feeling deflated

webitha

me and HIM are seriously considering doing the deed :D
we both know what we want, we wrote down our perfect wedding, then showed each other, and they were neigh on identical lol, so thats a good start.

now ive never been to a wedding, let alone oranise one, so icame on here and some other sites to get inspiration,
but
everyone is going n about favours, chairs covers, sit down meals, sweetie tables,etc we can neither afford nor want (favours) any of that kind of stuff, but im feeling crap as everyone seems to go down that route, will our guests be expecting it??
so im feeling deflated at the whole thing even before i start, and thinking sod it an not bother,

someone please tell me they are not doing all the bumpf

frannyann

Hi!
Its your wedding, you have it the way you want it!!
We started off small and by being MSE have been able to add thing like favours, with the savings we have made. Budget still is 'small' at £3500 for everything!
All a wedding needs is you and your hubby to be, anything else is just 'extras'. Read some more and you will see quite a few people are keeping it small!

jenhug

you are having the wedding for you are your partner. No one else!

lindaatno9

You don't have to have favours. They can get left on the table or not even noticed if you don't provide them.
You don't have to have chair covers. You don't have to have a sit down meal, how about a bar-b or a hog roast?
You don't have to have a sweetie table.

stef240377

We did not have a budget when we started planning but knew in our heads that we wanted a small intimate ceremony as we do not like being centre of attention.

In total it has cost us around 3grand and that includes sit down meal, evening disco with buffet, real flowers and 3 tier cake, favours and gifts for all those who have been involved. OH's highland wear worked out quite expensive as they are only on hire where as my dress i have forever. My dress cost £250, BM'S dresses £65 and highland wear was £109 per outfit!

frannyann

Am not having a sweetie table BTW! Only having chair covers cos its included in the package price and finally only did favours as bought the stuff in a sale and it cost £1 a head for 30! As we'd saved £500 on the venue by haggling thought we'd push the boat on on the favours LOL

Mme.Hibou

I'm not.

We're having a civil ceremony in an old Manor house, I'll be wearing a wedding dress and am having one bridesmaid (my sis) because she's my only sister and that's what sisters do, she won't actually have to do anything.
We're not having a sit down meal, favours and the invites aren't going to be matching the flowers which won't match the cake which won't match the napkins.
We're not having a disco, we're inviting around 40/50 guests and 10 of those will be children (not inc. babies) We're treating it as a big family party, we want to spend time with our families and a few selected friends.

Our invites aren't out (we get married in 81 days) I've not been planning this for the last 3 years.

This of course is how I want my perfect day to be - although if I'm being honest all I want is that bit of paper telling me I've now become Mrs H. I HOPE this is what every other bride is striving towards, and that it doesn't really matter how you do it, it's the fact it's how you want it.

I've been to some gorgeous weddings where no expense has been spared (or at least it looks like that) where everyone has had an amazing time, I just haven't got the time/patience to organise all that.

paulies_nixie

decided no favours as such
no chair covers
no sweetie table.

We're having a mad theme - going all medieval, so not even bridesmaids, maid of honour or best man. No speaches - Nowt.
All the ladies get to be a princess for the day especially me and all the uber tradtional stuff is missed out.

So in short - have what the hell you want , who said there were rules about these things When I first came on here I was like "What is a chair cover and why would I need one" I was in panic mode on all the things I didnt know, but for my wedding I knew what was important - chair covers dont make it in the top 50

If you dont want it, dont have it - your day after all

Nixie
x

jinky67

webitha wrote: »

me and HIM are seriously considering doing the deed :D
we both know what we want, we wrote down our perfect wedding, then showed each other, and they were neigh on identical lol, so thats a good start.

now ive never been to a wedding, let alone oranise one, so icame on here and some other sites to get inspiration,
but
everyone is going n about favours, chairs covers, sit down meals, sweetie tables,etc we can neither afford nor want (favours) any of that kind of stuff, but im feeling crap as everyone seems to go down that route, will our guests be expecting it??
so im feeling deflated at the whole thing even before i start, and thinking sod it an not bother,

someone please tell me they are not doing all the bumpf

First off....you better invite us:D:j

secondly WE will be having none of that stuff either:D
I told him at the weekend we are not even having a first dance......he said "God I wont be able to invite anyone will I? they will all find out how mad you are":rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

the day is all about YOU and HIM, stuff what anyone else thinks:cool:

webitha

you are invited jinks, just like we will be at yours and the hen night, so i need details madam, as we not spoke in aaaaaaages

jinky67

webitha wrote: »

you are invited jinks, just like we will be at yours and the hen night, so i need details madam, as we not spoke in aaaaaaages

I dont do hen nights either:rotfl:

and we still have not seriously talked about it or anything, but dont worry when we do, you will know:D:T