. It suits some people, it didn't suit me.

But LIR that is the single best endorsement for marriage I have read on here.

Cleaver

lostinrates wrote: »

Yeah, I might. Who is the guy?

He's a doctor. Very good looking, athletic, tanned, well-read and very well educated. He's well-travelled too, gets on well with your friends and family, is an expert cook, loves watching you enjoying your hobbies and interests and only wants the best for you. It's love, so you get married.

Then you move in together and he casually mentions that he doesn't generally sleep at regular hours because he plays online poker between 1am and 7am each night. When he does sleep he sleep-yodels. And, and he hums. Like, all the time. Oh, and he sings Little Donkey all the time, even when it isn't Christmas.

Cleaver

carolt wrote: »

But some people do do that (the house bit I mean). Hence all the tales of BTL woe: "Oh, Inside Track said it was such a nice area and would rent for 2 grand a month, and instead it's a crack den and I've never had a tenant but the squatters who hang out here have cost me a fortune in repair bills!" etc etc ad infinitum. :rolleyes:

Indeed. And they are idiots too.

lostinrates

wageslave wrote: »

I didn't like being married and have no intention of ever doing it again. It suits some people, it didn't suit me.

But LIR that is the single best endorsement for marriage I have read on here.

Aww, thanks, amaing I said something...sensible. TBH, its very easy to be married to foundinrates. He's incredibly easy going, very indulgent and just a spendid chap.

TBH, I didn't see me getting married. I think it helps that we got married youngish: not much time to get set in our ways before hand.