Lost in the middle - getting organised and debt free

Marru

:hello:Honeybear and Fay!!! And thank you!!

I was really getting upset and grumpy this morning I got letter from my ex yesterday and he has finally agreed to the terms that I set for him to see DD. So he is sadly back in our lives. But it is very likely that he will mess with us again and due to the terms if this happens I can then stop him seeing DD. One hopes.

Other blow came this morning. I so proudly went to the council on Thursday to update my salary and child care costs and as a thank you they have sent me review forms to fill. That is a ridiculously thick booklet they want me to fill and they want to have proof of everything even stuff that they have got ages ago like my rent that has been unchanged for last 2.5 years. :mad: BF calmed me down and just told me to sit down and fill the flipping form. Haven't done it yet but will do even that I resist wasting my time on that when I have just given them all the P45s, payslips etc...

On the positive note three cupboards went into the dump today. I got them from freecycle and am positive that their practical life is now truly finished. And as BF brought me a sofa there is now a little bit more room for it. Still the books need to go and I was going to get started sorting them out but didn't get time. What I did manage to do was to clean and clip my piggies and then move my little desk into their room and that will be my sanctuary when I start doing my studies.

Still lots to sort out but getting there. Might log off now and stop for the day and carry on tomorrow.

jo1972

I'm here too :wave:

OH is out tonight so I have the laptop and get proper access, but usually I'm on the phone with a ridiculously small screen and an even more ridiculously small keypad which is such a faff to work, so I don't get to post on all the threads I want to. Plus as HB says, I get to speak to you elsewhere :rotfl:

Sorry to hear about your not so good news today hun, lets hope that they turn into positives xx

Pippilongstocking

Hello lovie I'm here as well again - good on tidy up - PAH to councils and silly forms

A quick question can you tell me how you did the online spreadsheet thing? I had a look at the thread but didnt find it (although I haven't looked properly).

It seemed to work quite well.......cheers

jo1972

fayjmck wrote: »

A quick question can you tell me how you did the online spreadsheet thing? I had a look at the thread but didnt find it (although I haven't looked properly).

It seemed to work quite well.......cheers

OooooooooohhhhhHHHhhh

Marru

fayjmck wrote: »

A quick question can you tell me how you did the online spreadsheet thing? I had a look at the thread but didnt find it (although I haven't looked properly).

It seemed to work quite well.......cheers

Hi Fay,

I went to www.editgrid.com and opened account. Then I imported spreadsheet from my laptop and kept editing it or I imported it again if I had edited the local version. You can choose the spreadsheet to be public but not for public to edit it.

Good luck

PS I can email you my spreadsheet if you PM me your email addy

Marru

I feel that I am still only chasing my tail. Only things done today are couple of loads of washing and tax return. The latter was a good thing as I should get almost £300.- back. That will go into my MB fund. I might then be able to start looking if there are any bets out there I can do with the money I have available.

Ex has already been a pain. He wanted to talk to DD over the phone and I had to cut the call short as he started to explain to DD how I don't want him to come to the house anymore and DD was getting confused. Of course now she had a reminder of her absent unreliable dad and also she knows that BF goes home on Sundays so she was really upset and a nightmare to get to bed this evening. If BF hadn't been here I would have probably had a drink. But on the other hand if he hadn't been here I would not have been able to leave DD in bed and sneak out to the shops to buy some so end result is that BF has gone home, I am sitting here, tired, thinking of all the things I need to do, not wanting to have a bath, not wanting to read anything, there is nothing in TV to watch and really can't be bothered to plough on with my to do list at the moment. Oh and I didn't get an interview for the latest job that I applied.

Perhaps I will watch BBC news channel for awhile with some herbal tea and then go to bed and see if I feel like reading the diet book that I came across when sorting through the book boxes. The title is interesting: Natural alternatives to Dieting; Why diets don't work and what you can do that does. In last 3 weeks I have lost only 1 pound but on the other hand 3cm from my waist (i.e. over an inch.)

When I set up to do my running training I thought I am going to find it as a chore but now I am really looking forward my next run - I can't wait! I really hope that running will stay as part of my life even after the Sport Relief run as I am gettig such a kick out of it.

honeybear_2

Marru, I'll sponsor you for Sport Relief, or make a donation to Sport Relief for your run, if you'd prefer?

*hugs* Look after yourself, hon

Marru

I am having such fun, I started with THIS

But my voice is more suited to THIS

And finishing off with THIS

Perhaps having THIS as encore

Ok I am greedy and will do THIS as well, which always makes me cry

Oops so you can guess that nothing useful is achieved here...better at least go and get some supper

Pippilongstocking

honeybear wrote: »

Marru, I'll sponsor you for Sport Relief, or make a donation to Sport Relief for your run, if you'd prefer?

*hugs* Look after yourself, hon

Me too"!!


Loved the songs - and thanks for the link and the spreadsheet

Hope you ex sorts himself out - do you think its why DD's a bit unsettled? (silly question I know) We have a phrase in this house - it might help you - it might not - we just shrug and say 'sometimes Daddy is a bit silly' insert several rolleyes type smiles.

You're doing great on the AF front!! Amazed by this running well done you.

Marru

Thanks Fay!

I have just come back from run number 6, that means 21 to go before the big event. Gettig rather addicted to it now I have to admit.

DD was so upset on Sunday when her dad called as reminded her of this absent person and as it was Sunday she knew that BF was going back to his home so she "lost" both of the men in her life. It was a nightmare to get her to sleep. She seems fine now. She is now at birthday party so I sneaked home to let Dog out and go for my run. Need to go shortly to get her.

Going for a snoop in AF thread before heading out again...

Oh I have a dream that I and BF could have a small holding and have pigs, sheep, chicken, ducks, polytunnel etc so that we could be as self sufficient as possible. He has deposit but as self employed no income to show, I have income but due to my debt struggles disastorous credit rating. Oh well. BF by the way has graduated from agricultural college so he would have the know how to do it and I know it is his dream as well. I have been thinking of Sophiesmum and how I should take lessons from her when it comes to preserving etc.