i don't know what to do - marriage over :(

celt68

Hi Tina
I totally understand how you are feeling
thinking of you
celt68 xxx

nextyeartina

after playing it cool with the ex yesterday, i blew it this morning :mad:. i didn't beg or cry, just asked did we have a future. he's now saying he needs time on his own for a bit then we can work on sorting us out. i don't know, i just feel so confused .

tina xxx

mikeouk

nextyeartina wrote: »

after playing it cool with the ex yesterday, i blew it this morning :mad:. i didn't beg or cry, just asked did we have a future. he's now saying he needs time on his own for a bit then we can work on sorting us out. i don't know, i just feel so confused .

tina xxx

you fell off the wagon!!! so what? get back on, it doesnt make you weak, your just scared/angry/sad, and a little voice in your head says "i want him back" then it says "no i dont it will never work". My only advice would be to back off now, give him the space and time he says he needs. If he comes back then you need to go to relationship counciling and set the ground rules down before you jump back in. hes obviously living else where, so tell him to stop there so you can start again like its a new relationship. If he doesnt come back then just try to move on the best you can. Nothing ever stays the same in life, we're all on a journey but we have forward gear and no reverse, so theres no point trying to back up, its impossible.

mikeouk

consultant31 wrote: »

He sounds like a typical man

wow!!! isnt that sexist? :rolleyes:

Paparika

As said get back on the waggon, its his feelings he has to deal with leave him alone..

you should be looking after yourself, so you can look after the children.

pamper yourself, get the girls round, wine chocolates and a comedy dvd..

nextyeartina

feeling pretty carp yesterday and today. can't seem to pull myself together. picked sick note up & doc signed me off for 2 weeks :eek:.

tina xxx

Primmer

Hi hun, just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you. You are bound to have bad days but the trick is to try and do things to keep yourself busy - how about re-arranging things in the house or painting a room a different colour?
Take care - big hugs!

esmf73

Just wanted to say stick with it - and when he wants to come back next time you might find that you've moved on and don't want him back. Do what feels right when it feels right. Look after yourself for the childrens sake and, if you can, do what a friend of mine has done. Don't ever be nasty about the father. Her OH has been a TRUE SH*@ but she's never told the children what she feels about it and I admire her soooooo much for this.

SHe has the best behaved girls though xxxx BEST OF LUCK xxxxx

consultant31

mikeouk wrote: »

wow!!! isnt that sexist? :rolleyes:

Probably, but speaking as I find .......and as OP finds too apparently, (post 9)

shellsuit

PasturesNew wrote: »

Don't go to the shops for milk etc.

How dull.

Get some boots on and a coat and get out to somewhere where you can see the leaves changing colour and kick your feet through the leaves.

Sit on a bench and watch the world go by.

Get yourself something to eat that you spot (could be anything from a bag of chips to a Greggs pasty, or even a country pub lunch) ... but do something different and on your own today. Marvel at the world and the colours as if you've never seen them before.

It's all about "him" - where's "you"?

That has got to be one of the nicest, most thoughtful posts I've seen on MSE for a long long time! :T xx

Tina, only you can decide what you want, but make sure what you decide IS what you want, and not what you think you should do.

Take care xxx